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If you were meeting someone in a cafe and your baby was asleep…

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parttimeworks · 01/02/2025 16:06

And the relative wanted a cuddle, would you get a sleeping baby out of the pram and risk waking them up for this- they’re in a bit of a phase of fighting daytime naps and rarely have a non contact nap, but the family member hasn’t seen baby in a few weeks and is sad about it

We have different opinions so I’d just be interested to know what the consensus is!

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 01/02/2025 16:13

If they looked disappointed I would think fair enough and do nothing at all. If they asked "can I hold" I would say "Are you insane? She is sleeping."

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/02/2025 16:12

Of course not. The relative needs to get a grip.

Fencehedge · 01/02/2025 16:11

parttimeworks · 01/02/2025 16:10

How would you deal with the relative if they looked disappointed or if they asked outright ‘can I hold?’

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I'd ignore them if they looked disappointed. I'd inform them kindly of the reasons why they couldn't if they asked.

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parttimeworks · 01/02/2025 16:10

OwlInTheOak · 01/02/2025 16:09

No way, let baby sleep and if they wake happy hand them over, if they wake fussy then wait for another time unless they settle.
No reason why the baby should be woken up for an adults entertainment.

How would you deal with the relative if they looked disappointed or if they asked outright ‘can I hold?’

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comedycentral · 01/02/2025 16:10

Not a chance would I wake a sleeping baby when I can have a peaceful coffee!

Hummusanddipdip · 01/02/2025 16:10

JollyViper · 01/02/2025 16:08

Isn't the general rule never wake a sleeping baby?

This is the rule of thumb I've always lived by. Only broke it because school runs. Have to take the baby on those...

OwlInTheOak · 01/02/2025 16:09

No way, let baby sleep and if they wake happy hand them over, if they wake fussy then wait for another time unless they settle.
No reason why the baby should be woken up for an adults entertainment.

JollyViper · 01/02/2025 16:08

Isn't the general rule never wake a sleeping baby?

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parttimeworks · 01/02/2025 16:08

Drearycommuter · 01/02/2025 16:07

Nope, not if napping was a struggle. Suggest they hang around until they wake.

Baby will (sometimes) do 1.5 hour nap in the pram if there is background noise which is a while to linger in a cafe.

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Unrelated38 · 01/02/2025 16:08

Nope.

CaptainMyCaptain · 01/02/2025 16:08

No.

Fencehedge · 01/02/2025 16:08

Nooooo

Drearycommuter · 01/02/2025 16:07

Nope, not if napping was a struggle. Suggest they hang around until they wake.

CheshireCats · 01/02/2025 16:07

No

TheYearOfSmallThings · 01/02/2025 16:07

No way!