Is this acceptable from school?

As a teacher I'm usually on the schools side but I don't think this is on. These are very standard adjustments in a classroom. If the teacher can't stop other children from taking them it sounds like they have some big issues with unmet needs. I'd push hard for a meeting with the SENCO. My only wonder is if perhaps the family support worker isn't communicating properly to other staff?

This. The teacher needs to step up and stop penalising your son just because they can't be arsed to control their class.

Unfortunately, with a sen child you have to fight for what they need. You will have to toughen up, you shouldn't have to but you will. The adjustments you are asking for are completely reasonable.

This is unacceptable, but exactly the reasoning my son's school used about his reasonable adjustments, everyone will want them.

Would they not allow a child to wear glasses because everyone will want them? Or allow a wheelchair because that looks fun for the other children and will distract the class? Or it's not fair the diabetic child is allowed a biscuit?

I’m a teacher with a child of my own who used a wobble cushion at primary school.

His teacher told the class that everyone finds different thing tricky, and it was her job to find the magic solution. “X’s magic solution is a bit more time; Y’s magic solution is a wobble cushion; Z’s magic solution is a minute in the book corner etc” No one messed with or got jealous of anyone else’s magic solution.

As a teacher, it’s not an issue making reasonable adjustments - and physical aids like this are great, because they fix a barrier really simply.

Where I work there are plenty of children that have different needs and those are adapted. Some children have fidgets, some have wobble cushions and some will have ear defenders. If a child wants one of these just because they are told that it is decided by the teacher and their grown up and that they can only have it if there has been a discussion about why.
The only rule we have about ear defenders is that they should not be used when it's carpet time as it should be quiet and they must be fully listening to the input.

That's odd. Ear defenders are available for all children at our school. Not just sen.

My kids wobble cushion gets mucked around with - in some ways it makes their life harder but ultimately is too beneficial to stop using.

We had similar at Y1 age - I tried all the nice ways of resolving things and tiny tiny adjustments were still being denied - so in the end I did the letter to the Head who looked into what these adjustments were, commented that I was not asking for anything unduly onerous and I understand the class teacher was heavily spoken to.

Class teacher subsequently hated me and slagged me off to her pet parents - but DD got the equipment she needed to use.

Definitely insist on meeting the SenCo and possibly the headteacher as well. You’ve been lied to about things that could help your child because the teacher doesn’t want to manage other students behaviour. All they have to do is calmly explain that X needs certain things for medical reasons and no one else is to touch them. Honestly the more I read on here the more grateful I am for my sons SenCo who’s been absolutely brilliant

Email the headteacher directly with a list of your concerns, I guarantee you the Senco will magically be available to meet with you.

op I don't think being vocal about your sons needs makes you difficult - the squeaky wheel gets the grease. It's not unreasonable for your son to have both his wobble cushion and ear defenders - it is unreasonable to take them away because other children have fomo... when my son was 5 he was adamant it wasn't fair that he didn't have a wheelchair 🫣🤫 doesn't mean I suggested his disabled friend stopped using his!

I was about to suggest this. I'm a retired teacher and the class teacher is being ridiculous. Furthermore you've been lied to about the use of the items. It's absolutely unacceptable. It's really pathetic for the class teacher to use the excuse that other children will want them too. Good grief.

Yes, teachers have it tough, but that should never stop you advocating for your son regarding something as reasonable as this.

Still shit. Get him moved classes at least.

I suggest you email the Senco and cc in the Head and Class teacher then everyone will have it in writing. Insist he has access to the aids he is supposed to have.

Wow, what would the school do if he needed a wheelchair or hearing aid and the other kids wanted to have a go?

They're 6 so year 2? The teacher sounds shit - year 2 should be better behaved than this. I'd request a meeting with the head and ask for him to be moved to another class with a better teacher.

Wobble cushions are generally fairly unobtrusive but headphones can lead to other kids asking questions (usually along the lines of that's not fair I want some).

Ok then. Usually words can sort that kind of thing out- rather than the child who needs them having to cope without/.

School sound hopeless OP. If other kids are interfering with his cushion and ear defenders why are they not being assessed too - answer is likely that the school/teacher is poor on class management. They can't all have compliance problems, much more likely staff.

As a teacher I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. After all if your child's needs are being met it will ultimately be easier for the teacher. She needs to control the rest of the class.

That so a joke. There should be reasonable adjutants made to accommodate your son. He should have access to ear defenders and a wobble cushion if they help him to access the curriculum. In theory if the other children are for the most part neurotypical then they should have to learn that your son needs those things and that they shouldn’t take them. It should absolutely not be the responsibility of the person with additional needs to change and adapt just so those without additional needs are accommodated.