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Wish I said something at the time

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Shannon9955 · 01/02/2025 20:56

Today we went to smyths toy shop with my little girl who is 2, we went to buy her a treat since she's been potty trained and nappy free now for a week. She was so excited, roaming around each aisle to see what she wanted. She had picked what she wanted and we just carried on looking, she saw a little girl run past her, this little girl was miles in front of her parents and my little girl would make friends with a brick wall, she is so social. My little girl thinks this girl is racing, so she instantly runs with her, I of course run after my little girl and the parents have obviously caught up and with their child. When I turn the corner my daughter has run round, the girl she chased was pushing her saying "get away girl, go away now" I heard the parents saying their child's name and stop it before I turned round the corner.

But I was a bit taken a back, it was a silly innocent thing. But in that moment I just thought what a nasty child. My daughter was being harmless. I just grabbed her hand and said come on let's go now and pay for your toy. But it's really bothered me all day and I wish I'd of said something because I feel so bad my daughter has just been plodding along and then randomly gets pushed and told to get away. The parents didn't even say sorry. If my child did that I'd be so apologetic. I just feel so sad in that spilt second that she was there without me and she's getting pushed. It's really upset me

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Lammveg · 01/02/2025 21:07

What do you want from this thread? Not everyone is as social as your child and that's fine. Sure, the child shouldn't have pushed yours but equally your daughter needs to learn that not everyone wants to play with her.

Shannon9955 · 01/02/2025 21:05

Overthebow · 01/02/2025 21:03

Your child may have been trying to join in, but the other child obviously didn’t want to be joined and make friends. What you see as harmless upset the other child. No the other child shouldn’t have pushed and she got told off for that, but your child also needs to learn that she can’t just join in with everyone and not every one will want to play with her. She definitely shouldn’t be running off from you in a shop so that you lose sight of her.

Edited

She didn't run off to the point I lost sight, I knew where she was, it just took me 2 seconds after her to get to the corner

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KilkennyCats · 01/02/2025 21:05

The parents told her to stop, what else do you want from them?

Shannon9955 · 01/02/2025 21:04

@KilkennyCats I didn't want them to say anything to me, it wouldn't normally phase me. But it's okay for a child to push another child? Maybe I'm just thinking from my point of view because I'd like to think my child wouldn't push anyone with or without reason

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Overthebow · 01/02/2025 21:03

Your child may have been trying to join in, but the other child obviously didn’t want to be joined and make friends. What you see as harmless upset the other child. No the other child shouldn’t have pushed and she got told off for that, but your child also needs to learn that she can’t just join in with everyone and not every one will want to play with her. She definitely shouldn’t be running off from you in a shop so that you lose sight of her.

Shannon9955 · 01/02/2025 21:02

@Moonnstars I'm so baffled by you thinking I had to apologise for upsetting the child when my child was pushed? Sorry what!

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KilkennyCats · 01/02/2025 21:01

Who would you have said something to?? Neither the child nor her parents owed you an apology, you’re being really weird to think they did.
They didn’t find your child as adorable as you do 🤷🏻‍♀️

Shannon9955 · 01/02/2025 21:01

@Moonnstars my child didn't run after her, as in behind her. She ran beside her. She wasn't screaming or anything. Literally just running beside her.

I get your point, but that's okay for the other child to push another child who hasn't hurt them?

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Moonnstars · 01/02/2025 20:58

I think you are overthinking.

You see it as fun your child running after an unknown child. Unknown child doesn't know your child and doesn't like them running after her, so says stop. She doesn't know your child and doesn't know her intentions are harmless.

Not sure what you would have said here other than sorry for upsetting your child 🤷