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To think kids shouldn't wear bikinis?

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cinnamonswirl99 · 02/02/2025 11:23

I'm just browsing the kids swimwear range on the John Lewis app, and keep coming across bikinis for little girls.
I don't know, am I weird for thinking this isn't right.
If I had a daughter, I wouldn't want her to wear something like that at such a young age.

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AngelinaFibres · 02/02/2025 20:27

BlueSilverCats · 02/02/2025 18:13

@chargeitup these start at 12 months old! They don't even cover a nappy ffs.

Definitely wouldn't put a small girl in one of those

SALaw · 02/02/2025 20:25

Agreed. My daughter was always in rash vests on holiday, like my son. Kids' skin is so precious so I always covered them up as much as possible.

AngelinaFibres · 02/02/2025 20:24

KimberleyClark · 02/02/2025 11:27

I wore a bikini from age 6 but it was definitely a child’s bikini, the bottom had a little skirt and the top was not bra shaped, more like a short vest.

I had one too in 1970 when I was 5. It was terry towelling in green , black and white horizontal stripes. The bottoms were big pants and the top was a short, fitted tank top. Some things( my dad's fondness for teeny tiny speedos) have not aged well in photos but I've never thought my small child bikini was sexual or inappropriate. I can see why people would want more skin coverage now for sun safety. Definitely wasn't a thing in 1970s Wales.

Alifemoreordinary123 · 02/02/2025 20:22

I have an 8 year old for context and find binkinis for young girls distasteful. It reminds me too much an underwear - can’t really put my finger on it but it gives me the ick. My daughter has never asked or been offered the option to wear one. Of the 15 in her class, at least 8 are bikini only and have three or more of them.

OCDmama · 02/02/2025 20:22

Depends on the style.

For girls/women with longer bodies it's easier to wear a bikini, otherwise even when wearing a 'long' branded one you can be hunched over (and they're pretty ugly). I'm not even sure you can get long ones for kids.

And tankinis are pure shite. If you can get one long enough it just flaps around.

Printedword · 02/02/2025 20:20

SwingTheMonkey · 02/02/2025 19:55

What an incredibly bizarre attitude. There is nothing sexual about a child’s body that needs covering up with loose clothing. It’s just a body.

I feel sorry for children who are being raised in homes where wearing practical, comfortable clothing is unacceptable because it displays their child like form.

Well, they are not practical if worn as trousers. Really cold

DrRichardWebber · 02/02/2025 20:09

But, it’s a million times easier for wees when you’re wearing a bikini! Just the thought of taking off a wet swimsuit to wee then putting it back on makes me shudder.

RickiRaccoon · 02/02/2025 20:05

I don't want my daughter wearing one. Both girl and boy are covered for sun protection and I'd like it keep it that way till early least 8 or 9. The kids don't see it as sexual (and I hope most adults wouldn't either) but there is this hyper-exposure of and hyper-focus on women's bodies that extends to girls.

For me it looks silly for little girls with flat chest and pot bellies to wear bikinis which are clearly not designed for their body types. The cropped sort of tankjni 2-pieces look quite cute on them though.

Reallyyyyyy · 02/02/2025 20:02

They shouldn't be wearing them. One, all kids should be wearing suits that protect from the sun. And also, why are we sexualising kids. Y putting them in adult styled clothes, this goes with shorts too. Girls shorts are always so much shorter than boys. So I buy from the boys section. Young girls don't need crop tops either.

TemporaryPosition · 02/02/2025 20:02

SwingTheMonkey · 02/02/2025 19:55

What an incredibly bizarre attitude. There is nothing sexual about a child’s body that needs covering up with loose clothing. It’s just a body.

I feel sorry for children who are being raised in homes where wearing practical, comfortable clothing is unacceptable because it displays their child like form.

Bikinis aren't as practical or comfortable as a swimming costume.

TemporaryPosition · 02/02/2025 20:00

Bigtom · 02/02/2025 11:24

This

"Why" well, a line has to be drawn somewhere doesn't it. Even if it's difficult to explain why, it's something we know instinctively, like it's just not appropriate in our cultural context. Can you articulate why little boys, or indeed girls shouldn't be encouraged to wear a mankini or a thong by their carers? It's difficult to come up with a satisfying reason that doesn't just come down to a matter of taste and decency.

SwingTheMonkey · 02/02/2025 19:55

Printedword · 02/02/2025 19:47

I think they are too clingy if not worn with dress, skirt etc. They look so exposed.

What an incredibly bizarre attitude. There is nothing sexual about a child’s body that needs covering up with loose clothing. It’s just a body.

I feel sorry for children who are being raised in homes where wearing practical, comfortable clothing is unacceptable because it displays their child like form.

BlueSilverCats · 02/02/2025 19:51

I think they are too clingy if not worn with dress, skirt etc. They look so exposed.

Possibly, to each their own. The main difference though, is that leggings are comfortable and practical(especially for little ones) whereas bikinis aren't. There's nothing a bikini does that a two piece doesn't also do (ease for toilet) while also offering extra sun protection.

PaintedPottery · 02/02/2025 19:50

My daughter preferred bikinis when she was little, or tankinis. Her bikinis were much bigger than the ones my mum put me in during the 70s! Daughter’s a teenager now and she absolutely refuses to entertain the idea of a bikini!

Printedword · 02/02/2025 19:47

SwingTheMonkey · 02/02/2025 19:44

Leggings aren’t appropriate for children? What?!

I think they are too clingy if not worn with dress, skirt etc. They look so exposed.

SwingTheMonkey · 02/02/2025 19:44

Printedword · 02/02/2025 18:04

Tankinis are good, all in one swimsuits aren't for everyone. I'm tall and they were so uncomfortable for me as a child.

I don't think skimpy bikinis are child appr, but neither are leggins really and so many kids wear those too

Leggings aren’t appropriate for children? What?!

LauraNicolaides · 02/02/2025 19:42

I don't have a problem with it, but a decision for each parent.

Mochudubh · 02/02/2025 19:35

I think a two-piece is fine and practical. High-leg bottoms with tiny triangle halter tops, not so much.

The term "Bikini" was coined after the atoll where they tested atomic bombs, as in "bombshell" will "blow you away" so no, not appropriate for small children.

Printedword · 02/02/2025 18:18

BlueSilverCats · 02/02/2025 18:13

@chargeitup these start at 12 months old! They don't even cover a nappy ffs.

Also not great re sun protection.

BlueSilverCats · 02/02/2025 18:13

@chargeitup these start at 12 months old! They don't even cover a nappy ffs.

To think kids shouldn't wear bikinis?
To think kids shouldn't wear bikinis?
anon168231245630 · 02/02/2025 18:13

My daughter wears a bikini because it's easier for the toilet.

Glitchymn1 · 02/02/2025 18:09

Mine does. Easier for the toilet. I wear them too for the same reason, plus if I put a skirt /sarong on I’ll switch wet bottoms for pants. I don’t want an itchy fanjo.

Printedword · 02/02/2025 18:04

Tankinis are good, all in one swimsuits aren't for everyone. I'm tall and they were so uncomfortable for me as a child.

I don't think skimpy bikinis are child appr, but neither are leggins really and so many kids wear those too

Whatabouthow · 02/02/2025 17:56

chargeitup · 02/02/2025 17:35

@Whatabouthow

Because little girls don't have boobs to hold the top in place. They come up and move around and aren't very comfortable. It is a piece of clothing designed for an adult body that does not fit a prepubescent one.
Huh?
These don't come up and move around? You don't need boobs to hold these in place

Because those aren't bikinis..? They are crop top two piece costumes.

Letstheriveranswer · 02/02/2025 17:42

chargeitup · 02/02/2025 17:35

@Whatabouthow

Because little girls don't have boobs to hold the top in place. They come up and move around and aren't very comfortable. It is a piece of clothing designed for an adult body that does not fit a prepubescent one.
Huh?
These don't come up and move around? You don't need boobs to hold these in place

Those pics aren't bikinis though, they are two piece swim suits with vest style cropped tops