A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

Sometimes I can't believe the responses on here! Can't believe all the people bending over backwards to defend the horrible person who called you stupid. Obviously it's not ok to randomly insult someone who knocks into you and then apologises. What is the world coming to when people are defending this sort of behaviour? Horrible. Don't worry OP, your daughter won't think the worse of you. when mine was a similar age she asked "mum are you a liar?" I was quite upset as to where she might have got this from until we worked out that she was asking if I am a lawyer (I am!)

Thankfully its not illegal, as poses little danger, didn't know there were pram police around

Good on you OP.

He wouldn’t have spoken to a bloke like that and after you gave him a mouthful hopefully he’ll think twice about being a sexist twat next time.

Guess what, people do daft things. Some people get distracted by their phones and inconvenience other people, others get irritated and speak without thinking. Really not worthy of over thinking and posting a thread about it.

You think it's unacceptable he called you stupid so you called him stupid back?

Well that's great modelling.

So was it also overkill when you told him he was stupid and rude and wanted him to hear it?

Keep phone in pocket.
Push pram with two hands.
If phone rings, wait until it's safe to do so and call back.
The joys of mobile phones is the number stores on the call log or they leave a voice mail. There's zero reason to be holding the phone in one hand whilst pushing the pram with your other 2 hands.

@Springsunshine28

I was on your side, until I saw you say you were looking at your phone whilst manoeuvring the pushchair, so I agree with what this man said...

Also, in your first post you said you were 'looking at your phone,' and then suddenly decided (when the thread wasn't going your way) that you were answering a call from the doctor that you were expecting.

Then when you were challenged on THAT (someone asked were you looking at your phone, or actually answering a call,) you changed it to 'I was holding my phone and then it rang and it was the GP.'

My money is on it being the first thing you said. (That you were manoeuvring the pushchair around and just looking at your phone...) You have just changed the narrative because so many people are saying YABU.

Why are some people seemingly incapable of going more than 5 minutes without looking at their bloody phone?!

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You cant go through life being a dick but thinking that because you drop the word 'sorry' straight away that its ok. Walking backwards, with a pram, and on the phone of course you are going to have an accident.

Would you say it to someone though even after they've apologised?

Yabu. You were being silly on your phone whilst exiting a tight spot.

People who don't watch what they're doing (especially when doing something important like maneuvering a pram...) get my back up so I'd be inclined to agree with him.

I'm fairly confident that the MN consensus of opinion is that people who bump into others because they're too busy phone-gazing to look where they're going are indeed stupid.

Some say it, most think it.

Why are the OP's actions a mistake or "ill judged" but the man's aren't?

This whole incident should be filed under "shit happens" but OP is here hoping we'll all tell her he was more in the wrong than she was.

Glad you agree.

You weren’t looking where your going on the phone and bumped into a pram

people are fiercely protective over there pram with there babies in

no one died suck it up and move on

He should never have called you stupid. That’s horrible. And he’s a shitty little coward for being so passive aggressive so just be glad he isn’t the father of your children. We all get frazzled and I think people jump to conclusions as to why people are on their phone etc and think that they’re playing bloody candy crush or something. I remeber being on my phone once being told my mother had had a heart attack and I was bawled it for not watching where I was going. I guess we all need to try and give each other a litre more grace sometimes but we don’t. X

what a stupid comment.

@Springsunshine28 ignore op.
We’ve all been distracted and bumping slowly into someone isn’t a big deal.
He wouldn’t have called a man stupid.
Pity his dp being with a passive aggressive twat.

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So a couple exit a lift with their pram and then stay so close to the lift so that another person accidentally knocks into them, and then they call you stupid? and most of these comments seem to blame you for it??? wow the audacity. I think they were stupid for not getting the hell out of the way.

Honestly if this had happened to me I would have said to my daughter,

"Well I'm not stupid but I did do a kind of stupid thing. I shouldn't have been looking at my phone and pushing the pram because it was dangerous and I could've hurt someone. That man wasn't kind when he shouted at me and that's not ok either." Then I'd have just got on with my day. We are always modelling behaviour in front of our kids. You had a chance here to show that 1. Looking at a phone whilst walking about is potentially dangerous. 2. That people can say unkind things sometimes but you don't need to react negatively to it. 3. That mums aren't perfect and when we make mistakes it's ok to own up to and learn from it then move on.

pretty mad you’re on your phone in charge of a pram and a year old

It's not right to call someone out for their selfishly entitled and inconsiderate behaviour but it is right ram someone else with a pram because you have to take an important phone call and you don't give a shit about them? OK...

Think you got what you deserved OP. If you'd done it to me I'd have shouted OUCH loudly to embarrass you. I see this kind of attitude in London a lot, poor manners. Out of my way, me first, I'm more important, me me me me me. He just countered your bad manners with his own bad manners, I think it is amusing you are shocked someone shamed you for your rubbish behaviour. Saying sorry does not excuse you for deliberately ramming a pram into someone because you are more interested in your phone.

Was a bit stupid tho wasn’t it