A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

So just to get this straight, the man calling someone stupid was 'abuse', but the woman calling someone stupid was 'standing up for herself? Was the man not standing up for his wife?

And yes, in the heat of the moment I'd probably refer to any man OR woman as stupid if they rammed me with a buggy because they couldn't stop scrolling Facebook for 30 seconds to actually look where they were going. It was ignorant, thoughtless...and stupid.

Oh and BTW a woman once broke my toe in Magaluf (MANY years ago) by dancing backwards and she had a nail for a heel. It hurt like hell but I managed to not call her names over it even though she definitely could have been more careful. These things happen. It’s life and I for one certainly don’t expect to go through life never ever once being inconvenienced or at the wrong end of a minor accident.

See I don’t think that we should just take abuse and not stand up for ourselves. At all. It’s a shame you would just let yourself be walked all over but I admire people who don’t

Out of interest, how would you react if some bloke rammed into you with a buggy while his nose was stuck in his phone?

OP didn’t ram into anyone with her buggy.

But if this happened and he apologised, because I’m a grown woman and not a weirdo, I’d accept it and move on with my life. I wouldn’t be all maiden-like or angry and chunter in calling him names because I’m not a big baby. You can’t turn back time so an apology is the next best thing

What would you do?

Technically OP was the one who 'carried the issue on', as she called him stupid after hearing the remark to his wife.

Out of interest, how would you react if some bloke rammed into you with a buggy while his nose was stuck in his phone?

So what?

It's still just one person using words to or about another person.

There were no physical threats, so genitals don't come into this.

He thought the OP was stupid and said so. Just as plenty of women on this thread thought the OP was stupid too.

It does.

There is a nasty breed of man who speak to women very differently to men.

That was to @PeppyGreenFinch

I agree, we need more women calling out this petulant behaviour from men. And as you say, OP apologised. People make mistakes sometimes and short of turning back time an apology is all that can be done. The only people who carry the issue on either have anger management issues or are clinically stupid (or just a bully who thinks a mistake gives them the right to be a nasty fucker)

I don't think you're overreacting. Obviously not great behaviour to be on your phone, but that doesn't justify him calling you names, especially in front of your child. Just be glad you're not married to him and don't have to put up with his nasty remarks every day!

You had apologised so there was no need for him to announce you were stupid.

How did he react when you called him stupid and rude?

Well done for saying something back, too many women post saying they were too shocked to respond.

Not really, people shit themselves and demanded to know why OP had a phone in her hand and she told them.
Again maybe I’m just more of the chilled out variety of human but the level of upset waged at a mum on a phone is hysterical. Some of you need therapy pronto

Threads not going the way OP wanted, she'll be back with an excuse as to why she must be glued to her phone 😂

I'd be thinking in my head stupid woman but I wouldn't have said it out loud😊

NO ONE does? Have you surveyed all of MN??

causing an accident 😂😂😂 what a drama llama you are. She knocked into somebody. People have been knocking into each other since caveman days. Absolute lunacy to get so upset about it

I wouldn’t be annoyed if someone was pissed off that I caused them 0.2 seconds of mild inconvenience a man would certainly be getting told if he was such a big baby that he called me stupid about it.

Why were you on your phone when looking after your daughter and trying to move out of a lift?

Wait…If you were on the fast moving vehicle it needs to be you looking out for pedestrians. If you were going in the same direction presumably you knocked into the back of them? Why were you on the pavement crashing into a pedestrian?

Also bell ringing isn’t enough. I always wear my headphones, and also some people are hard of hearing. Nothing worse than a “well I rung my bell!” Cyclist. Do you think it’s ok for cars to crash into people as long as they beep their horn? Or should perhaps they be more careful

Again people on here might expect everyone in public to be 100% on alert of their surroundings by 100% of the times but this is the real world and I’m sure even the pearl clutchers have got distracted in public now and again. I think you of all people should take note if you can’t cycle carefully

Now you’re just being ridiculous.
Nobody walks down the street posting on MN.
And keep your phone on silent if you want to, just don’t be surprised if someone gets annoyed at you for causing an accident by mooching around in public “looking at it”.

Of course it’s relevant, both are a lack of attention. I was the one on the bike, the phone zombie walked right into me. (Both going in same direction, I had rung my bell). OP was on her phone not looking where she was going, not fully paying attention. Cue impact.

But that’s not really relevant to OP is it. OP bumped into someone, hardly the same as crashing a bike into them

No. I like my phone on silent. Maybe next time don’t get upset about other people not doing things 100% to the letter on how you would.

Nobody needs to keep their phone on silent but I want to. Bit weird to be wound up about it TBH.

Why are people acting like OP killed a kitten? She looked at her phone. There’s a weird snobbery at people looking at their phones on MN which is ironic considering you’re presumably not using a potato to access MN

I have heard, thanks.
Maybe turn the ringer on next time you find yourself expecting an urgent call and need to manoeuvre yourself and a buggy out of a tight space?
Nobody needs to keep their phone on silent in all situations.

You may not have heard but smartphones tell you who’s calling on the screen.

Also some people (me) keep their phones on silent

Tell em how can one not listen in to something that is said right next to them

Men

IME don’t pick on men bigger than them, ever. Only women

There’s no need (legitimate or otherwise) for anyone to stare at their phone to see if someone is calling, phones make a ringing noise to indicate there’s a call to answer 🤦‍♀️

@Getitwright ok