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New Dubai and - deeply uncomfortable

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UnderTheStairs51 · 31/01/2025 23:58

There seems to be a new ad promoting Dubai as a holiday destination.

The one that starts and ends with 'swim first'.

I have been sad enough to pause it and hands are bare of rings walking through the market so no indication they are a married couple.

You'd run a risk to behave in the way shown on a public beach surely. They are not in swimming gear so what's the implication here?

I do think people should understand local rules when they visit other places but this seems to send out a message completely at odds with this.

Just me?

OP posts:
colinthedogfromaccounts · 01/02/2025 22:19

DaphneduMaureen · 01/02/2025 15:20

Not been, don’t comment?? 😅😅

Ok, I guess I can’t have an opinion on the taliban because I’ve never been to Saudi Arabia.

Dubai is gross.

Hahaha. You got the wrong country.

Brush up on your middle eastern Geography. Showing yourself up as ignorant.

Not visiting somewhere because you don't like the political establishment is a very closed minded way to live. Go to the places that make you uncomfortable - it's the only way to add light and shade to the beautifully complexity of other cultures. You don't have to like it or agree with it - but for heaven's sake stop bashing what you clearly know NOTHING about and judging by your own standards.

Edited to add: it is ok to visit somewhere and respect the local customs.

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 19:32

Littler?

Yes all along the verges. It’s depressing.

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 19:26

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 19:17

I wonder what reasons people from other countries have for not wanting to come to UK.
I would guess mugging and phone theft - in cities, anyway.

Litter?

We're probably quite high on the international litter scale

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 19:17

I wonder what reasons people from other countries have for not wanting to come to UK.
I would guess mugging and phone theft - in cities, anyway.

Moulook31 · 01/02/2025 19:02

lilyanna80 · 01/02/2025 11:18

And sorry but MN's obsession with bashing the Middle East and their muslim culture reeks of racism under the guise of other concerns.

100%!

Goldenbear · 01/02/2025 18:35

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 14:38

Well some argue, I had a teacher that argued that theft was just and fair if society was set up in a way that was going to unequally distribute resources and this was after they were burgled.

Does the teacher not realise that few, if any, thieves are Robin Hood figures who will distribute their ill-gotten gains to the less well off?

It was the 90s so he is probably dead now as pretty old then.

Ncncncncncncncncd · 01/02/2025 18:15

Rrally, if that ad is as described, the only issue is the skinny dipping. Someone record it for us😂 I am well curious now.

Doggydoctor · 01/02/2025 18:00

UnderTheStairs51 · 31/01/2025 23:58

There seems to be a new ad promoting Dubai as a holiday destination.

The one that starts and ends with 'swim first'.

I have been sad enough to pause it and hands are bare of rings walking through the market so no indication they are a married couple.

You'd run a risk to behave in the way shown on a public beach surely. They are not in swimming gear so what's the implication here?

I do think people should understand local rules when they visit other places but this seems to send out a message completely at odds with this.

Just me?

Cat on keyboard

UnderTheStairs51 · 01/02/2025 17:52

I live in Scotland. I feel about this advert like I would for a Visit Scotland campaign showing people heading up Ben Nevis in shorts, wild camping on the shores of Loch Lomond in summer and having a jolly good laugh with a bunch of Rangers supporters because they'd accidentally walked into an Ibrox bub on matchday wearing a Celtic shirt.

All of it is possible, you'd probably not come to harm and it's likely you'd get away with it and not find yourself in hot water with the law.

But none of it would be a good idea and X would have a field day ripping it to bits.

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Lovethatforyouhun · 01/02/2025 17:47

LondonPapa · 01/02/2025 07:36

You mean the guy who raped a girl as she was under aged? There were also a bunch of other implications. I hate to say it but he kinda deserved it as it was a literal fuck around and find out moment for him.

You are unhinged.

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 17:33

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 17:27

Because my post was about Cuba, follow the thread!!!

Yes, you were talking about obesity becoming an issue in Cuba. I was saying similar about Dubai, which was the original subject of the thread! Which was perfectly clear because of the frequent references to the UAE and Emiratis!

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 17:27

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 16:47

Why would I be talking about Cuba?

Because my post was about Cuba, follow the thread!!!

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 17:02

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:59

@NowThatYouSayIt

The discussion about whether it is ethically acceptable to go to Dubai led to further discussion as to where else might be an ethically unacceptable destination.
Soupyspoon mentioned Florida and I suggested Cuba which led to a couple of posts about that country and its health service.

Yes, but I had UAE placenames and references to Emiratis throughout my post!

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:59

@NowThatYouSayIt

The discussion about whether it is ethically acceptable to go to Dubai led to further discussion as to where else might be an ethically unacceptable destination.
Soupyspoon mentioned Florida and I suggested Cuba which led to a couple of posts about that country and its health service.

AliasGrace47 · 01/02/2025 16:51

MargaretThursday · 01/02/2025 09:22

It's very easy to get an impression of a country from your own country's news, without it being the reality of the situation.

Last summer I got a message from an American friend asking if we were okay with all the riots. They'd actually stopped weeks ago but their news was still reporting about them as though there were many happening daily. He was astounded when I gave the actual situation. He'd got the impression from their news that there were riots most towns/cities daily.

Equally well I was in a conversation once with a refugee from Bosnia and another from Iraq. In both cases what we saw on the news had no relation on what their lived experience both had been and now was. It was very interesting.

If I can ask, what was the difference between their experiences in Bosnia & Iraq, and the news? Sorry to derail, but I'm v interested in those places.

& I agree on the riots. It was scary & horrible for the country & vile where it actually happened. But from reddit people seemed to have the impression we'd been taken over by the KKK & that no POC emigree would ever be safe here again.

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 16:47

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 16:43

You're talking about Dubai, not Cuba?

Why would I be talking about Cuba?

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 16:43

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 16:42

Huge problems with obesity and diabetes, so they’re funding research. But a friend of DH’s, a well known consultant at the Mayo clinic, was invited to address medical students in Dubai, and was taken aback at how many of them had no intention of practicing medicine. He said one said his family planned for him to be Minister for Health so he was killing time, and another said her future husband liked the idea of a wife with a prestigious degree. Obviously all university fees are paid for Emiratis, so no one has made sacrifices to be there.

This consultant had organised an event with several Nobel Prize winners in Abu Dhabi with medical students being bussed in from Dubai — a fabulous opportunity to meet world leaders in medicine and medical research. A total of two students showed up. He had a platform of Nobel laureates and an empty auditorium.

It highlighted for me some of the problems with ‘emiratisation’, when there’s little or no incentive to work hard, as there are heavy government subsidies available. As you had to have an Emirati partner in any foreign-owned business, and hence a certain number of Emirati employees, DH had endless issues with what used to be called ‘ghost employees’, rich kids who only showed up occasionally to keep their families sweet.

Being a very small, newly very rich society numerically dominated by foreign workers with no stake in your country causes lots of problems.

Edited

You're talking about Dubai, not Cuba?

NowThatYouSayIt · 01/02/2025 16:42

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 16:30

Yes Ive just been googling it, its quite a polarised situation because their health stats (not sure of right now) have been better than many countries, outstanding in some cases, and thats because they are big on preventing, you'll basically be hounded by a nurse or doctor at your own home to have health checks, pestered if you drink too much or smoke or drugs or whatever, prevention was focused on because as a nation they're simply too poor to manage if and when people do get disease

However they do lack equipment and drugs and as time goes on, the population are becoming more weighty, like much more rich countries and of course obesity is causing problems.

Fascinating.

Sorry OP, nothing to do with Dubai.

Huge problems with obesity and diabetes, so they’re funding research. But a friend of DH’s, a well known consultant at the Mayo clinic, was invited to address medical students in Dubai, and was taken aback at how many of them had no intention of practicing medicine. He said one said his family planned for him to be Minister for Health so he was killing time, and another said her future husband liked the idea of a wife with a prestigious degree. Obviously all university fees are paid for Emiratis, so no one has made sacrifices to be there.

This consultant had organised an event with several Nobel Prize winners in Abu Dhabi with medical students being bussed in from Dubai — a fabulous opportunity to meet world leaders in medicine and medical research. A total of two students showed up. He had a platform of Nobel laureates and an empty auditorium.

It highlighted for me some of the problems with ‘emiratisation’, when there’s little or no incentive to work hard, as there are heavy government subsidies available. As you had to have an Emirati partner in any foreign-owned business, and hence a certain number of Emirati employees, DH had endless issues with what used to be called ‘ghost employees’, rich kids who only showed up occasionally to keep their families sweet.

Being a very small, newly very rich society numerically dominated by foreign workers with no stake in your country causes lots of problems.

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 16:30

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:27

This is true, dont they have a fantastic health service though or have I mixed them up with someone else.

I cannot speak from experience as I’ve never been there and nor do I know anyone who has had experience of Cuban healthcare. However I googled it and basically those writing from a left wing perspective say it’s world class - rather like socialists in the first half of 20th century said life in the Soviet Union was wonderful for everyone - but those writing from a right wing perspective say it is far from world class, there are serious shortages, doctors are so badly paid they have second jobs, and the ‘world class’ medical care is only for the Cuban ruling class and their families.

Yes Ive just been googling it, its quite a polarised situation because their health stats (not sure of right now) have been better than many countries, outstanding in some cases, and thats because they are big on preventing, you'll basically be hounded by a nurse or doctor at your own home to have health checks, pestered if you drink too much or smoke or drugs or whatever, prevention was focused on because as a nation they're simply too poor to manage if and when people do get disease

However they do lack equipment and drugs and as time goes on, the population are becoming more weighty, like much more rich countries and of course obesity is causing problems.

Fascinating.

Sorry OP, nothing to do with Dubai.

Mercurial123 · 01/02/2025 16:29

Dubai is mostly a soulless, vapid place. The Creek area is fine but to go on holiday why would you?

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:27

This is true, dont they have a fantastic health service though or have I mixed them up with someone else.

I cannot speak from experience as I’ve never been there and nor do I know anyone who has had experience of Cuban healthcare. However I googled it and basically those writing from a left wing perspective say it’s world class - rather like socialists in the first half of 20th century said life in the Soviet Union was wonderful for everyone - but those writing from a right wing perspective say it is far from world class, there are serious shortages, doctors are so badly paid they have second jobs, and the ‘world class’ medical care is only for the Cuban ruling class and their families.

soupyspoon · 01/02/2025 16:15

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:06

People go to Florida and other US destinations happy enough dont they?

Also people go to Cuba and say things like “the Cubans are so poor, I mean they’ve got nothing but they are all really happy”.
Maybe the Cubans locked up for criticism of the regime and their families aren’t so happy. It’s got an appalling human rights record which a quick google will demonstrate, but plenty of people with liberal views and who support democracy go there.

This is true, dont they have a fantastic health service though or have I mixed them up with someone else?

Barbadossunset · 01/02/2025 16:06

People go to Florida and other US destinations happy enough dont they?

Also people go to Cuba and say things like “the Cubans are so poor, I mean they’ve got nothing but they are all really happy”.
Maybe the Cubans locked up for criticism of the regime and their families aren’t so happy. It’s got an appalling human rights record which a quick google will demonstrate, but plenty of people with liberal views and who support democracy go there.

ItWasnaMeGuv · 01/02/2025 16:01

SecretSoul · 01/02/2025 10:45

I guess Amnesty International are batshit too 🙄

Yes they are, they have embraced the batshit trans rights which believes men who say they are women, ARE women and that women should shut their mouths and accept men in their single sex spaces, sports etc. Disgraceful, shameful of this once important organisation.

Weepixie · 01/02/2025 15:51

Presumably not so in an impromptu way while wearing a short sequin dress though

I don't think this particular advert is representing what you describe

I suspect you’re so determined for it not to be possible and for the advert to be selling a lie that you’ve given yourself tunnel vision and are incapable of believing it’s entirely possible to swim at night, even after a date whilst wearing a short sequinned dress.

And the now mention of an unworldly 18 years old really falls into the realms of you over egging the pudding.