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To find ASMR really disgusting

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TemporaryPosition · 02/02/2025 20:04

And find it really off-putting when otherwise interesting and entertaining youtube videos are tagged with this. Makes me not want to watch/listen to them.

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ImthatBoleyngirl · 03/02/2025 21:33

If you don't experience ASMR tingles then you won't get it. I have to admit though, most of the "ASMR" videos out now are very annoying and not what I would call ASMR. I've been watching them for about 14 years now (back when most people hadn't heard of it) because they help me sleep.

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TemporaryPosition · 03/02/2025 21:26

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:37

You've started a really odd thread about an optional thing that you don't have to watch and you're very defensive when anyone can't understand your stance....

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Where am I defensive?

If you read my posts you'd notice that the ASMR feature is incidental and not the prime focus or the USP of the content I'm watching. They've just got good mics, the fact that ASMR is tagged is off-putting

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Titsywoo · 03/02/2025 21:25

locomotive98 · 02/02/2025 21:04

In my experience, anything designed with ASMR in mind doesn't really work - you need to encounter it unexpectedly. For me it can be aural or visual, and I first became aware of it as a child, although it didn't have a name then and I assumed it only happened to me. We were watching a film and there was a really long sequence of someone cracking a safe - the small movements and sounds triggered it. The best one ever was when I was on a train next to someone reading a document in braille. Music can do it as well - improvised jazz, or anything percussive is very powerful for me.

I agree with the OP though, and hate that it has become something slightly pervy in some contexts.

Yes this is true. I get some relaxation from certain videos but real life ASMR is the properly relaxing stuff. You can't understand it unless you experience it and not everyone does!

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TemporaryPosition · 03/02/2025 21:23

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 18:43

So you find it icky that people might find a hair styling video relaxing after a stressful day?
I find your repulsion to this really weird.

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I watch hair styling vids to when I'm chilling out. That's not ASMR though. That's something else.

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Coconutter24 · 03/02/2025 20:54

The videos of a woman putting makeup on or pretending to put makeup on and just making disgusting sounds 🤢🤮🤮

Tallyrand · 03/02/2025 20:47

I love watching the ASMR hair cuts or walks in the rain.

There's also a very good YouTube channel called the French Whisperer who talks about History in an amazing accent, it's so peaceful.

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:39

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 03/02/2025 18:19

Hadn’t heard of this until this post.

just watched/listed & it really creeped me out! Awful !

What's so awful about people finding something relaxing?

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:37

TemporaryPosition · 03/02/2025 15:19

The same reason you seem to be affected by my disgust

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You've started a really odd thread about an optional thing that you don't have to watch and you're very defensive when anyone can't understand your stance....

PeachyPeachTrees · 03/02/2025 20:35

I love ASMR. I've always had it but only realised recently that not everyone experiences it. It feels tingly and wonderful. But it can't be forced on to me. I don't like long nails taping on a beauty product or a video whispered for no reason. Just act normally please or I'll scroll past!

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:30

BatchCookBabe · 02/02/2025 22:30

From what I can see, it's a load of bollocks. Just weird and annoying soft and whispery sounds? Like why?! Confused

Because people like different things.

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:28

Doggymummar · 02/02/2025 21:54

Agree. I used to be able to orgasm from ASMRr. I've not tried for a year or two. But I avoid it for that reason

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WTF......I'm jealous that anyone could orgasm that easily.
What type of ASMR were you watching??

Blueberrymuffin8 · 03/02/2025 20:26

It triggers me beyond belief!The worst is to come across it wearing headphones and all you can hear are the worst mouth noises. Just thinking about it makes me feel crazy! Arghhhhh!!

Preoo · 03/02/2025 20:01

I love asmr, so relaxing and just calms me down so much

Rhaenys · 03/02/2025 20:00

Agix · 03/02/2025 07:35

I hate ASMR videos. I find they cause an overwhelming and unpleasant feeling. However I enjoy the ASMR type tingles I get, but seem to get them from regular sounds - such as songs, usually female singing voices.

I believe that’s called frisson.

Pussycat22 · 03/02/2025 19:59

No, no idea. What is ASMR please

Rhaenys · 03/02/2025 19:55

I don’t enjoy the talking ones, but love the scratching and tapping ones. They’ve even provided me with headache relief in the past. I was amazed!

Kona84 · 03/02/2025 19:53

I hate it too.
i was watching a bread making thing the other day - wasn’t titles asmr but every element was over the top with noise. I just wanted to learn how to make sour dough

Turkeyneck101 · 03/02/2025 19:51

I absolutely hate long nails tapping on boxes or whatever. I hate long painted nails anyway but the way influencers tap them around and get so affected when describing something/anything when they have these talons just gives the total ick! 😩

Thisismynewname23 · 03/02/2025 19:36

DeffoNeedANameChange · 02/02/2025 20:29

Some people have gorgeous whisper voices - I can listen to that no problem. But anything to do with nails or eating - bleurgh.

That said, I can listen to animals eating for hours. Do you think there's much of a market for videos of horses munching hay? Maybe mine could finally start paying their own vet bills......

This! I can watch my horse with hay/apples or my dog eating a carrot munch munch munch… adorable so relaxing, husband sat next to me today with his lunch I had to put the tv on to drown him out 😆

qazxc · 03/02/2025 19:08

Asmr has massively helped me with my anxiety and being able to get to sleep. It's probably.hard to understand as it doesn't work for everyone but I feel like tingly relaxing feelings down my spine and around my scalp. It's like it gives my brain a massage. It may be placebo but it has really helped.me and allowed me to lower my meds intake which is a big plus.
I mostly enjoy videos that serve a dual purpose like book recommendations videos for example. I haven't noticed any suggestive or sexual videos, I am probably not being fed them by the algorithm.

DeedsNotDiddums · 03/02/2025 19:00

The good news is that they are tagged, so you don't need to watch them!

Garlicworth · 03/02/2025 18:55

WhiteLily1 · 03/02/2025 18:50

But that’s not what asmr is. It’s a bit like saying physiotherpy is sexual. Some may find it so but that’s not what’s it’s about.

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Yeah, you're agreeing with me. Cheers.

WhiteLily1 · 03/02/2025 18:50

Garlicworth · 03/02/2025 15:47

It definitely is for some people. They express this in their comments. As PPs have said, there is nothing that someone hasn't got a fetish for. A lot of people men seem unable to experience a pleasant sensation without linking it to sex.

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But that’s not what asmr is. It’s a bit like saying physiotherpy is sexual. Some may find it so but that’s not what’s it’s about.

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 18:46

Mirabai · 02/02/2025 21:35

Fake fucking role play beautician? With weird whispery voices? What is wrong with people?

Jeez...calm down....nobody is going to make you watch them if you don't want to 😂

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 18:43

TemporaryPosition · 02/02/2025 20:49

I can't help finding it icky that people listen to certain things, not for the content but for the physical sensations it induces.

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So you find it icky that people might find a hair styling video relaxing after a stressful day?
I find your repulsion to this really weird.