To ask the hardest thing you have ever been through

I am so sorry xxx

This time last year I fell over my own feet broke my shoulder, tore ligaments in my elbow and wrist, destroyed the cartilige in my thumb, and permanently disabled myself.

Before falling I never really thought about broken shoulders, just thought it'd be like other broken bones, which I've had. How wrong was I.

The pain was off the scale for months. Morphine barely touched it. I had to sleep sitting up for 4 months. My arm was completely immobilised for 2 months and partially for another one. Then I've had intensive physiotherapy to try and teach the muscles how to work again. I still have pain everyday and have so far only gained 50% use back.

And they haven't even done the surgeries to repair the ligaments yet.

Just a hug 🥰 💙

Some of these are so tough.

You must be beyond bereft.

Gosh my heart goes out to all the pp. Such heartbreaking stories.

My divorce was pretty awful, and took years to recover from, even though I knew we weren't suited. It's the grief of what could have been.

I slipped three discs in my neck resulting in 18 months of pain and partial arm paralysis. The op to repair them was so bad, I was awake through out. I've dreaded going back to using a commode and laying on a bed all day in my 30s. It's one of my great fears.

I am so sorry to all of you who have suffered such terrible losses. 💐

Mine is severe PND after dd1's birth. Later diagnosed with PTSD as well. Consider myself very lucky to still be alive but it pales into insignificance against so many of these traumas.

No words 🌺 💙

I remember going through a pretty horrendous time and asking myself: "how do other people cope?" Then I came across a book by Martin Gilbert entitled 'The Boys.' It's the true story of the boys and girls who survived the Holocaust and were brought to England to live after the war. It's extremely inspiring because it's a series of interviews with the now adult survivors and none of them really talk about the horrors they experienced in the concentration camps, they concentrate on what they've achieved in their adult lives as this they saw as their 'revenge' against Nazi Germany. It really changed by perspective on the situation I was dealing with.

My dad’s sudden death of a heart attack aged 63. My husband having a mental health crisis and being sectioned whilst I was pregnant with our second baby.

My best friend dying suddenly and unexpectedly when she was 7.

Living life without a mother. She died when I was 14 months old. It's not a direct gut wrench grief like other PPs have suffered but it has coloured and affected my whole life and life choices.

The death of my child, and having to go home and break the news to her siblings that she didn't make it.

My sister collapsed and died in front of me, there will forever be a before that moment and an after. Sadly the shock was too much for my elderly father and he died 2 weeks later. We hadn't even had my sisters funeral. But we got through it, but the hardest time I have ever had. Nothing will be as awful. Everyone has had trauma and I try to be kind. Big hugs to all.

A close friend dying of cancer aged only 25, it was brutal.

To all of you who have has such loss, particularly the loss of your precious children and babies, my heart so goes out to you.

That sounds so so tough :(

Supporting DD1 through a life threatening diagnosis of anorexia when she was 16. At her worst she went 5 days without eating, collapsed, was hospitalised, sectioned and tube fed. The night before she was sectioned I was sitting by her hospital bed holding her hand (because of her abrupt physical decline she was on a paediatric ward in our local hospital and I was allowed to stay with her), her heart monitor kept going off and I could see no hope at all. Part of me wished for neither of us to wake up. Though in reality even that thought gave me no peace as I had 2 younger DC at home who also needed me.

She is 23 now, in established recovery and doing a PGCE. We are so thankful, but those times will forever haunt me.

Having to TFMR my little girl who was incompatible with life. Tried to fall pregnant for two years before I got pregnant with her. Genuinely nearly killed me.
Now 30 weeks pregnant with my little boy and finding joy in life again 🤍🤍

Holding my son while he died at 6 months old. And the entire 6 months of his life; seeing him on ECMO with an open chest after open heart surgery, watching him fight every day. Watching him crash and end up on a vent.

Goodness this heartbreak is unimaginable....so so sorry

Losing my mum 16 years ago. Just as painful today as it was back then.

My daughter's heart condition diagnosis and the first few months of her life. Incredibly challenging.

The death of my sister when we were both teenagers and watching my parents fall apart. Grief is a bitch.

So many sad stories on here.

For me, it's living with my dad who was an alcoholic.

My dad having a cardiac arrest at 62, due to being in unknown stage 4 heart failure, being defibrillated and brought back but in a vegetative state. All scans showed his brain wasn't damaged but clinically he wasn't responding. Waited for 2 weeks and he didn't show any progress (sadly even if he did his heart was so sick he wouldn't have lasted a year). Being his only daughter and watching him take his last breaths all on my own at 35 is something I will never get over. Leaving his body in the hospital knowing I'd never touch his skin or hold his hand again haunts me.

1. Missed miscarriage with 1st pregnancy (triplets) at 12wk scan the day before our wedding (passed 2 of the embryos on the morning of the wedding 😔) so sadly was a bittersweet day.

2. My dad dying after a year of very poor physical and mental health (which i'm certain was altzeimers) 😢

3. My best friend of 10yrs suddenly ghosting me without any obvious explanation (although I regret not making more effort to take responsibility to make amends)

4. My 2nd miscarriage, which happened before 2nd child MMC at 9wks, but much less traumatic than the first, mainly as it had happened earlier on.