Found out at 12 week scan we lost our baby

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Verytiredmumofone · 02/02/2025 15:24

I'm looking for some support and advice from any other mums (or dads) that have been through something similar.

We had our 12 week scan Friday and were utterly shocked and devastated to find out that our baby had stopped growing at just 6-7 weeks. My body continued to grow the placenta and still thought it was pregnant, hence the strong pregnancy symptoms (nausea, no bleeding, sore boobs little bump etc.) Now I have to go back to hospital Tuesday for surgery to remove it all under general anesthetic. It's the second miscarriage we have had after having our daughter 2 years ago.

How on earth do you get over something like this and when will I stop feeling so upset and hopeless?
I always assumed that if something was wrong, I would have bled.

Has anyone experienced this?

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ThelastRolo20 · 02/02/2025 15:30

@Verytiredmumofone I'm so sorry - I had this in October 2023, went to a 12 week scan to discover baby stopped growing around 9/10 weeks. I'd had no bleeding or anything to suggest anything was wrong. It was a horrible shock. I had a natural miscarriage and then unfortunately had another missed miscarriage in January by 2024 which was resolved with surgery.

I got pregnant again in April last year and currently have my 4 week old sleeping on me. I'm still recovering emotionally from last year, but there is often light at the end of the tunnel x

febmayjune87 · 02/02/2025 15:28

I'm so sorry. It's really hard especially when you still feel pregnant

Only time will help, but it's important to let yourself grieve.

Suzuki76 · 02/02/2025 15:26

It's really common unfortunately OP, known as a "missed miscarriage". I have a couple of friends who had one but for both of them the next pregnancy worked out. Look after yourself x

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