Would you hire a morbidly obese Nanny?

I'm not morbidly obese so I'm not sure how I'm supposed to be in denial 🙄

I guess I just don't find it necessary to be so unpleasantly judgemental towards a woman I know nothing about, and who hasn't even consented to having this thread written about her to begin with.

But they are in a classroom sitting down not running around parks and at risk if running into a busy road. Plus if a child needed first aid they can call for assistance

But presumably the nanny is relatively young? She won’t have been eating a chocolate bar extra every day for 50 years to become morbidly obese. The absolute denial on here is unbelievable. ‘Oh I’m morbidly obese because I enjoy biscuits with my tea’ 🙄

Makes them feel better about themselves, probably.

I wonder how many of them are overweight themselves.

My highest weight at 5'3" was 19st 7lb which put me at BMI 48. BMI 55 would have been about 22st.

I was in my 20s and hadn't yet developed serious health issues but it was a matter of time. I felt terrible, had back pain if I walked too fast or too long and got seriously out of breath just climbing the stairs. I could have looked after a baby just fine and would have also cooked and served perfectly appropriate and healthy food for children.

What I wouldn't have been able to do was lots of physical play or chase after an errant toddler quickly in a dangerous situation.

Luckily I lost the weight and now vary between BMI 22-30ish depending on how well I'm doing. Ill struggle with my weight forever but hope to never get so big it physically constricts me again. An overweight or even lower obese nanny would be fine but I wouldn't have hired myself at my highest weight for safety reasons.

So what weight do people suddenly become a danger around children? 14 stone? 15? 16? Should all child-carers be weighed once a term to make sure they haven't gone from "safe" to "dangerous"?

Do you report all the single, obese parents out there for being dangers to their kids, or is it just potential nannies who get the nasty judgement?

What is the MN obsession with fat people?!

Rubbish. I'm an overweight nanny, have been a nanny for 34 years and I haven't had a day off sick for over 20 years. Also, I have no trouble running around after the kids.

It will make you morbidly obese if you do it everyday for years.

But there are other people in the building or on trips to parks.And the kids are older and not trying to throw themselves out of the window, like DS used to do.
Perhaps I should say teachers are not usually on their own in dangerous situations like crossing the road or near a water body.

Lol a bar over your daily calories would not make you morbidly obese. I eat chocolate most days and I'm slightly overweight. Definitely nowhere near morbidly obese.

Second fat bashing thread of the day
Let's all pile on and say how awful fat people are and they can't possibly do their job

Doesn't what?
Both overweight and slimmer people can be affected by health issues however more often than not being overweight exacerbates the problem, sometimes it's the cause, sometimes the issue itself, and sometimes makes treatment more challenging. I'm not having a go at heavier people it's just the way it is.

That will make you overweight not morbidly obese. If you’re 20 stone you’re eating more than a Kit Kat extra every day!

Eh? Many teachers are in sole charge of a classroom full of kids!

@roses2 Gosh what world do you live in that you have never seen an obese teacher?

I was quite interested in a PP's post that her fit, svelte nanny once lost a child in the park 😱

What do you really need in a nanny OP?
Reliable, honest and long-serving enough to suit your needs?
Compassionate carer?
Educated in childcare methods that suit your values eg food you prefer to give?
Etc

Against this, how important is your husband's disguised distaste/disgust for certain female bodies?

Exactly. You only need to eat a tiny amount extra everyday to put on weight. It really doesn't take much at all.

It's not about weight or BMI per se, it's about fitness, mobility, stamina, energy levels, eagerness to run around doing things and the ability to keep your child safe as they transition from baby to toddler to school. Nannying is a strenuous job!

Of course you can care for a child when you have limited fitness and mobility, but the child's life and experiences will inevitably be adapted to suit the adult's needs. Presumably you'll working your arse off to afford your nanny, so why would you pay to limit your child's early years? That puzzles me.

There was a segment on LBC this week about the increasing numbers of ordinary children without special needs who are entering reception class at school lacking basic readiness in all sorts of ways - from still in nappies; to can't recognise a pencil, or have the fine motor skills to use it; or know how turn the pages of a book; or not fit enough to climb stairs or play outdoors; or even lack the core strength to sit upright on the floor. It was James O'Brien's show if you want to track it down. Some of those children will be coming from very inactive homes.

Teachers and nursery staff are not in sole charge.

I agree.
If someone is hiring a nanny, they have the right to choose who they believe is right for the job.
It's nothing to do with 'hating' obese people, it's to do with wanting the best person, in their opinion, to look after their child.

If you genuinely think children aren't safe with a 17 stone nanny - I assume you're going to social services and reporting every single parent of that size? What about teachers, nursery nurses, childminders? Should they all lose their jobs because they're unfit to work and unsafe around their charges?

Or is it just an anonymous stranger on the internet who can be bullied and picked on by a bunch of grown women?

Yes I was correcting the incorrect assumption that obesity in itself is a mental health disorder.

Maybe some people are being nasty. But I've seen most saying she wouldn't be fit for the job and the childs safety is the most important thing.

You do not need to eat that much extra. A bar of chocolate over your daily calories will do it.

This may not be popular but I was 18stone.

I'm now 9 stone.

When I was obese I told myself it was because I had bad knees and couldn't exercise, that I haf borderline hypothyroidism which made me gain weight, that inwas heavy set and genetically a big person.

That my depression medication made me gain weight.

Non of that was true.

My knees and health were bad because I was fat. Not the other way round.

I overate. I binged. I chose the wrong foods. I was depressed and used food as comfort.

I think that's the case for alot of fat people but it's a way of protecting yourself, the denial.

It's only when you're out the other side you can see that. Like with other addictions.