To ask the hardest thing you have ever been through

Getting humiliated in another way I front of my whole class age 10, haunts me to this day

@HelloDaisy thank you for your kind comments.

I really do feel lucky despite everything that happened!

When I met DH something just clicked. I wanted to be better for US, not just for me. I had more to lose than ever!

You're so right about good people and I like to think that the experiences gave me strength and resilience!

How wonderful that you finally met your husband and have dealt with your trauma. We all need good people in our lives that hold us up and help us to deal with past life.

Don't feel guilty, I would hate for my DD to feel guilty and I'm sure your mum wouldn't want that for you.

You were young, you didn't do it on purpose and you suffered but you found your way through and that's really brave.

I bet she is just grateful all the time that you are where you are now. You would do the same for your own child.

Honestly, I'm keeping the link to this thread and reposting for anyone complaining about postmen knocking too loud and parcels going missing. My thoughts are with you all!

Just to add, I’ve read every story on this thread. My heart goes out. You really never know what people are going through ❤️

Some of these story really put ‘problems’ into perspective! Im so sorry to hear them!

The hardest thing I’ve ever been through was a very violent rape at 22. It was a fairly new relationship and I said ‘no’ to sex when he came to bed after he’d been out with his friends. It was pretty brutal and impacted every aspect of my life for a long time. His two ‘friends’ were asleep on the couch downstairs and heard my screams and didn’t help. I looked them right in the eye as I left the house. I never went back. I never reported it! I was semi naked in his bed, so you can imagine trying to prove it. For years, until I moved away, I would bump into the rapist and his two friends, all of the time.

I then stumbled into a relationship with, who I thought was the polar opposite of my ex. I was with him ten years only for him to cheat on me with someone we both worked with. I had to face gossip and rumours everyday in work. Then lots of other things came out like multiple affairs, all with work colleagues and also prostitutes. This one felt even worse than the rape because at least the rapist didn’t try to make out that he was a lovely guy! I didn’t miss a day in work and would like to think I handled it with grace whilst I watched him spiral! He still tries to reach out occasionally, 12 years later!

Eventually, I met my DH. He is the most amazing human. He inspired me to seek help and get rid of some demons. I like to think that it’s given me resilience and I do it all over again, knowing that I’d meet him at the end of it.

My gran used to say, everything will be ok in the end and if it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.

Sat breastfeeding my 48 hour old baby and my phone pinged with a message from DH who was upstairs at the time telling me he was sorry for what he was about to do.
He survived but nothing has been the same since, it was traumatic and I don't think I will ever get over that day or days that followed.

That sounds so so scary! Glad they are doing well now xx

My husband suffered with Lewy Bodies Dementia and later developed Parkinsons. I looked after him at home, through the pandemic and beyond. He died at home. Fortunately it wasn't as difficult as a previous poster as he kept his lovely personality and sense of humour, but he was incontinent for a couple of years and became immobile. It was just so difficult to see my once active, bright and healthy husband deteriorate before my eyes. We had been together for over fifty years and I was finding it exhausting and emotionally draining as I was nearing seventy at the time.

I'm so sorry for you too.

My birth mum was a heroin addict and I was born 3 months prematurely, and weaned off heroin then adopted by my wonderful adoptive parents who have given me everything. I've been very fortunate in that respect.

But life has been hard health-wise over the past decade after I had a head injury and post concussion syndrome before being injured by off label psychotropic drugs that gave me a permanent neurological involuntary movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia.

I sometimes wish there was legal euthanasia too. Sending you huge hugs. Life is horrid and difficult for so many of us 😪

Losing my great grandmother when I was 8, the first bereavement I'd experienced, being bullied to the point of suicidal ideation and self harm in secondary school, and having a very early miscarriage at the end of 2022. That still makes me cry now even though I went on to have a reasonably healthy pregnancy and DS is six months old now, (the kidney infection I had in my pregnancy hurt more than where I had my c section!)

Absolutely heartbreaking to read of the people who've lost their babies.🥺 💐

I was abused also and had addict parents - they are still alive but I am nc
I have been where you are - I can’t say anything to you really other than sending you a big hug as I know how it feels 💔 it was my sister that died in my case (overdose)

Oh and I also lived in a homeless shelter for three months when I was younger

Sexual abuse as a child.
Rape as an adult.
One parent abandoning me.
My other parent killing themselves

Good grief, you never know what people are going through. Some of these are heartbreaking.

Seems like I have been given so much mercy and goodness by God....also

@NoraLuka this is almost exactly the same as what I would have written, except it's my DD1. Sending hugs and strength.

This thread is so heartbreaking. Sending love and healing to all 💐

Losing my 11month old grandson to silent pneumonia and currently watching my husband die from lung cancer

My lovely mum getting leukaemia when I was 18, I was so scared I was going to lose her, she was in hospital for months on end. It was awful watching her suffer. She had a bone marrow transplant and has been in remission since.

Going through IVF to conceive our miracle baby. Our daughter arrived 3 months early by emergency c-section and died 3 days later, I don't think I will ever be able to get over it. My amazing mum has been with me every step of the way to support me through such unimaginable trauma.

Falling pregnant after 11 years with our miracle baby then my mum died 7 weeks after she was born. I had PND too. I still don’t feel I grieved properly as I had to keep going for my daughter

The premie NICU experience (I know it could be so much worse, my heart goes out to others on this thread with worse), but it was horrific to suddenly have all the tubes, things being so rollercoaster with ups and huge downs, not knowing if you would arrive in the morning to more tubes and failing body issues, or just stability. Going home without our baby for weeks. Then with the second baby had IGUR and placental insufficiency, stopped growing almost completely at 28 weeks, and we were told there was a 100% probability of a second NICU baby. I was utterly crushed, and that third trimester was the hardest thing i've ever done. Pretending to stay positive while feeling like I was drowning on the inside was just soul crushing. Both children are toddlers/school age and great now, but those were tough times.

💔

In a humane society, you wouldn't have been treated so terribly. I'm so very, very sorry that your parents abused you so badly. I hope that you are surrounded by good and loving friends now.

Life.

I've been wishing it was all over since i was 20. I had terrible parents and I had nothing but abuse in my life

I wish euthanasia was more freely available .

I was just talking to a man who had a mother who was a heroin addict. He said the same thing. That he would like to do euthanasia but it's hard to get approved for it.

In a humane society , euthanasia would be more available.