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LastHope30Something · 2025-01-31T20:05:21+00:00

If not what has been your best decade? What made each decade good/bad

Tweensandterribletwos · 31/01/2025 20:57

Neither. I had DD1 at 24 and DD2 at 30. Wish I’d had them closer together so I could have actually enjoyed myself at some point…bring on my 40s!

Danikm151 · 31/01/2025 20:52

20s were way better. I had money even on crappy pay!

Abridget7 · 31/01/2025 20:48

20s were fun but never had much money climbing career ladder.
30s I met my partner, our careers were good and we had a lot of disposable income before kids came along and had great times, luxury holidays and so much freedom to do and buy what we wanted.
40s I’m finding hard so far. Tired from young kids. Career has nose dived. Weight gain and general peri symptoms not fun. Would love to wind back clock for a while and be early 30s again.

PreferMyAnimals · 31/01/2025 20:47

I loved my 20s and I think it's the time of life I was happiest. But I did do most things through my 20s that most people would do in their 30s (have a bunch of kids, for example). I don't think it will ever get better than that.

RuthW · 31/01/2025 20:46

30s were awful.

40s better

50s best yet

WinterFoxes · 31/01/2025 20:43

Way better. I met DH aged 20 and we married when I was 30. I switched careers to a job I love and am good at. I had DC, we bought a house. My twenties were penniless chaos and horrible men. I was hard work too. Meeting DH stabilised me.

LemonViewer · 31/01/2025 20:43

20's were hard for me. I made bad choices, both in friends, relationships and to an extent career. 30's were much better than 20s, I felt more sure of myself, and able to make better decisions and set boundaries. 40's so far has been the absolute best. Got a lovely husband, two gorgeous sons, and changed career to one I am absolutely loving, I also have my priorities where they need to be more than ever before

polkalfie · 31/01/2025 20:41

Um I've enjoyed both tbh. 20s I was having children, getting married, getting my career off the ground, 30s has been spent enjoying the groundwork of my 20s I guess! But not sure I could pick, 30s has been much more financially secure, more holidays and financial freedom, but 20s were an adventure and I was much more care free even with the responsibility I had from a young age. Both spent with my husband who I met young and who always has been, and continues to be, my best friend. Very lucky. Wouldn't change a thing.

researchers3 · 31/01/2025 20:40

The best bits of my 20s were very good. Better than tge best bits of my 30s.
But my 30s were probably better over all.
My 40s have largely been very tough and can F right off.

xRobin · 31/01/2025 20:38

I can’t quite compare yet as I’m early 30’s.
20’s were horrendous and full of so much death, anguish, rough shit times.
I did become a Mum though and she absolutely saved me from a mental breakdown to be honest.
I’m now early 30’s and much happier, more settled. Still a lot of room for improvement regarding happiness etc. but it gives me so much hope for the rest of my 30’s and into my 40’s.

Redcandlescandal · 31/01/2025 20:36

My twenties were wild and carefree, travelled loads and lived abroad.

Thirties were lovely baby years.

Forties were bloody awful. Marriage disintegrating around me.

Fifties have definitely been my best decade. I am full of confidence and have a lovely house, great job and being single is wonderful. I feel like I did in my twenties again, like there’s so many fabulous opportunities and life is great!

Anonym00se · 31/01/2025 20:36

I wouldn’t swap my 40s for 20s/30s. My children are grown up, I have lots of free time to pursue hobbies and travels, the mortgage is paid off, I have a lot more money and since menopause I’ve lost every single fuck that I’d previously have given. I’m happy to give up my pert arse and small waist for all that!

grafittiartist · 31/01/2025 20:35

Loved my 30's!
Felt young but old enough to be taken seriously.
Really settled into myself.

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:31

Menopants · 31/01/2025 20:30

My 50’s rock , grown up kids dating a hot new guy no fucks given

That’s amazing. Glad things are going well for you.

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Menopants · 31/01/2025 20:30

My 50’s rock , grown up kids dating a hot new guy no fucks given

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:29

User8050 · 31/01/2025 20:27

Yes 100%, 30's has been better so far. Two small kiddos, overwhelming responsibility & tired most of the time - but I've stopped waiting for life to be magical all on its own. Have made a conscious effort to romanticize the little things, and it's been beautiful.

Aww that’s so lovely. You’re just right. It’s the little things that makes the difference

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:29

Goldenmemories · 31/01/2025 20:25

40s is better than both

I hope that’s the case for me too. Glad you’re having a brilliant 40’s

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:28

Justnippinginthegaragelove · 31/01/2025 20:24

20's were carefree, full of travel and fun times, no one to worry about, just so much fun! But always felt there was something missing. 30's filled that void with kids and setting down, but along with that came tough times, sleepless nights and responsibility. I'd still say I was happier in my 30's overall!

I’m glad you are happier now. I wish I had your carefree 20s as mines was full of pain with a bit of fun lol

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coldcallerbaiter · 31/01/2025 20:28

They were both good but in different ways.

User8050 · 31/01/2025 20:27

Yes 100%, 30's has been better so far. Two small kiddos, overwhelming responsibility & tired most of the time - but I've stopped waiting for life to be magical all on its own. Have made a conscious effort to romanticize the little things, and it's been beautiful.

Goldenmemories · 31/01/2025 20:25

40s is better than both

Justnippinginthegaragelove · 31/01/2025 20:24

20's were carefree, full of travel and fun times, no one to worry about, just so much fun! But always felt there was something missing. 30's filled that void with kids and setting down, but along with that came tough times, sleepless nights and responsibility. I'd still say I was happier in my 30's overall!

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:19

Firebird83 · 31/01/2025 20:16

Much better. My 20s were awful. I’m definitely happier now I’m in my mid 30s.

I’m glad you’re happier now. I hope I will be soon too.

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Firebird83 · 31/01/2025 20:16

Much better. My 20s were awful. I’m definitely happier now I’m in my mid 30s.

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LastHope30Something · 31/01/2025 20:11

Yoheresthestory · 31/01/2025 20:10

Hard to choose. They’ve all been epic so far. Fab childhood like Enid blyton style countryside freedom. Teen years in boarding school which was so much fun. 20s lived abroad and worked in an amazing job. 30s moved home, married, bought gorgeous forever home, had 4 kids. 40s changed to an even better career I’m loving and we’re all travelling as a family loads.so grateful for how incredibly rich and full of experiences my life has been.

Aww that’s amazing I’m so glad you’re having an amazing life. I would love your life lol.

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