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A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 13:50

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

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SleepyHippy3 · 01/02/2025 20:01

StrikeAlways · 01/02/2025 18:51

You were on your phone whilst manoeuvring your child in a pram near other people . It sounds like the bloke had a valid point!

The bloke was a grown up adult. He shouldn’t have spoken to another person like that. What an immature way to react. It’s such a rude way to behave.

DeadSpace3 · 01/02/2025 19:33

If you were holding your phone while pushing/pulling a pram out of a lift then I don't have much sympathy TBH. In fact I would have probably said something similar 😂

StrikeAlways · 01/02/2025 18:51

You were on your phone whilst manoeuvring your child in a pram near other people . It sounds like the bloke had a valid point!

Coffeelover1950 · 01/02/2025 18:29

Why didn't DH take the pram so you could answer your phone????

Charltonstrek · 01/02/2025 12:36

Don't worry about it op none of us are perfect next time just ignore it though.

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 12:29

AppropriateAdult · 01/02/2025 12:01

God, standards of civility have really dropped if a majority here are cheering a man who loudly calls a stranger stupid for an innocuous bump with a buggy. Were you all dragged up?

Exactly. If he gets that angry over the most innocuous mishap that could possible happen, how does he behave when for example his wife or child doing something that’s actually bad? These kind of men are never the mild mannered lovely thoughtful sorts

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 12:23

MN seems to be getting very angry at phone use at the moment. On another thread people are calling for a ban on using phones on the bus!! Honestly I think in MNland people only approve of using your phone if it’s in your home hiding in a cupboard.

AppropriateAdult · 01/02/2025 12:01

God, standards of civility have really dropped if a majority here are cheering a man who loudly calls a stranger stupid for an innocuous bump with a buggy. Were you all dragged up?

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 12:00

VoodooRajin · 01/02/2025 11:47

A woman bumped into me this morning, whilst walking and reading a book, she apologised, i smiled and said no problem. No drama.

You didn’t get your husband to gallantly call her stupid?

WEAK 😂

VoodooRajin · 01/02/2025 11:47

A woman bumped into me this morning, whilst walking and reading a book, she apologised, i smiled and said no problem. No drama.

Getitwright · 01/02/2025 11:39

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 22:59

Yeah as the faster moving person it’s still on you to be aware of your surroundings and not go so fast you can’t stop in time. People stop dead in the street for all manners of reason. You just have been either very close or very fast to have hit her. I say this as someone who cycles frequently and has never hit or come close to hitting a pedestrian

And yes you are to blame. Stay in the cycle part and watch your speed and be aware of pedestrians. And yes dog owners are to blame most of the time too

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Thanks for that. As a cycling, dog owning, child free, 4x4 driving, stove owning pescatarian I am often “spawn of the devil” on MN, but all advice (even if it’s the sort imbibed at my dear Mum’s breast) is taken on board.

I still maintain there are some truly thick humans out there though, and will continue to do my utmost to avoid. The common factor in both the OPs post and mine was inattention because of being on a phone, not the fact that I was on a bicycle. I would have bumped into her had I been walking.

Chuchoter · 01/02/2025 01:43

Be made an accurate comment about your behaviour. Put your phone away!

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 01/02/2025 01:32

I do find it funny some posters can't recognise their own words...

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 01:13

*advantage

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 01:07

I do find it odd that posters are claiming that the OP is being given the arrange because she’s a woman - whilst sticking the boot in because she’s not a man

Embarrassing

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 01/02/2025 00:27

Man calls woman who wasn't paying attention and backed into his wife "stupid' to his wife not her: Bully, big baby, aggressive man...

Woman gets her feelings hurt and calls him "stupid and rude" to his face: Strong woman, standing up for herself, doing the right thing

JandamiHash · 01/02/2025 00:01

Meh I’m not convinced that true. A while ago there was a thread on a woman who was pregnant and her DH’s friend was punching the back of her car headrest. A scary amount of posters told her to get a grip and ask how she would ever cope with a child if she couldn’t cope with her headrest being hit

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 31/01/2025 23:48

Kibble29 · 31/01/2025 21:49

I wonder how this thread would be going if the OP was a man and had bumped into a woman because he was on his phone.

Yeah, this. ^

If a man had bumped into a woman, because he was so ignorant that he was on his phone, whilst not looking where he was going - he would have been called a rude, aggressive, ignorant twat on here by some. And some posters would have said that he should have apologised to her immediately, because he's a big, bad man, and she is a poor iccle woman. 😆

friendlycat · 31/01/2025 23:23

Basically, I think moral of the story is to concentrate on what you are doing rather than your phone.

Surely this is the best practice. What he said what you said is all superficial to the point. There are just too many people focusing on their phones these days. In your situation you bumped into someone. The husband reprimanded you for doing so and called you stupid for being on your phone whilst not concentrating on what you were doing. Ok he was right. You didn’t like being called stupid. Then you called him stupid for calling you stupid.

Grow up.

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 23:20

<takes bow>

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 23:18

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 23:16

It’s just that you said this earlier in the thread:

I don't know if you've ever had your legs hit by a buggy, but it bloody hurts. Hardly the same as accidentally knocking someone's shoulder in the street.

Youve changed your tune very quickly. Earlier it was “hardly the same” and now it “makes no difference”

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OMG! Your memory is amazing! And very inconvenient for @namechangetheworld

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 23:18

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 23:17

You’ve been insisting for pages that OP ‘rammed’ the woman with her push chair and that she ‘hurled’ insults at the man.

Suddenly the so called ramming is not important eh?

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She’s directly contradicted herself in less than 2 hours. Hilarious. Some people REALLY can’t cope when the thread doesn’t go their way

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 23:17

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 23:15

I think the man would have done just that, if she hadn't been looking at her phone. It wasn't the bumping that was the issue, it was the fact it was completely unavoidable.

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So was him insulting her but he still did it.

Im pretty horrified people agree with men verbally abusing women under certain entirely innocuous circumstances like “she was holding a phone”

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/01/2025 23:17

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 23:13

Why does it make a difference if it was a body or a pram? Would you be more inclined to think the man was justified if it HAD been a pram? Because either way, she was too busy looking at her phone to actually look where she was going, and then got offended when she was called out.

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You’ve been insisting for pages that OP ‘rammed’ the woman with her push chair and that she ‘hurled’ insults at the man.

Suddenly the so called ramming is not important eh?

JandamiHash · 31/01/2025 23:16

namechangetheworld · 31/01/2025 23:13

Why does it make a difference if it was a body or a pram? Would you be more inclined to think the man was justified if it HAD been a pram? Because either way, she was too busy looking at her phone to actually look where she was going, and then got offended when she was called out.

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It’s just that you said this earlier in the thread:

I don't know if you've ever had your legs hit by a buggy, but it bloody hurts. Hardly the same as accidentally knocking someone's shoulder in the street.

Youve changed your tune very quickly. Earlier it was “hardly the same” and now it “makes no difference”