To give up working

I LOVED my job before I lost it due to major financial issues within the industry - which mean that there are practically no jobs left now. Loved it. If you can find something that makes you happy then work isn’t a horrible thing.

@NovemberMorn good for you, but if you or OP divorces you will have no pension of your own and no means by which to run your own home as you've not had an income for years.

As I said, vulnerable.

Why not be a SAHM for a bit? He expects you to solely look after the house and kids so why shouldn't he be the sole earner? No one regrets giving up a job they hate, life's too short to spend every day doing something you don't enjoy.

It's quite reasonable to talk to your husband about alternative options for you if you're unhappy. It's not reasonable just to give up work and force him to be the sole earner.

Well it worked for us, and we have been happily married for decades.

Get a different job. Part time. It’s not all or nothing.

@NovemberMorn trust is all well and good, it does not pay the mortgage or pension.

I find you breathtakingly naive.

Maybe we should all have a prenup before we wed to ensure our partners don't do the dirty on us.
There is such a thing as trust in a relationship, that's how we managed our marriage, and that's how it's worked.

If you are that miserable in your current job then you would not be unreasonable to move to a new one, even if it pays less well. You would be unreasonable to stop working altogether and expect your DH to support you financially against his wishes.

I wouldn't want the pressure of being the only earner so I wouldn't foist this on my DH. However, I also wouldn't stay in a job that I truly loathed just to please him, in your shoes I would reduce my hours or look for a more enjoyable role elsewhere.

You say your employer won't allow you to go part time but have you actually made a flexible working request? They don't have to agree to it but they do have to consider it. If you're thinking of quitting anyway you have nothing to lose by putting in a request.

@NovemberMorn but you were vulnerable whether you feel that way or not.

Not feeling vulnerable (financially) doesn’t mean one is not vulnerable.

U to stop work. Seek another job.

She is contributing, she is running a home with him and their three sons in it.

Personally, I never felt vulnerable, we trusted each other, and it worked out fine.

I was your DH. My DH quit jobs as he hated them leaving me to shoulder the financial burden and suffer the stress of a difficult demanding job and the household expenses. It got to the point that I massively resented the fact that I had no choice to work a high paying and high stress job as I was supporting us. In the end we divorced. I am still in the high stress job but I don’t have the resentment from this.
You quitting removes his choice so it has to be discussed and jointly decided. Or you split up and do your own thing.

Is this a joke? He's being unreasonable because he expects her to contribute?

And you left yourself in a very vulnerable situation by not working both in terms of pension and under the situation if you'd divorced.

Agree with this.
We spend so much time at work, we should be doing roles we like/enjoy.

Just quitting work completely or getting a lower paid job? The later is reasonable as long as things like bills would still be covered, the former isn't fair on your DH. Just saw you meant not work at all and hes not sharing the weight at home which changes things a bit. Still part time at some other job would probably be more reasonable than you not woking anymore l.

Me! And I'm on minimum wage and can barely stay afloat but I wouldn't swap my job for anything.

Lifes too short to stick at doing you hate, especially when financially you don't need to.

I gave up working early, cared for a parent, looked after home and family, my husband was fine with it. We always pooled our resources, it was never his or mine...it was ours.
We didn't have a spare property either, but we managed perfectly well.

I would talk to your husband and tell him how unhappy you are at work, imo, he is being unreasonable.

So you have the experience and contacts for an alternative PR job, employed, contract freelance.

In pursuit of a better life it is ok to work for the lower salaries that most of us base our lives on.

Of course you needn’t make yourself miserable and ill in a job you hate if you have options.

I would find a new role that continues to contribute to your household and future.

It isn’t fair for your DH to expect you to be the main earner or be miserable, but not fair to step off the plan for your shared future in retirement.

Fully understand that not enjoying your job can leave you miserable. But just quitting and sitting on your arse at home all day, being funded by someone else isn’t the answer.
Get your ducks in a row and look for a better job.

I see. Would he be OK with you doing this in a lower paid job. So that you're (hopefully) happier?

Why on earth would you even consider to "give up working" instead of trying to find a different job? Even if you wouldn't get the same high wage, yours is not the only job around. It makes no sense whatsoever to think "oh, I won't get 100 percent of what I earn now, better go for 0 percent of it."

What are you expecting to live on? What if your DH loses his job? You'd eat through the equity, so the extra house is some security, but not 'no job money'. What if you divorce? What about your pension?

Bonkers.

Nobody likes a passenger

If this is the case I'm even more inclined to say 100% quit your job as per my original post. Raising 3 children and running a household is a full time job in itself. Don't run yourself into the ground for a future that you're too old and tired to enjoy. There has to be some work life balance or what is the point? You can't take it with you.