Wish I said something at the time

If a random man chased after you, OP, wouldn't you push them (or worse)to try and away?
"but that's a completely different scenario, the child wasn't in any danger from my dd"
yep but they didn't know that!

I was thinking this 😂😂😂

The flying balls make excellent weapons

That's the point. You don't have full control of your child. No one does. We all do/did our best. Like the other parents were doing.

Why are you holding them to a higher standard than you are holding yourself and your child?

Your dd is 2 yrs? Ohhhhhh boy are you in for a rude awakening when she starts school

"I'm not going to rein her up at every event unless she gives valid reason to."

Her running off IS a valid reason to 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️.

Not having a way to ensure your toddler stays by you in any public space that isn't a park/playground/soft play is crappy parenting. If you can't manage her well enough that she doesn't run off then yes, she absolutely should be on reins.

I'm embarrassed that you're trying to justify her running off in a shop as though its unavoidable. It's not. You just didn't bother preventing it.

And she got pushed. It could have been avoided if you, you know, did your job.

It's true, it was unkind. Your child should not have been pushed. The other parents already dealt with the issue when they asked their daughter to stop.
It is also true that neither child should have been running inside a shop. And true that small children have tiffs and disagreements and don't all see something the same way.

The other girl did not want another child running with her. She lacked the ability to kindly stop and say - Please don't run with me. They are two. You are over thinking this.

You reacted by taking your child out of the situation to buy her toy. If you had lingered who knows what the other parents would have done??

I think you did the right thing by distracting your child back on task and not over playing the incident. I would have said something like - I'm glad that little girl's Mummy asked her to stop pushing and shouting when she didn't like someone running with her. Are you alright?

I would have given it no more thought except mental note to self that running inside any shop is not on. They could have run into a sharp shelf, a person, a crawling baby.

Which is why you need to work on teaching her instead of making drama over nothing.

It's not nice seeing your child being pushed. Unfortunately at that age they haven't developed tact or knowing they're hurting feelings. The kid just knows it doesn't want another kid running near it and has voiced that. The parents have told their kid to stop. At that age it's not really an issue at all. There is no malice or need for anyone to apologise.

Brace yourself though. It gets worse 😵. They don't necessarily have tact or care for others feelings right up until teenager hood either! You'll see your kid getting her feelings hurt a LOT. And parents who don't give a damn....

As the nurserys say the running and the pushing is all "age appropriate"

I probably would have apologised if I was the other parent but I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest if I was in your shoes in this scenario.

God forbid one of your children pushes the other...would you call one of your own a nasty child

Don't be that parent who over reacts to non issues, or your daughter is going to grow up to be hypersensitive to many life experiences she will have to experience from time to time.

Also you didn't see what happened. How do you know your child didn't knock into the other little girl...or is that not possible because yours is clearly perfect?

What does running have to do with instilling independence in a way that walking does not? She could have ran face first into a trolley or shop worker with a cage and ended up really hurting, it is not an appropriate place to run no matter how much you protest.

You're going to be in for a world of pain when your PFB gets to 4 if this is your reaction to a little shove. Calling a 4 year old nasty for that is wild.

You are very correct.

It's not what people are saying.

It's all OP can hear though. Which speaks volumes.

You're taking this waaaaay out of proportion, and I don't think you'll realise this until your DD is 4/5 and in school and this sort of situation happens every day. And it happens because 4 or 5 is still very young, and children this age still lack the skills to negotiate interacting with other people. That child in the toy shop looked big and capable next to your little girl, but she isn't - she's still very little, very immature and not well versed in shooing off other kids she's not interested in. She may even have been younger than you estimate, it's not always easy to tell, some kids are big for their age. You may not have liked her behaviour to your child but it actually wasn't that inappropriate for her age.

Please just let it go and forget about it, it's a tiny blip in your DD's childhood. My DS got pushed in toddler group by a bratty kid (aged four and definitely with a lot of form), I shrugged it off because these things happen with kids, they're learning how to be civilised but it's a long process. Honestly, don't sweat the small stuff. (And in time you'll probably be relieved you didn't say anything to her parents - far better than saying something you regret...)

Unless we're in an open space which is appropriate for running, my 2 year old is on reins. He can hold the pram but if he refuses or attempts to run then reins it is with a reminder that we don't run in shops.

We've done this since 18 months and he's not as likely to run now.

She’s 2. You don’t actually need her to be independent as such right now. You need her to be able to walk beside you and not run off.

I had an absconder. He was way too independent. He wouldn’t run about in a dangerous way but he would get lost. That is, I thought he was lost — he was fine. Yes, I put him in reins every time we went out until I was sure that he would walk beside me. And we went to the park or just ran around in the garden every day too.

Don't think on it anymore OP. Your child isn't thinking about it - she is probably having far too much fun with her new toy.

Kids squabbling is pretty normal, just part of growing up and learning boundaries, get over it

I'm not really sure what the problem is here. The parents told their child to stop. Why would you need to say anything else..? I definitely think you're overthinking!

You rightly expect people to make allowances for your child, but you don't seem to be prepared to make the same allowances for this other child. Objectively, this seems a relatively painless way for your child to begin to learn about boundaries.

Well you’ve contradicted yourself a bit there. You’re right, you didn’t need to stand there and make it a big thing! So, no, you shouldn’t have said anything, and neither should the other parents because they already told their daughter “no”. When yours is 4-5 you’ll realise how young that still is.

And events like this will help her learn…

Im assuming this is your first child? You’ve done miraculously to get to 2yo without a similar ‘upsetting’ incident and I guarantee there will be many more.
On the flip side, I can imagine the parents on the other side of this making a thread about how a young girl was harassing their shy child until their child eventually pushed them away and the other parent did nothing about it.
Honestly, complete overreaction.

What are you wanting people to say?! You just disagree with everyone that says something. Just because YOU think it’s fine it doesn’t mean the other little girl did. It’s a minor little thing that’s happened, ridiculously inconsequential.

Imagine if OP took 2 year old to soft play.... 🙈
Good luck!
It's dog eat dog in soft play.