To ask the hardest thing you have ever been through

Being with my family as my darling mother died of Mesothelioma in 2011, I honestly thought that it was the worst time of my life, but no! Sitting with my father in 2022 holding his hand as he died of the same awful disease!

Just unimaginable pain! Devastating. 💔💔
So sorry xx

Gosh, that's alot so sorry....I had to take my newborn to my dad's funeral too as he died 3wks after she was born, so know all the postnatal hormones and grief don't mix well.

It's so sad your mum took her own life when she had so much to live for :(

Do you not think this is what mumsnet is about? Supporting others in heartbreaking times.

Also no shame on the OP shes just asked a very simple question.

I am so sorry to all of you who have been through such awful times. Puts my worries into perspective.

My Son getting encephalitis when he was three weeks old and being told to prepare for the worse, he’s now 19 and an amazing son and human. Getting breast cancer when my youngest daughter was 6 months old and not thinking I’d see her start school, we just had 4 of her friends sleepover for her 13th birthday this weekend. When I think back to where I was then compared to now I feel so blessed to have what I have ❤️

I can almost feel the pain in these posts and my heart goes out to everyone I have decided not to list the many things that have given me a diagnosis of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as re-visiting it all and trying to work out which was the worst would be counter-productive for me. Instead I try to hope that the things I have been through have made me more understanding of others' suffering

This one made me gasp. I think it needs saying that you don’t have anything to be ashamed of. You were a child, and you didn’t get yourself pregnant, did you!

Your parents should be the ones ashamed of the way they treated you. Even if they truly believed the adoption was the best thing for you both, you needed unconditional love and support at such a difficult time and I’m so sorry it wasn’t there for you.

I wish I could give your 15-year-old self a hug. Having a baby is huge at any age, but at 15? 💔 I hope life had a lot more love in store for you and your son than you received back then.

No words ❤️

I have no words 😢 💔 so very sorry

Almost losing my son when he was born and then losing my brother to suicide almost a year later. I've still not recovered from those events and I'm not sure I ever will.

Some of these stories are just heartbreaking. Sending strength to all. xx

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This is awful to hear. Do you have no extended family at all?

Looking after my lovely big brother who received a shock cancer diagnosis out of the blue, and died 9 weeks later aged just 55. Having to be strong for our father, collecting the 'just in case' emergency prescription (I think it was the pitying looks I got at the pharmacy), asking him what he wanted at his funeral, cleaning him up after accidents, running myself ragged trying to do any little things that might give him momentary pleasure...I was so glad I was able to do this for him but it's changed me on a fundamental level.
I hope he knew how much I loved him.

So sorry your wedding day got ruined by trauma too, even more so :(

Infertility. Had 3 rounds of IVF and not even managed a transfer. Round #4 in March. Within that time 5/6 of my closest friends have given birth, one of them twice, and my DSDs Mum (DHs ex wife) has given her two siblings. I feel useless, pointless, sometimes actively suicidal,
and the faint hope of a baby one day is all I’m clinging on to.

I’m currently going through the hardest time in my life, right now!

My 21 year old daughter dropped dead in November 2024, I found her, her 23 year old sister and I had to perform CPR until the Paramedics arrived. She could not be saved.
Organising her funeral.
Burying her.
Walking past her bedroom door multiple times a day.
I feel like I’m in a nightmare than I need to wake up from.

The death of my DD 5 years ago. She died suddenly and unexpectedly during labour. She was our first born and only girl and it’s still a real struggle day to day.

Cardiac arrests, husband betrayal with my friend, my tiny newborn in PICU with a heart that kept trying to stop for no reason, and my mum’s sudden death in her sleep. All in one year, pretty much.

Not being able to have a child and the harsh realisation that I will die alone without a single family member in the world.

Really moved by you breaking the cycle 💛

My mum who I was very close to took her own life in a violent and upsetting way back in November of 2024, a week before I was due to give birth to my daughter, and she was meant to be one of my birthing partners. It was very sudden and she had no previous mental health issues as far as we all knew. I had to then bring my 1 week old baby to her funeral. I wad then made redundant a month later, and I’m the main provider in the house. So all in all, a horrific couple of months.

No words 😞❤️

Parents divorced
My dad then died of cancer when I was 12
Mum was an addict
We were super poor, probably neglected and emotionally abused
Bullied at school
Sexually assaulted twice
I did have fertility struggles but nothing major
One of my children has a learning delay and I’ve very little support
I seem to cope quite well with things these days though, I don’t know if my emotions even work properly actually.

Im so sorry to hear of all these really sad stories xxx

When my daughter died - she was 27 and from diagnosis to her death was seven and a half weeks, and she was in an induced coma so we couldn't even say a proper goodbye.