Would you hire a morbidly obese Nanny?

I know you think this is funny, but it really isn't. I imagine anyone over 10lbs in weight falling onto a baby isn't going to be great. Still, at least you got a jibe in. Maybe some of the others will laugh at your comment. Fingers crossed for you.

BTW what are all the no-fat-childcarers-allowed posters going to do when their child reaches primary age and they discover the early years teachers are obese? Complain to the headteacher?

In no way comparable. Teachers are not running after kids in a park or taking them out for activities twice a day. They are in a contained classroom. And also I've never seen a morbidly obese teacher - likely because they are not capable of the job.

What a disgusting comment.

No imagine if she fell on the baby 😱

So nobody is overweight because of medication or other issues then? It's all down to poor eating habits?

Definitely not.

For anyone looking after my baby or toddler I'd want them to be able to leap and run after them if needed. If she's so obese that she struggles to even get up from the floor, I'd say she's not suited to racing after a toddler and I'd be concerned from a safety aspect.

It's not 'fat hating' to state the facts. I've been into the bmi obese category myself in the past and find weight management testing. I'm not saying this as someone who's been an 8 stone athlete all their life 😂

We're all (hopefully) grownups here and realistic enough to recognise that our bodies ARE relevant to certain employment.

If you're incredibly short, you're not going to be a catwalk model. If you're very tall and muscly, you won't be a jockey. If you're blind, you cant be a taxi driver 🤷‍♀️

If you're obese, you're not going to be employed by some for whom physical fitness is important. At least for those of us that struggle with weight there is at least something that can be done about that, if the very thought offends you so much.

BusyCaz · Today 12:39
This thread has just been a hate thread about obese people, have a word with yourselfs

I don’t hate fat people. My husband has been obese or morbidly obese most of his adult life. Was when I met him. He would have been the first to admit as a younger, fat man that he could probably not keep up with a quick toddler .

As we’ve aged he’s taken control after several serious health scares. He’s losing weight and will exercise daily as soon as his recovery allows.

I adore him.

But I haven't said it's healthy, or that it can't be limiting, or that it doesn't cause pressure on our bodies or the NHS. That's an entirely separate argument.

I just think the judgement on this thread is absolutely vile. None of these people know this woman - they have no idea why she's the weight she is or what's happening in her life, yet they all think they have a free pass to call her lazy, gluttonous and incapable based on her weight.

By my calculation that gives you a BMI of 46… still a fair bit away from the 50-60 that OP has estimated. And I’m sorry, that’s great you are healthy by you simply can not possibly argue that your weight doesn’t put you at greater risk of health problems, it’s simply not true, and you will not find a health professional alive that will advise you to remain at this weight and you will be just fine. Same in somebody severely underweight. You’re an adult and absolutely entitled to do whatever you want with your body but others are also entitled to make decisions about who they employ to look after their children.

Im genuinely not trying to be judgmental, no one lives a perfectly healthy live, I certainly do not! I’m considered overweight currently with a BMI of 27 as haven’t quite shifted my baby weight but I am trying. I also don’t exercise as much as I should or eat as many vegetables as I should and probably too much salt I can absolutely admit that I’m at slightly higher risk of certain health conditions because of these things. But to suggest someone with a BMI of 50-60 can be perfectly healthy and active is ludicrous.

No, I would not. Firstly, they need to keep up with the child and secondly, they have poor eating habits themselves, means they might give your dc poor eating habits as well. Dc learn from what they see or what they are given. I would not chance it.

I wouldn't I'm afraid, it might be ok whilst baby's mobility hasn't peaked but as a fit and healthy person I still struggle keeping up with my into-everything-14 month old! You sometimes need lightning quick reflexes to keep them out of danger and a person who struggles to stand up and sit down isn't going to be able to do this

There's over weight and then seriously over weight
Wouldn't bat an eye lid at somebody over weight ... I am ... But I can easily get around with my child.
Dangerously seriously over weight I wouldn't employ for this particular role

I was almost 16stone before I lost weight,

I swim 2x a week for 90mins at a time - training in a squad, none of the heads up, chit chatting, glacial breaststroke bullshit waste of time swimming.

another stone on my weight would have made a difference actually, I would have been less inclined to move or mobilise.

losing 2 stone from where I was made a huge difference. Losing 4 has made me almost keen to get up and go do things. I still swim, but so much further and faster, I also do hard core gym workouts 3x a week and love it. Before all this I felt so old and sluggish. Being heavier like 17/18stone would have definitely impacted on what I do in terms of movement and activity. I’m 5’5” tho. If I were 5’3” the weight would be more impactful I imagine.

would I hire this person? No. Is that prejudice? Possibly, but that’s life. I’m sure I’ve been discriminated against or judged etc etc as a larger person.

I get all the body positive stuff in the media etc etc, but it isn’t healthy and it IS limiting us as people, it is causing pressure on our bodies AND the NHS.

we do need to stop giving the green light to live as you wish and someone else will come along and save you/make it all better.

Our fit, sporty, 22yo nanny gets exhausted doing 4 days a week. They go out twice a day to activities. Otherwise, how will your child socialise?

no way would I employ such an obese nanny for such an active job. I would consider them for a maternity nurse role if they were qualified and experienced. But any child over 6 months, it’s just not suitable.

What about slim people with joint disorders? Or T2 diabetes? Or who are so unfit they can't manage a couple of flights of stairs? Because there are plenty of them out there.

Do you sneer at them and dismiss them too? Or is just fat people who get your disdain and unpleasant judgement?

Yes, it is. Don't accuse people of lieing just because it rocks your perception of lazy fattys.

Err because 17 stone on a 6ft tall woman is not so much of a problem as on a 5ft woman. I refuse to believe all these morbidly obese people are as active as slim or even slightly overweight people, it’s just not possible.

I wonder if people are allowed to be skinny with T2 diabetes and joint disorders, or is it only an issue if you're fat

No, sorry, I would not have employed an obese nanny.
My son was diagnosed with hyperactivity, he kept me on the go from morning till night, had I employed a nanny she would have had to be very fit to keep up with him.

I know some very fat people are also fit, but if I had the choice, I would not have chosen an obese person.

No from me. We had a nanny in her 40s with back pain and the kids were older and even that was difficult (going places etc). However, it was the young svelte nanny who lost one of ours in the park.

Presumably, had I said I was 6 feet tall then I might have been allowed to be acceptably just a bit porky at 17 stone.

What's that got to do with anything?

I am 5 foot 4. So, yes.

This thread is really exposing a lot of prejudice! That's not to say it doesn't reflect attitudes in wider society ... but IMO anyone applying this type of thinking deserves to get less-good childcare than they are hoping for.
BTW what are all the no-fat-childcarers-allowed posters going to do when their child reaches primary age and they discover the early years teachers are obese? Complain to the headteacher?

Skinny people can be incapable of climbing trees and chasing toddlers too.

Most of this thread is just the usual MN fat-bashing. 17 stone hardly makes her some massive freak of nature incapable of caring for child.

If MN had their way, any fat parents would have their kids removed for abuse and neglect judging by the responses on here. It's grim as fuck.