Wish I said something at the time

YABU. Your daughter isn't entitled to be friends with anybody she chooses. And all children don't have to embrace everybody that foists themselves upon them either.

Why are you letting your child run around a shop and irritating another child? children are allowed to stand up for themselves and having worked in a Nursery for years this is how kids speak to each other! Maybe in future hold your DD’s hand round the shop and tell her to be aware that not every kid wants to play while spending time with their own family.

I do hope not. Would have, should have, could have - maybe.

Lots of would of , should of , could of here 😬

You could hold her hand ? kids running round in shops is annoying.

I can understand you wanting to stick up for your dd but she also needs to be taught resilience. My sister was wrapped in cotton wool by dm and now in any form of debate she plays the victim. She can't take criticism. So put it down to a life skill. When she starts school she will need to deal with the class bully, being left out of games, falling out with friends and not being invited to birthday parties. Also next year watch her being mean to her younger sibling. It's all a sad part of kids development.

Do you take her to playgroup? Kids push each other all the time. There's really no need to judge the other kid by calling her nasty. It's such a horrible word to use on a little kid. She wasn't enjoying what your daughter was doing and couldn't articulate it properly in the moment. She was asserting her boundaries that your daughter was trampling, just has she hasn't learnt to be respectful of other kids boundaries yet. Neither kids deserved to be told of or humiliated or made to apologise.

Some parents think that all kids act like they are at a mad rave where everyone has taken an E, but actually lots of kids don't want other people's children in their face all the time. My kid couldn't enjoy rhyme time the other day because some girl was chasing him around non stop. He felt completely harassed. He hid behind a bookcase to avoid her. I wanted the kid to leave him alone but I didn't judge her because she was a little kid. The other parents would feel pretty bad if they knew you were calling her nasty after the fact, especially if she was neurodiverse or feeling harrassed and couldn't think how to get her away in the heat of the moment. No kid is nasty. Imagine if they were calling your kid an obnoxious dimwit behind her back? Doesn't feel nice. No she shouldn't have pushed but she will learn to use her words instead one day, then you would need to take your child away from her and teach her about boundaries.

I think you are just struggling to see it from their perspective. So your little girl is very friendly and sociable, but not everyone is. She's only little and still learning, but you do need to teach her that not everyone wants to make friends with everyone they see, and it can make other children uncomfortable. I have a child like this, who needed reminding that other people need some space or might not want to play. I also have a child who was like the other little girl, very shy and found strangers running after her/beside her/trying hard to force an interaction she really didn't want to take part in was scary for her and while she never pushed anyone she would have been upset in this situation. Her parents did tell her to stop, but you could also tell yours to stop as well , I used to point out to mine "oh I don't think he wants to play, let's give him some space" and redirect. She wasn't bad, but the little girl was also not bad just overwhelmed.

OP would you mind being slightly more clear. Your posts range from a few seconds, to two seconds, to three seconds to ten seconds. Then it was your kid was in your sight the whole time to your kid was around the corner.

You seem to be changing the story to suit your narrative which I think is causing some backlash.

2 year olds really should be in a buggy or holding rhr parents hands, not running loose in s toy shop

No I'm really not, I have a 2 year old daughter myself. I'm simply trying to say it's a possibility. And a 2 year old pushing another child isn't "monstrous" anyway it's normal toddler behaviour, which is exactly the point. You're being a massive drama queen.

It appears this is normal for you but you have to remeber a 2 year old is roughly the same size as another two year old - so the equivalent of another adult suddenly breaking into sprint and chasing you. She was probably frightened. You think two two year olds running how cute - the other two year old became distressed by your daughter invading her personal space what exactly could you say?

It's not quite the same but I went for a run by the lake earlier and a woman smiled and was trying to run alongside me with her dog. Every fibre in my body wanted to push her away into the lake so I do sympathise with the little girl and other fellow unsociable people.

“feel so bad my daughter has just been plodding along and then randomly gets pushed and told to get away”

She wasn’t “plodding along” - you said she was chasing the other girl. It wasn’t a “random” push, it was in response to being chased - the other child may have felt scared or uncomfortable and pushed her away on instinct (not that pushing is ok, but quite normal for a young child in this situation).
Not all children are as sociable as yours and don’t always like other children trying to play with them.

I get this. It’s horrible seeing a child you love trying to be friendly with another child and that child not reciprocating or, worse, being quite forceful in asserting their own boundaries. It hurts you because you know your child is just trying to be nice and it’s like watching a bit of their innocence knocked out of them when they start to understand that not everyone wants to be their friend.

I always find that distraction is the way to go, and then later on explain that some children don’t want to play with children they don’t know, but my first reaction is always one of protectiveness and thinking that the other child is clearly a little monster for not immediately seeing that the child I love is as adorable as I find them. Obviously this reaction is completely insane, especially as the child I love does his fair share of not wanting to play with others. But it’s there.

Take a deep breath and remember that the other child is just a toddler too, and that she’s still learning, just the same as yours is. And tomorrow, it’s just as likely that yours will clobber someone else’s precious baby for absolutely no sensible reason whatsoever.

Both children shouldn't have been running in the shop. She also shouldn't have pushed.

Not a big deal at all really. Kids will be kids, especially young ones.

You are really overreacting.

I've had 3 2 year olds.

My daughter would be really unnerved if someone started running beside her out of nowhere. Whilst I don’t think she would push; I can’t say for sure how she’d react in the moment as an alarmed 3 year old learning communication and boundaries around playing (much like your daughter is).

I also would have told her to stop if she pushed but I’m not sure I’d have said sorry. Don’t obsess over this.

You will quickly learn that the “oh they are sooo social and sooo sweet” 2 year olds become very overbearing 6 year olds who don’t have boundaries around play if you don’t start to teach her this now.

its never nice to see your child be pushed but you need to see this as a learning experience for you both.

When I turn the corner my daughter has run round, the girl she chased was pushing her saying "get away girl, go away now" I heard the parents saying their child's name and stop it before I turned round the corner.

From the opening post.
OP says she was around the corner (so couldn't see);
OP says her DD chased the girl;
OP says the other child's parents told their child to stop it.

No one is inventing things to make OP or DD look bad.

Please forget about it, they were both just being kids. Enjoy rest of the weekend. These things happen, toddler years are not easy and they forget about things a lot quicker than us parents.

your two year old child joined in running with another older child, don't you know this makes her out of control and stomping on boundaries and that she deserves to be pushed, it also makes you a terrible mother......only on mumsnet can people villify a 2 year old for daring to join in playing with another child.

Such hyperbole over absolutely nuffink.

Go and have a nice cup of tea and calm down.

Maybe it might be time to just step away from the thread now OP

Tips? Hand holding is pretty effective, nothing modern...
Mine is six and hand holding is almost always happening. At age 2 it was non negotiable and enforced always, everywhere