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A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

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Springsunshine28 · 31/01/2025 13:50

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

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Bearbookagainandagain · 31/01/2025 14:03

Mountelephant · 31/01/2025 13:59

Would I have said it? Probably not. Would I have thought it? Definitely!

Your actions were careless and could be described as stupid. Nothing on your phone is so critical that you couldn’t have taken ten seconds to safely leave the lift and look where you were going. You’re lucky you didn’t knock into an elderly or unsteady person.

It's not a big deal either. People make mistakes, whether that's looking at their phone whilst trying to exit a lift, or stand outside the doors of a lift instead of moving out of the way.

araiwa · 31/01/2025 14:02

Bumping in to someone because you're not looking and playing on your phone is stupid

Mountelephant · 31/01/2025 13:59

Would I have said it? Probably not. Would I have thought it? Definitely!

Your actions were careless and could be described as stupid. Nothing on your phone is so critical that you couldn’t have taken ten seconds to safely leave the lift and look where you were going. You’re lucky you didn’t knock into an elderly or unsteady person.

Bearbookagainandagain · 31/01/2025 13:59

He was a twat, and talking on behalf of his wife - who I'm sure would have been able to speak for herself - is a good sign of that.

User67556 · 31/01/2025 13:59

I mean sometimes the truth hurts. Next time don't look at your phone.

apostrophewoman · 31/01/2025 13:57

SleepyHippy3 · 31/01/2025 13:55

Yes, it’s still not an excuse to call anyone stupid.

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No, he may well have been a rude arse, and he could maybe have said 'get off your phone and look where you're going'. Which the OP couldn't have argued with.

SleepyHippy3 · 31/01/2025 13:55

apostrophewoman · 31/01/2025 13:53

It all sounds a bit childish and tit for tat, but he had a point, given you were exiting a tight space with a pram and another child and were on your phone, so manoeuvring one handed. What could have been so important that you weren't concentrating on what you were doing?

Yes, it’s still not an excuse to call anyone stupid.

EmmaMaria · 31/01/2025 13:54

Why were you looking at your phone whilst trying to move a pram backwards in a confined space? If you had been looking where you were going (backwards) then it wouldn't have happened. And if you object to someone pointing out that this is stupid, why would you just say it back to them. Honestly, I think you were rude to be paying no attention to the people around you and apologising for something doesn't excuse the fact that you were paying no attention.

apostrophewoman · 31/01/2025 13:53

It all sounds a bit childish and tit for tat, but he had a point, given you were exiting a tight space with a pram and another child and were on your phone, so manoeuvring one handed. What could have been so important that you weren't concentrating on what you were doing?