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My Partners Family Are Insane!

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UnknownLad94 · 02/02/2025 09:58

Hi everyone i hope you're all well,

I have been with my partner for just over 3 years, i always have had a difficult relationship his family.

They are incredibly controlling and nosy.

It's all come a head recently, my partner sold his sister his old car for a £100 a month for 5 years (at the time she had financial difficulties) she agreed to this and we asked for a contract to be made up.

However his parents objected to this stating 'It's his sister she wouldn't do him over'

Well....a week ago she said she needed a new car and didn't want the one we sold her.

Within 24 hours she had bought a new car...she was abusive to my partner over text saying 'See you in Court' and 'What Contract?'

She has refused to pay the £100 for the month of January saying the payment for December was for January.

She also lied to my in laws about the contract saying the final 2 years we expected her to be £400 (Which was never the case)

My partners mum has agreed to take on the car for the remaining 4 years of the contract to 'Keep the peace and a happy family and not to have a wedge within the family'

Naturally i am livid about the situation, but my partner is of the approach 'It's all sorted now don't rock the boat'

Am i right to be angry about this?

I can't shake the anger towards them.

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DDivaStar · 02/02/2025 10:33

So sil agreed a 5 year contract but changed her mind a year later.

Its generally best not get involved financially with family you have a difficult relationship with.

Edited because I got my dates mixed up.

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UnknownLad94 · 02/02/2025 10:28

Kingoftheroad · 02/02/2025 10:24

So his sister didn’t trade the car in ? It’s been passed to his mother for which she has agreed to pay the remaining balance?

Did sister speak to your partner prior to purchasing another car or did she just expect him to have it back?Had she already made arrangements for her mother to have it?

Nope she told us 2 days before January's payment was due that she didn't want the car.

Within 24 hours she had a new car refused to pay January's payment his mum decided to take on the remainder of the contract which is 4 years.

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Kingoftheroad · 02/02/2025 10:24

So his sister didn’t trade the car in ? It’s been passed to his mother for which she has agreed to pay the remaining balance?

Did sister speak to your partner prior to purchasing another car or did she just expect him to have it back?Had she already made arrangements for her mother to have it?

User1786 · 02/02/2025 10:16

Your SIL sounds awful but your in-laws sound great and have helped you out tremendously in this situation. I’d never help SIL again though

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UnknownLad94 · 02/02/2025 10:16

Lmnop22 · 02/02/2025 10:11

I would be angry because they’re essentially letting their daughter get away with breaking her word to pay your DP and why should her parents have to pay to bail her out because she changed her mind after making a commitment?!

Having said that, if her parents want to enable her to make those sorts of decisions then I would just say let them so you’re not out of pocket and never ever do SIL any more favours.

But yeah, entitlement and enabling behaviours are incredibly frustrating!

I just can't understand these people, they are so blinded by her it's unreal!

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Lmnop22 · 02/02/2025 10:11

I would be angry because they’re essentially letting their daughter get away with breaking her word to pay your DP and why should her parents have to pay to bail her out because she changed her mind after making a commitment?!

Having said that, if her parents want to enable her to make those sorts of decisions then I would just say let them so you’re not out of pocket and never ever do SIL any more favours.

But yeah, entitlement and enabling behaviours are incredibly frustrating!

Dollshousedolly · 02/02/2025 10:04

Well it is all sorted. You’ll get your money as agreed. I don’t think you can hold this against your DP’s parents. They obviously realise their daughter is in the wrong and are trying to keep the peace and sort it out,

Going forward, you don’t have to engage or have much/anything to do with his sister. Hello, goodbye, etc when you meet and leave it at that.

Whoknew24 · 02/02/2025 10:00

certaibly wouldn’t do the sister in law any favours ever again. However I agree with your husband, it’s sorted now MIL taking it on. So why keep it going on and on, don’t achieve nor change anything.