To ask the hardest thing you have ever been through

My husband being diagnosed with a rare cancer aged 35, 5 months after our wedding and when our baby was a year old (& realising he had the cancer on our wedding day) . We’d spent the previous few years going through infertility and IVF and I thought that was the hardest thing at the time. It’s changed us forever.
I still get sad when friends have weddings, have children when they want ,with no worries about the future. A friend always talks about doing things with her children as teenagers (they’re preschool age) and we can’t think that far ahead. I’m constantly terrified.

We did 5 cycles of IVF to have our son, I thought that was pretty bad until we had two further IVF cycles and both baby boys died at 23 weeks just over a year apart. Completely broke me. Thankfully EMDR trauma therapy has helped me get my life back.

Everyone deals with trauma and pain differently - I don’t judge. Something minor may seem massive to someone and vice versa.

So sorry to read about your DD XX

I'm so so sorry for everyone's losses.

My hardest time was when my husband and I split up and my dad died very shortly after, during the pandemic. Grieving my dad (who had Alzheimer's), whilst trying to look after 2 very young children mostly alone, whilst dealing with the breakdown of my marriage, whilst having restrictions on our freedom, has definitely had lasting effects on me.

How awful! I’m so very sorry xx

Cancer with 4 children under the age of 10, broke my heart trying to keep things normal from them and protecting them from knowing about my full symptoms. I still cry now years later thinking how awful it was despite counselling etc .

So much heartbreak here.
For me finally revealing childhood sexual abuse to my husband of 20+ years last week - the deep, animal noises coming out of me were terrifying .
My dad (not the abuser) taking his own life just as I started to earn and could visit him - he lived abroad.
My stroke at 44. Sheer bloody mindedness gets me through.

But these things are surmountable and I shall keep going.

My beautiful boy developed schizoaffective disorder, then some years later had severe brain damage from a fall. I always had him in my mind, worrying, making arrangements for help for him, visiting with him, etc. etc. and then one day he just died. I will never be the same. 7 years from the fall to the day he died. I can easily understand how you must feel.

My lovely sister died aged 32 last year after a short diagnosis of cancer. The day after she died, we found out my mum has an aggressive form of cancer and is currently going through chemo. I miss my sister so much and am utterly terrified of losing my mum the same way.

My ex who I worked with beat me up and then made me get out the car in a abandoned construction site to ask if we were going to stay together

suicide. Nothing prepares you for that.

Juggling health anixety and GAD with parenting. I feel like I am constantly failing my children because I’m too anxious to take them places by myself so everything gets done on a weekend.

Health anxiety makes me really irritable and snappy and makes me feel like a totally shit parent when I get annoyed at DC just because I’m having some sort of symptom I’m worried about. I hate myself for it and have been waiting more than 20 weeks for therapy now.

Oh my god so many horrendous stories on here. I’m so sorry xx

I watched my sibling die in an accident when I was 8, I was the only one there and the guilt has followed me all through my life. It ripped my parents apart - my father became an alcoholic and my mother married an abuser, one awful event triggered so much more sadness.

Oh my god 💔💔 Devastating!

I’m so sorry xx

I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope things have improved now.

I went through the same with my DD3 when she was also a teenager. It's very scary, and you feel so powerless. She's 22 now. Still has therapy and takes antidepressants but does seem to be in a better place, all fingers crossed.

Sibling died young in an accident. The shock and aftermath was traumatic and devastating. Your own life moves on eventually, but that trauma never leaves you. Sending love to all.

Watching my 9 year old son go through 7 and half hour brain surgery, daily radiotherapy for 6 weeks and 4 months of high dose chemotherapy and 2 stem cell transplants.

And then he died aged 10, 364 days after his diagnosis.

I'm so so sorry 😞 💐

Being diagnosed with cancer.

When the Dr told me I asked if they could check they had the right patient. They did. Then I said “I can’t have cancer I have three children, they’re only 5,7 and 9.

Fortunately if all goes well with my treatment I should come out the other side. .

I've gone through parents divorce as a child, being abandoned by my father as a child, working in the sex industry and kidnap attempt by a pimp in a foreign country. These things were not nice but were peanuts compared to a clinical depression I went through ten years ago. Going through a clinical depression is the worst experience ever. After one year I recovered and I just pray I don't have to go through that again.

The suicide of the love of my life. 30 years later I still miss him every day.

Watching my father pass away. It is the hardest part of life witnessing death of a loved one, but I was very thankful that I was able to be there along with my mother and sister as he passed away.

Abortion, which I've never got over.

Watching a parent die from cancer (literally).

💐devastating x