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Cheeseandcrackers40 · 01/02/2025 18:08

Dd6 asked me today why she didn't go to preschool at her school. I explained that she went to a child minder where she was very happy and we didn't want to move her until proper school started in F2.

She told me that they had been talking about it in her phonics group and the TA said that she must have gone to a childminders because her mummy and daddy didn't have time to look after her.

AIBU to think this is off? My daughter was upset about it but doesn't want us to raise it with the school. DH was really annoyed.

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TwentyTwentyFive · 01/02/2025 18:19

Cheeseandcrackers40 · 01/02/2025 18:11

Well it's a very specific thing to say and not something my daughter would have thought of herself, she isn't inclined to lie and seemed genuinely upset.

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It's much more likely that your child concluded all by herself the idea that you didn't have time for her from the TAs response which was probably along the lines of mummy and daddy probably had to work longer hours than 9-3 so you went to a childminder or nursery.

I'll eat my hat if the TA said word for word what your daughter quoted.

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 01/02/2025 18:19

My guess is the TA said it but differently. So they were discussing where they went before school preschool/nursery etc. And someone asked what a childminder is and the TA said a childminder is where children go when their mummys and daddys don't have time to look after them.

We've had this before where DD 4 has said someone said something and they had. But they'd said it in a totally different context.

TishHope · 01/02/2025 18:18

I think it is perfectly possible that the TA did say that - why would some posters doubt it?

FumingTRex · 01/02/2025 18:18

I expect another child asked whats a childminder. And the TA said its someone who looks after children when their parents dont have time. Im sure it wasnt meant maliciously.

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/02/2025 18:17

Lmnop22 · 01/02/2025 18:16

It’s not a sensitive way to put it, but it is essentially true - you (presumably) worked so required childcare. It may have been an innocent (albeit slightly tone deaf) way to explain to a group of 6 year olds why grown ups use childminders - I would just leave it and give the benefit of the doubt

Exactly!!

Lmnop22 · 01/02/2025 18:16

It’s not a sensitive way to put it, but it is essentially true - you (presumably) worked so required childcare. It may have been an innocent (albeit slightly tone deaf) way to explain to a group of 6 year olds why grown ups use childminders - I would just leave it and give the benefit of the doubt

TheLymeTrew · 01/02/2025 18:15

MinnieBalloon · 01/02/2025 18:09

Yeah, there’s no way the TA actually said that 😆

All of this!

PizzaPunk · 01/02/2025 18:14

Cheeseandcrackers40 · 01/02/2025 18:11

Well it's a very specific thing to say and not something my daughter would have thought of herself, she isn't inclined to lie and seemed genuinely upset.

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It's even less likely to be something a TA actually said.

Just have a quiet word and get the TA to clarify.

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Cheeseandcrackers40 · 01/02/2025 18:11

MinnieBalloon · 01/02/2025 18:09

Yeah, there’s no way the TA actually said that 😆

Well it's a very specific thing to say and not something my daughter would have thought of herself, she isn't inclined to lie and seemed genuinely upset.

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MinnieBalloon · 01/02/2025 18:09

Yeah, there’s no way the TA actually said that 😆

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