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To walk my dog this way?

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Frequency · 31/01/2025 18:54

This is going to be long so apologies in advance but I need to clarify a few things because I know what MN is like and I don't want people reading things that are not there.

Firstly, I have 100% control of my dog at all times. It might not always look like I do, but I do. If I don't want to walk at a certain speed, we don't walk at that speed. We don't cross a road if I don't want to cross it. He is trained to come to my side and sit or lay down when told, however, I cannot get him to stop pulling so he is not trained to walk nicely at my side. If I stop and tell him to come sit he will come to my side but if we're walking and he's not wearing his head collar, he is pulling.

I've lost a lot of weight recently but have hit a plateau so I've been looking into ways to increase exercise and my fitness. I used to enjoy running but would feel too guilty going for a long run and leaving the dog at home and I don't think running in his head collar would be comfortable for him, so I considered cani-cross.

After lots of practice in our secure, enclosed garden, I have found a combination of leads and harnesses that allow him to pull or drag me but still give me total control.

We've now taken to the street with our jogging. We're not in full cani-cross mode yet, he is still learning left, right, and halt so I am controlling the speed, even though, to an onlooker, it appears as though I am being dragged along behind him. I can also instantly change the tension on his lead so I am leading him by the front clip and he can no longer pull.

Anyway... to get to the point I was focused on the pavement in front of us and what was coming towards us, not what was on the other side of the road so I did not notice a fellow dog walker come towards us on the other side before the dog did. He spotted them and tried to pull across the road at which point I stopped, changed the tension, and brought him to my opposite side. About half a second after we stopped my dog picked up a scent and lost interest in the other dog walker so I let him pick up speed again and we started jogging. All was fine, no drama but the other dog walker froze.

At first, it confused me. I completely accept that it looked as though we were out of control until I noticed him, but why stop and freeze? Then it occurred to me that he might have been frightened and didn't know what else to do. The last thing I want to do is scare people who just want a quiet stroll with or without their dogs, so now I am unsure if I am BU practicing cani-cross where there are other people, unfortunately, the other option I have is not to continue our training as I don't have access to any private spaces except the garden and even once we are fully trained and running it will still look like I cannot control my dog and being dragged along behind him to people who are not aware of the sport.

So AIBU to continue?

OP posts:
Snowmanscarf · 31/01/2025 18:59

So you were one side of the road, and other dog walker was on the other side of the road? How far did your dog pull across the road? I guess the other person thought you were heading towards them and got scared.

takealettermsjones · 31/01/2025 18:58

Why can't you always use the lead that stops him pulling? I'm not sure I'm following. Also what kind of dog is he/what size?

Runningoutofthyme · 31/01/2025 18:56

sounds like you just need to be more aware of your surroundings when out running with your dog 🤷‍♀️