Would you hire a morbidly obese Nanny?

I had a runaway toddler and had to do couch to 5k to keep up with him. I can laugh about it now but he was a Houdini who could get out of reins and buggy harnesses. I had 10 months of having to travel in the back of the car to stop him climbing out of his restraints. We run together now and it’s lovely but there were times where I was genuinely terrified by him.

BMI aside, it's more about what you've seen. If she seems to struggle to walk, get up and down easily, play with an active toddler for prolonged periods etc then that's the problem. Not the BMI or the weight itself. I wouldn't care what her BMI was but I would care that she was active enough to keep up with a small child. If she doesn't seem to have that level of fitness then I wouldn't hire her. But if she seems able to do those things I wouldn't care about her weight on a scale.

As someone who is that size. No, I wouldn't hire her.for all the reasons above.

I wouldn’t tbh. It’s not really a good fit whilst baby is so young. That said a lovely lady who is v. large runs the local toddler group and is fab but she’ll bring a chair to sit on rather than get down to mats. I think it’d be easier once dc are 2.5 plus.

No. Further to the other points PP have made, there’s presumably a higher risk of her having a health emergency while in charge of your LO.

Definitely not. Toddlers are great at running away, usually towards a road and she wouldn't be able to catch him if he did that. So she couldn't keep your little one safe at all. It's just too physical a job for someone who is that size

No I wouldn't. It's important the nanny is physically fit enough to keep up with my child.

No I wouldn’t. They’d need to be able to take the toddler out and run after them, be able to get up and down off the floor quickly, up and down the stairs, play on the floor with them, be active. I would be worried that they would struggle with all of this unless they can demonstrate that they don’t.

No. If she's as overweight as you say she won't be modelling good earing habits to your baby/young child.

No, sorry. It's a very physical job.

My son is 15m, and when I'm lying on the floor it takes me a good few seconds to get up when he grabs me by the finger to run off.

He does this 30+ times a day.

This morning he determinedly kept running towards the road near the playground.

There's no way you can compare the mobility and needs of a 9m old to an older child.

I don't like to ask MIL to have my son more than half a day as she's had a hip replacement and you can see it's a lot for her - always trying to get him slowing down and sitting. And she's much fitter than this nanny sounds.

There’s someone fitting this description at my children’s nursery, she’s utterly lovely and used to be my youngest’s key worker. I had no problem at all in that context as there were always other carers in the room so if there were any issues that required someone fitter I’m confident he’d be ok. But for sole charge of a child I’d be very reluctant, for the reasons above.

No.

My BMI was 42 at one point and I wasn't the best mum I could be at that point because I couldn't run after them if needed. I couldn't play for long periods. Didn't want to get on the floor to play. Didn't want to do long walks in the park etc cause it exhausted me.

I would want a nanny to be able to do all that and more.

Recalling our nanny period, they were so active with DC, either reactively or proactively. I wouldn’t hire someone who struggled to move around freely and quickly on the basis it’s a job that will require activity, quick responses and speedy moves when they inevitably leg it away from the nanny in the park.

I wouldn’t for all of the reasons others have stated. Also, I know it’s a leap and could happen to ANYONE, but I would worry about her having a heart attack or stroke on the job.

You estimated her bmi by looking at her?

Does she plan to stay in your home or go to the park, baby groups etc?

Does she have any health issues that may impact your family? Eg does she have diabetes?

As a lone worker, no, I’d not want to leave my baby in her care. Do you have other options? Most childminders are lovely and love children.

Are you sure about BMI 50-60? Assuming she's the national average height for a woman in the UK of 5'3" she'd be around 17 - 20 stone?

I wouldn't - that's not just a bit overweight, it will put a significant limit on what she can do.

As your baby ages into a toddler you want someone who can run around a playground after them, take them in nature walks, go cycling... and at that size this nanny will not be able to do that...

No

The truth is that right or wrong many people wouldn't hire a morbidly obese person for any job. Personally I don't necessarily agree but there is notable prejudice against fat people sometimes for certain jobs it might be reasonable to say no though if they could not physically do the job but otherwise I wouldn't discriminate.

Flat no.