Wish I said something at the time

Yadnbu
The little girl obviously takes after her parents.

I’ve witnessed 2x 3 year old boys kick and spit on a 1 year old (two different incidents), and the parents didn’t do anything about it.

It’s a sad world we live in 💐

Your little girl sounds delightful, OP. And I can understand you feel hurt, on her behalf, by the other child pushing her away. Luckily she’s resilient and has probably already forgotten about the push.

Sending hugs to you and DD. I hope the older child’s parents have explained to her why she shouldn’t push other children, especially smaller ones.

yeh this, everyone making out the OPs child ( who is two) is the badly behaved one when all they did was join in running with another child, and making out the other poor child was so overwhelmed by this she was justified in pushing a 2 year old. totally fkn ridiculous. don't know what's wrong with people on here.

Did you ask your DD why she ran away and she told you she was racing the girl? Or are you just assuming that’s what she was doing? Regardless, the other child clearly perceived it as being chased and didn’t like it.
And how do you know that your DD didn’t do anything to the girl first which prompted her to retaliate by pushing and telling her to go away?

Not sure the other child was being nasty. She didnt want your child to chase her and that's fair enough. She was perhaps unkind in how she responded but she's a little child who doesn't know any better. What would you have said? I think your being a little precious.

And I promise I mean this kindly OP, but as a mother of a 11yo and 8yo let me tell you it’ll serve you well to learn quickly that some people will find your children unlikable. It’s awful because you see them as brilliant and any child would be lucky to have them as a friends, but the sooner you accept not everyone will like their company the easier a lot of parenting will be

Christ! Did everyone get out the wrong side of bed today?

They're little kids! Your sociable LO just wanted to run with another little girl and have fun. Obviously we don't know why the other girl pushed yours or said go away. But a two year old doesn't mean any harm and don't understand a lot.

Yes, you probably thought "nasty" child, but again, she's just a little girl and you have a bias towards your own.

I would've apologised if I was the other parent and told her off for pushing and being rude. Then leave without buying her anything.

When I was really little and staying with my Grandma, there was a teenage girl who used to come over and play with me. Apparently I was watching TV when she came over one day and I told her to go away. My Mum was mortified, and still brings it up to this day! "Oh you were soooo rude to that lovely girl!" I'm 41 now 🤣

She ran off from you around a corner though out of sight. Like I said I only needed to do it once and can remember it vividly, it made an impact and I honestly can’t recall her running off in a shop again.
Not running off from me was a none negotiable though as I viewed it as a safety issue.

OP, you posted in AIBU. And the clear answer is: yes, yes you are.

They're 2 years old. They aren’t reasonable humans aren’t can’t be expected to be. There’s nothing you could’ve said that would’ve made any difference to anybody. Life is full of people who don’t like you for no apparent reason, it won’t kill your DD to find that out

This! Why are you letting your child run around after people or racing random strangers shops at all anyway?!

You have no idea bout the other girl, she could be ND or she could have felt your daughter was being intrusive or maybe startled her?.. who knows. Her parents corrected her and that’s enough.

I definitely wouldn’t have removed the toy but I would have explained either at the time or later why it could have been scary for the other child and why people generally might not like it.

She shouldn’t have been pushed but also a lot of children won’t like her invading their space when they don’t know her. Two wrongs don’t make a right but it sounds like fairly normal thing of small children not really understanding each other or social norms and needing educating by their parents (again, totally normal). If I saw it I would think both children had something to learn.

This reminds me of owners who let their dogs race up to you and jump on you, then say when they catch up 'oh they're just being friendly' and treat you as if you're the weird one with a problem.

If your daughter was close enough to be pushed away then she ran full tilt into the other girl.

If someone the same size as me chased after me and ran into me, then I'd be startled, wary, scared, and push them away too.

Your DD is not a precious princess who everyone should be honoured and delighted to have forced into their lives. Consent, OP. If you don't understand it, how will you ever teach your DD?

Yep, all of this.

I say this kindly OP, but reading your responses I’m going to say that the next couple of years will be eye-opening for you. This is just the start!
And trust me; one day, it’ll be your DD doing the pushing. Even the most compliant of child has their limit!

I did tell my child no when we walked away. I didn't need to stand there and make it a big thing telling her off. I got her hand and we walked and as we walked I said you have to stay with mummy

The other parents did the same as you OP. Both children were behaving in a way that is understandable for their age but not to be encouraged, and each parent took their respective child and gave them a verbal correction. There was absolutely no reason to stand there and turn it into a little drama or argue over what portion of blame each gets.

The situation was immediately resolved by separating the two children. Your child is completely fine and you'll never see these people again. Why would you give this another thought?

“my little girl would make friends with a brick wall, she is so social” she sounds so adorable 🥰 she’ll do just fine in life x

Fair enough, I misread that bit, apologies

You didn’t teach her anything though? You didn’t say anything about not running off and bought her a toy.
I vividly remember the time my dc ran off in home bargains. Told her you do not run off from me in firm voice. We immediately left and came home empty handed. She knew I meant business never did it again. It’s a safety issue, none negotiable.

You’ve been asked several times what it is you would have said, if you had said something (as your thread title says you wished you had done)
Again, what would you have said and how would this have improved the situation?

I think you should explain to your child that not everyone wants to be friends and that's fine. Also that the place to be running around and playing is not in a shop and children are more likely to want to play in a park for instance.

Your child acted up and was harassing another child and you want an apology?