Dog seriously ill, due to go to Australia on Sunday

So your partner is looking after the dog?

Go on the holiday.

Obviously there would be more than that 🙄

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Not sure who you are or where you fit into this. I’ve not been even a tiny bit vile about OPs pet… such a random comment.

If your partner is at home, I'd go. It seems like he's laying a guilt trip on you.

I'm sorry to hear about your pup. My girl had a tumour removed a couple of weeks ago. She has spent most of her recovery time on my knee or sleeping in her basket next to my desk. She's been with my partner for cuddles too, but she's more attached to me as I do the food. If we had your situation and a poorly doggie needing an operation, we wouldn't be getting on that plane.

But I’m not the one being utterly vile about a sick beloved pet. You reap what you sow.

No way would I be able to go. I could not enjoy a holiday while worrying about my dog and what if, God forbid, she dies while you are away? I would never forgive myself for not being there with her at the end

I agree. My beloved Standard poodle developed a squamous Cell Carcinoma (a really nasty cancer that rots the skin and tissue underneath it) on her toe. She was 11. She had surgery to remove the toe and had 18 months of healthy life after it. Having subjected a previous dog to too much on the advice of a money grabbing vet and regretted it bitterly on her behalf later, I already knew that I wouldn’t not subject her to further surgery, 18-months later, she developed another and, like you, I chose palliative care (despite the senior partner in my veterinary practice trying to talk me into further surgery. My decision was correct when an 3rd tumor became evident weeks later. When the pain become too much, I had her peacefully PTS at home.

Well you’re very stupid to think that an insurance company would accept “I’m ill” as a potential claim!!

Like another poster, I would seriously question the necessity of the operation with a 75% success rate.
How old is the dog and how big is the tumour? The age of the dog can easily push it into the 25% fail rate. Will there be follow up treatments? What are the estimated costs?
Can you afford this?

Personally I would go on holiday, provided that you live with your partner and the dog stays in its home environment.

I wouldn't go. Nothing on the scale of Australia but we cancelled several holidays when our cat was diagnosed with heart failure as we knew he wouldn't have long.

I'm probably going wildly against the mumsnet grain here, but I simply do not understand the logic of keeping animals alive when they're in pain. They don't have the capacity to understand past pain.

Surely that depends in the long term prognosis. My cat broke his jaw and had to have it wired. Yes he would have been in pain at the time but not something I would have been comfortable to PTS for. And where do you draw the line? He sprained his leg playing and was limping so that must have hurt. Should he have been PTS for that?

Literally this!

Right back at you 😘

Possibly an uncommon view point but I wouldn't spend thousands removing a tumour unless it was guaranteed to be a success.

I would leave my pet with my partner (if dog was comfortable) or PTS.

Easy decision for me, I wouldn't go. Australia/vacations will always be available but your pup will not. Wishing your pup all the best for the op.

I would still go as realistically there is little you can do that your partner can not do and it sounds like you may not be able to afford this holiday for many years, if ever. Unexpected things happen to all of us, you may never get another chance. .
Your dog has someone able to take care of them, they could even leave them with the vet a little longer if they are worried.

I hope you asked your vet some searching questions about quality of life post treatment.

I probably wouldn't be putting the dog through the surgery.. but more info is needed to say for sure, obviously.

If the surgery were to go ahead then nothing would make me get on the plane and leave her.

I couldn't go and leave her.

It’s because personal attacks are not allowed. Stupid point on your behalf about me ‘inserting myself’ considering the person you attacked wasn’t talking to you but you didn’t like their comment and so ‘inserted’ yourself there. ‘If you don’t like a comment maybe move on because it wasn’t even aimed at you in the first place.’

Take your own advice hey. And il comment where I like thank you 😊

You are in a terrible situation. I’m sorry about your dog and your holiday.

I think I’d stay with the dog.

If you are questioning what to do, I don’t think you will ever be happy with your decision. If you stay and the operation is successful you will regret not going. If it’s not, you will be thankful you stayed.

It’s a tough one but whatever you decide good luck.

Imma go out on a limb and say partner isn't happy because partner does not want to be left doing what partner considers too much like hard (domestic) work.