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A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 13:50

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

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PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:47

PistachioPickle · 31/01/2025 22:45

I'm talking about posters here but you already knew that.

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Strange world where people are more offended by women standing up for other women than men who abuse women for no reason. But hey, you do you.

PistachioPickle · 31/01/2025 22:45

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:36

Yep, this man had no reason to call OP stupid.

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I'm talking about posters here but you already knew that.

User67556 · 31/01/2025 22:45

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/01/2025 22:44

Truth hurts? WTF?
You think it's ok for a complete stranger to talk to somebody like that? Your standards are low.

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Do you think it's OK to bash into someone with your pram because you were looking on your phone?

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:45

nodramaplz · 31/01/2025 22:14

I'd be irritated if someone nudged me with a pram cause they were on a phone!

Hi just to be clear, I was backing out from the lift
So my back touched his wife not my pram bumping unto them.

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PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:45

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:32

Thanks for confirming OP. Still not convinced you were in the right I'm afraid, but I appreciate the clarity.

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Here’s your cue to apologise to the OP for accusing her of lying about expecting a GP call. I’ll wait…

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/01/2025 22:44

User67556 · 31/01/2025 13:59

I mean sometimes the truth hurts. Next time don't look at your phone.

Truth hurts? WTF?
You think it's ok for a complete stranger to talk to somebody like that? Your standards are low.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:42

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:39

I am very much aware that I was in the wrong here. And I really learned from this experience. I was overtaken by my emotions at the heat of the moment and really should have handled it differently. But I still feel like he could have said it in a nicer way than just point blank "she's stupid". When he is literally right next to me and straight after I apologized.

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You apologised, there’s nothing more you could do. He was a total tit for having a hissy fit about it.

Id step away from the thread now OP people are going really low after you simply knocked your back into another person’s back.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:41

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:38

OP, you were absolutely fine. It’s good you’re teaching your daughter that women should stand up for yourself.

Don’t be taken in by some of the responses here, there are a lot of people posting in bad faith here who will always tell a woman she is in the wrong for standing up for herself.

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And for some reason people having phones in their hand really triggers some players to have like absolute vermin. Ignore the hate, half these people haven’t even read your OP properly

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:40

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:34

I really felt awful after I utter those words. It's a lesson learnt for me. I was just so taken aback after hearing that when we are just literally next to each other. But yes I am learning from this experience and thank you for the advice.

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Honestly OP you showed your DD you don’t take unwarranted nasty insults. It’s a valuable lesson bags good for girls to learn you did nothing wrong - and who cares if you bumped into someone. Big whoop. It happens all the time, random men having little tantrums about it (when it didn’t even happen to them) are the ones being shit parents

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:39

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:32

Thanks for confirming OP. Still not convinced you were in the right I'm afraid, but I appreciate the clarity.

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I am very much aware that I was in the wrong here. And I really learned from this experience. I was overtaken by my emotions at the heat of the moment and really should have handled it differently. But I still feel like he could have said it in a nicer way than just point blank "she's stupid". When he is literally right next to me and straight after I apologized.

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PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:38

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:34

I really felt awful after I utter those words. It's a lesson learnt for me. I was just so taken aback after hearing that when we are just literally next to each other. But yes I am learning from this experience and thank you for the advice.

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OP, you were absolutely fine. It’s good you’re teaching your daughter that women should stand up for yourself.

Don’t be taken in by some of the responses here, there are a lot of people posting in bad faith here who will always tell a woman she is in the wrong for standing up for herself.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:38

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:32

Thanks for confirming OP. Still not convinced you were in the right I'm afraid, but I appreciate the clarity.

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What do you mean confirming she put it in her OP 😂😂

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:38

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:29

Again, no. It's hypocritical of OP to imply he's a bad person for using the word 'stupid' in front of her child, when she did exactly the same thing. He might be a bad person - but he's not the one on here trying to garner sympathy and paint OP in a bad light.

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He could be somewhere else talking about it you will never know. It’s just odd that you are aggrieved that OP made a MN post. Why shouldn’t she?

Also it’s not hypocritical - he started the insult. So OP had two options - stand up for herself or say nothing. I’d certainly say something if anyone called me stupid in public, warranted or not. Never a need for adults to resort to petty insults.

Now that you (finally) know OP didn’t ram the woman’s legs with her ‘heavy pram’ do you feel differently? It was one back bumping into another. Has this never happened to you?

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:36

PistachioPickle · 31/01/2025 22:35

Some people really love the sound of their own voice.

Yep, this man had no reason to call OP stupid.

PistachioPickle · 31/01/2025 22:35

Some people really love the sound of their own voice.

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:35

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:29

Again, no. It's hypocritical of OP to imply he's a bad person for using the word 'stupid' in front of her child, when she did exactly the same thing. He might be a bad person - but he's not the one on here trying to garner sympathy and paint OP in a bad light.

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She’s not saying he’s a bad person for using the word stupid in front of her child, she’s annoyed because he called HER stupid, because, as she says ‘he intentionally wanted me to hear it’.

She did hear it, as did her 2yo, who then repeated, "Mum, are you stupid."

How you can defend this scrote of a man is beyond me.

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:34

Wordsmithery · 31/01/2025 14:05

You (rudely) didn't pay attention. He (rudely) called you stupid. No need for you to drop to his level by returning the insult. Sets a terrible example for your daughter. Not what you want to hear, I suspect.

I really felt awful after I utter those words. It's a lesson learnt for me. I was just so taken aback after hearing that when we are just literally next to each other. But yes I am learning from this experience and thank you for the advice.

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namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:32

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:23

Just to be clear. I was coming out of the lift backwards and my back touch her wife. I didn't hit her with my pram. I didn't stepped on her toes or legs.

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Thanks for confirming OP. Still not convinced you were in the right I'm afraid, but I appreciate the clarity.

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:31

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:23

Just to be clear. I was coming out of the lift backwards and my back touch her wife. I didn't hit her with my pram. I didn't stepped on her toes or legs.

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Uh-oh, you’re going to be accused of drip feeding again! 🤣

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 22:30

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:25

@PeppyGreenFinch these posters are real drama llamas and a bit thick aren’t they. BTW they have no right to get upset about this post, I’m addressing you and I declare this to be a private exchange so if they get upset they’re just butting in 😂

Hahaha! But this post is different because it’s man hating and therefore not allowed! 🤣

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 22:29

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:24

You seem to think “He hasn’t come on here to moan about it” is a reason as to why OP is worse than him. So posting on an anonymous forum is worse than insulting someone practically to their face?

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Again, no. It's hypocritical of OP to imply he's a bad person for using the word 'stupid' in front of her child, when she did exactly the same thing. He might be a bad person - but he's not the one on here trying to garner sympathy and paint OP in a bad light.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:28

VoodooRajin · 31/01/2025 22:27

I'd be well pissed off if my dh did something like that

Same. Making snarky unnecessary comments to a woman with her child over bumping backs would turn me right off

VoodooRajin · 31/01/2025 22:27

I'd be well pissed off if my dh did something like that

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:25

Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 22:23

Just to be clear. I was coming out of the lift backwards and my back touch her wife. I didn't hit her with my pram. I didn't stepped on her toes or legs.

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Don’t worry OP those of us with a modicum of intelligence understood what you meant from the off.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:25

@PeppyGreenFinch these posters are real drama llamas and a bit thick aren’t they. BTW they have no right to get upset about this post, I’m addressing you and I declare this to be a private exchange so if they get upset they’re just butting in 😂