A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

Why do people always say that? I've seen men be arsey with other men on a regular basis.

What a tosser, bet he wouldn't have said that to a man

Last time i exited a lift backwards with my pram a man standing in front of it grabbed my bum and then said i had walked into his hand.

A lot of men are predators and bullies. More than I thought/had hoped. Nothing stopping them giving you space/having self awareness except the need to see a woman inconvenienced and get off on it.

Everyone knows you let people off the lift before barging forward into. And if you do bump its not a big deal, no need for insults. Unless you’re a man on a power trip who is trigger ready to call someone stupid over nothing. His poor wife.

Yes people being on their phones can be a pain but I can’t even park the car in my local town without using an app, I mostly use my phone for life admin, it’s not like mums are just on TikTok all day

I'm pretty sure we all understand it?

The OP was stupid to check her phone as she was exiting a lift backwards, no matter who she thought was calling.

I'm not sure why you think people don't understand?

I'm sure the OP's phone has a call back function that she could've used, just as she (hopefully) would have if she was driving.

This. I don’t know how old or infirm people ever leave the house anymore. What with electric bikes coming out of nowhere at top speed, and people like you looking at their phone while backing out of a lift.

My main issue with men like this is that they never pick on someone their own size. If you were a big burly 6ft 5” bloke who’d bumped into his wife it would’ve been “don’t worry about it mate!”. They’re bullies

I wouldn’t say he was being unreasonable. People say things out loud in an immediate reaction to something that in this case was stupid and it probably shocked him.

I would just let it go and learn from it.

The problem is that there are so many people wandering around looking at their phones rather than where they’re going, that when someone might have a legitimate reason for doing so people don’t acknowledge that, because they’re used to being bumped into/barged out of the way because someone walks into them playing candy crush or texting.

Nobody was really in the wrong here. You were answering your phone which you needed to and apologised for bumping into them. On the other hand, they’re likely so used to inconsiderate phone users doing the same that it was a normal response. Because most people who are wandering down the street not looking where they’re going because they’re looking at their phones are stupid. It’s just unfortunate that you were branded a month the majority.

Put the ringer on and then you won't need to stare at your phone to know if an important call is incoming, you can stick it in your pocket and concentrate on what is happening in the here and now.

Honestly you ran the risk of falling over someone and you're offended they were annoyed. Put the bloody phone away the rest of us have important things to deal with too we just don't expect the rest of the world to have to get out of our way because we're not looking at what we're doing.

Obviously he shouldn't have called you stupid, but when you've been bumped into or forced off the pavement time after time because someone is looking at their phone, it does start to grate. The most annoying one is where somebody suddenly stops directly in front of you, bonus points if it's at the top of an escalator. On a bad day I have on occasion muttered FFS at slightly louder than under breath level. That said, it wasn't him you bumped into so it wasn't something he said on reflex, and for that reason I think he is BU.

I wouldn't give it any further headspace.

Quite.

It wasn't accidental it was careless

You didn't need to escalate it. You should have been concentrating on what you were doing not looking at your phone.

There are just too many people looking at their phones and not looking where they are going, what they are doing etc etc. It is actually stupid.

I love that you said something back! Well done, people need more of that! You accidentally bumped into her, not the end of the world. Any normal human would have said it’s ok when you bumped into them. Imagine what he’s like to live with 😳

He sounds like a complete dickhead. Try not to waste any of your precious energy thinking about him any longer.

Totally agree with this . Although I wish i could be upset at someone calling me stupid ir would mean my problems are so small

I'm not sure why people don't understand that someone was calling you and you were checking if it was your GP who you were waiting to hear from. Anyway, he shouldn't have been rude after you had apologised, but it's good that you gave as good as you got.

Why is it wrong of him to call you stupid in front of your child but ok for you to call him stupid in front of your child?

well, anyway , move on and don't use the word < stupid > at home. It is one of the words kids once learn, cannot stop using.

You were both in the wrong.

Meh. They shouldn't have stopped close to the lift and you should have been concentrating not faffing on your phone. Too late now but "only arses come to a dead stop after exiting the lift" was the answer to that

Of course the OP was in the wrong for goodness sake.

Even SHE says she was!

It doesn’t sound like you were in the wrong at all- it’s not like you were texting, totally oblivious. Ignore all the silly buggers telling you it’s totally ok for a man to call you stupid!

I wouldn't have got into it. You don't ever know what sort of crazy you are dealing with.

I would have said. The man is feeling angry because mummy bumped into him. Mummy is not stupid everyone makes mistakes. It's not nice to call people names.