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To be really glad I don't live in America right now

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AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

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lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 15:16

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 15:02

Well he did appoint the judges who were instrumental in overturning Roe vs. Wade.
So that dud happen.

Yes of course it did.

BUT the Democrats knew this was a likelihood and failed to act to codify Roe v Wade to prevent it.

Obama had even promised to do this pre- his first term election but didn't follow through.

Neither party has, when it comes down to it, acted to protect women's reproductive rights.

I am merely pointing out the hypocrisy of the Democrats in failing to recognise the part they played in failing to settle this once and for all.

LastTrainsEast · 31/01/2025 15:15

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 10:06

I'm personally very glad we have checks and balances here and that one maniac can't start deciding stuff like 'life begins at conception', get all his people onto some grand judiciary that they remain on until they die, then get it made into law. Imagine if Starmer said he wanted to invade Ireland? Everyone would think he'd lost the plot and he'd be out of power in a jiffy. And that would be correct.

The Prime Minister has the authority to declare war. Parliament has no say in it.

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 15:14

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 15:01

Times have changed considerably, for the worse in many cases, since his last administration
And he has been elected despite his anti-minority stance and literally being a criminal
He now has a legitimate claim that Americans don't care about minorities or legalities...

I read Handmaid's Tale long before it was a popular TV series and even the it struck me as how worryingly plausible it seemed. And the world was very different then.

He elected one woman and plenty of sex offenders. It's like saying "I can't be racist, I have a black friend". It doesn't mean he's pro-women

I get the sense that the minority you are most concerned about are the ones who identify as women but who are in fact male?

The restoration of single sex spaces and sports is a positive for female people and for homosexual people, if sex is displaced by gender then you have the absolute horrors of lesbians being told that they have to accept that males can be lesbians and the issues of males wanting to break the cotton ceiling.

I am also familiar with the Handsmaid Tale, both the book and the TV series. I definitely saw the irony of the way that women thrown to the alter of trans in Canada & other parts of the Western World in the backdrop partcularly of the TV show.

I don't doubt that things will be difficult for minority groups, I understand that trans people do not benefit from anti discrimination laws in housing and employment in the way that they do in the UK and I don't think that anyone should be harassed or victimised because they don't perform gender roles.

However when women are being raped and sexually assaulted in prison by male bodied inmates and when girls lose out to sporting scholarships and are called bigots for not wanting to be naked in changing rooms next to male bodies and gay or vulnerable children are being given hormones to prevent their bodies from developing appropriately and are having double mastectomies because they don't feel that they align with femininity then women have a problem. It is our job to protect women and children from such sexism and physical harm. It's a shame the Democrats failed to recognise the problem leaving Trump with an open goal.

In the meantime it's 2025 and the USA has a female in the most senior administrative role which is Chief of Staff. So I have no doubt that Trump is a misogynist. I can't stand what he stands for in the majority of his beliefs but I applaud him for restoring women's sex based rights and for halting the medical harm to children.

NautilusLionfish · 31/01/2025 15:10

Dotjones · 31/01/2025 10:10

There are a lot of people who look at the UK and are glad they don't live here right now. We're not in any better a place.

You may not like Trump but there are plenty of people who think Starmer is no better.

If you're hard left you'll hate Trump, if you're hard right you'll hate Starmer. If you're in between you'll probably dislike both of them.

FWIW I think the diversity argument is worth investigating. Jobs like controlling aircraft should be done by the best people to do them. Diversity should mean that the best person gets the job regardless of their background, i.e. if the best candidate is a black lesbian that shouldn't matter, not that a substandard candidate gets the job simply because they are a black lesbian.

But there lies the problems which dei policies were trying to address. Competent black people are regularly overlooked for jobs they qualify for simply because of their colour their names. Competent women are overlooked or nor catered for because they are women. The argument for dei is not to get incompetent people in. It's to create a fair system where everyone can thrive in. To create workplace policies where racism, bullying, sexism in their multitude of forms are not tolerated. To investigate structural barriers based on race, sex, (dis)ability and dismantle them so that all those you call a tiny minority can enter and thrive. But fox and the hard right have sold a narrative that it is about getting incompetent minorities in. FGS we don't even know why the crash occurred but minorities are to blame? How is that not 1939 level shit?

Locutus2000 · 31/01/2025 15:04

GCAcademic · 31/01/2025 11:23

There's been a massive swing to the right amongst young people, particuarly young men. It's a mistake to think it's just old people that are voting Reform. We should enjoy feeling glad that we don't live in America while it lasts, because we are fully headed down that road, I'm afraid. Reform may not win an election outright next time around but I think there's a good chance that we'll be looking at a coalition situation.

This is real.

Young people are abandoning democracy for dictators. I can understand their despair | Owen Jones

Fascism in power in the 1930s brought the world to genocidal war. But memories have faded, as has the stigma attached to the far-right – and that’s dangerous, says Guardian columnist Owen Jones

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/jan/14/young-people-democracy-dictators-fascism-war-far-right

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 15:03

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:52

America is an extremely polarised country, I don't think anyone would say all Americans are happy with Trump. Just as not everyone here is happy with Labour.

Its worth pointing out that Trump, on the popular vote, had a much more decisive victory that our own Labour party did, he had 49.7% of the popular vote, Labour had 34% of the vote.

Based on that, its reasonable to guess that more Americans are happy with Trump, perhaps both in terms of numbers and level of happiness, than UK citizens are happy with their Government.

Americans had 3 candidates to vote for. Two of those, one got 49% and one got 48%.

We have several parties and a voting system which relies on "this party got most seats even if they didn't have candidates everywhere"

It's not a comparable system

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 15:02

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 14:44

Oh for the love of god. All sorts of things were said about Trump the first time which didn't happen.

Reproductive rights are in the hands of individual states. The democrats failed to codify when they had the opportunity and even when Obama had promised.

As for your 'woman's place should be in the home' under Trump narrative, well isn't it funny how Trump has appointed a woman Susie Wiles to Chief of Staff? Hardly a sign that he thinks women should be chained to the women sink.

I'm no fan of Trump but you could knock yourself out with the hyperbole you're posting.

Well he did appoint the judges who were instrumental in overturning Roe vs. Wade.
So that dud happen.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 15:01

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 14:44

Oh for the love of god. All sorts of things were said about Trump the first time which didn't happen.

Reproductive rights are in the hands of individual states. The democrats failed to codify when they had the opportunity and even when Obama had promised.

As for your 'woman's place should be in the home' under Trump narrative, well isn't it funny how Trump has appointed a woman Susie Wiles to Chief of Staff? Hardly a sign that he thinks women should be chained to the women sink.

I'm no fan of Trump but you could knock yourself out with the hyperbole you're posting.

Times have changed considerably, for the worse in many cases, since his last administration
And he has been elected despite his anti-minority stance and literally being a criminal
He now has a legitimate claim that Americans don't care about minorities or legalities...

I read Handmaid's Tale long before it was a popular TV series and even the it struck me as how worryingly plausible it seemed. And the world was very different then.

He elected one woman and plenty of sex offenders. It's like saying "I can't be racist, I have a black friend". It doesn't mean he's pro-women

Locutus2000 · 31/01/2025 15:01

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 12:18

I literally don't have time to argue with someone who thinks Trump isn't anti-abortion 🤣

Trump couldn't give a fuck about abortion one way or the other, he just bends with the wind.

The Project 2025 team behind his presidency however are far more worrying.

Anyone interested in US politics should read it in full.

Summary from the Graun.

I read the full 900-page Project 2025 manifesto – here’s why it matters

Heritage Foundation blueprint describes an America poisoned by ‘wokeness’ and overtaken by lawlessness that only conservatives can save

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/sep/14/project-2025-election

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:57

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:52

America is an extremely polarised country, I don't think anyone would say all Americans are happy with Trump. Just as not everyone here is happy with Labour.

Its worth pointing out that Trump, on the popular vote, had a much more decisive victory that our own Labour party did, he had 49.7% of the popular vote, Labour had 34% of the vote.

Based on that, its reasonable to guess that more Americans are happy with Trump, perhaps both in terms of numbers and level of happiness, than UK citizens are happy with their Government.

When have I said otherwise? I'm very simply replying to the generalisation that Americans are happy with him.

And people have said that, on this thread, as that was what I was responding to.

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 14:56

MaggieMistletoe · 31/01/2025 14:24

The Americans I know all feel sorry for us over here in the UK. Many US citizens who have spent their working lives visiting the UK reguarly are appalled at what it has become.
Save your pity OP, we have enough problems of our own.

You mean for the infant mortality rate?
Or less economic inequality?
The weather sucks though I give you that

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:52

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:43

I am not for a moment implying he did not have a legitimate victory (that seems to be the purview of Republicans). I am saying that statements like, Americans (generalised) are happy with him does not capture a true picture of the country.

America is an extremely polarised country, I don't think anyone would say all Americans are happy with Trump. Just as not everyone here is happy with Labour.

Its worth pointing out that Trump, on the popular vote, had a much more decisive victory that our own Labour party did, he had 49.7% of the popular vote, Labour had 34% of the vote.

Based on that, its reasonable to guess that more Americans are happy with Trump, perhaps both in terms of numbers and level of happiness, than UK citizens are happy with their Government.

BruFord · 31/01/2025 14:49

I really think Trump's opponents would be better off spending their time honestly and dispassionately appraising WHY he won

@likeyoubut That's exactly how I feel.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:49

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:41

Democracies work by counting the votes of those who actually voted. He won both the popular vote and the state vote. Within the rules of the game, he very clearly won on both ways of counting the vote.

Trying to reframe a victory as barely a victory by discarding how the system works is not convincing.

I can't stand the man, but I'm not going to try to pretend this was not an clear victory within the rules and context of the American election system.

I really think Trump's opponents would be better off spending their time honestly and dispassionately appraising WHY he won, than expending wasted energy pretending he hardly won at all.

There was just over 1% difference between number of votes for him and for Kamala

Brexit had slightly more of a gap and still people wanted a do over...

Locutus2000 · 31/01/2025 14:48

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 10:29

Totally agree. I hope Starmer steps up. Not massively impressed so far.

Labour seem even more determined to 'kiss the ring' than the Tories would have been.

Mandelson's statement was a sad state of affairs.

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 14:47

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:28

He is not removing protections for women. This is simply untrue. And if you believe this to be true you must provide citations and links.

Anyway, gotta go. No point to this.

He makes it harder for poor women to get an abortion.
Link above.
Also depends if you see every abortion as a tragedy. I don't. I see it as a choice.

towelsandsheets · 31/01/2025 14:46

Viviennemary · 31/01/2025 14:44

I'm sure the Americans won't be bothered. They got the president they voted for.

What a strange thing to say

Like all Americans are the same person

Viviennemary · 31/01/2025 14:44

I'm sure the Americans won't be bothered. They got the president they voted for.

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 14:44

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:38

If you don't think it's coming then enjoy your new Handmaid role

Oh for the love of god. All sorts of things were said about Trump the first time which didn't happen.

Reproductive rights are in the hands of individual states. The democrats failed to codify when they had the opportunity and even when Obama had promised.

As for your 'woman's place should be in the home' under Trump narrative, well isn't it funny how Trump has appointed a woman Susie Wiles to Chief of Staff? Hardly a sign that he thinks women should be chained to the women sink.

I'm no fan of Trump but you could knock yourself out with the hyperbole you're posting.

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:43

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:41

Democracies work by counting the votes of those who actually voted. He won both the popular vote and the state vote. Within the rules of the game, he very clearly won on both ways of counting the vote.

Trying to reframe a victory as barely a victory by discarding how the system works is not convincing.

I can't stand the man, but I'm not going to try to pretend this was not an clear victory within the rules and context of the American election system.

I really think Trump's opponents would be better off spending their time honestly and dispassionately appraising WHY he won, than expending wasted energy pretending he hardly won at all.

I am not for a moment implying he did not have a legitimate victory (that seems to be the purview of Republicans). I am saying that statements like, Americans (generalised) are happy with him does not capture a true picture of the country.

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:41

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:30

49.7% of the 64% of voting-eligible population that turned out.

So, yes, more people, but hardly the overwhelming mandate he claims.

Democracies work by counting the votes of those who actually voted. He won both the popular vote and the state vote. Within the rules of the game, he very clearly won on both ways of counting the vote.

Trying to reframe a victory as barely a victory by discarding how the system works is not convincing.

I can't stand the man, but I'm not going to try to pretend this was not an clear victory within the rules and context of the American election system.

I really think Trump's opponents would be better off spending their time honestly and dispassionately appraising WHY he won, than expending wasted energy pretending he hardly won at all.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:40

How Americans feel is going to be who you know over there.
If you only really know rich, white, able bodied, straight people then you'll see a very different reaction to if those you know are in any minority (or more than one)

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:38

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:28

He is not removing protections for women. This is simply untrue. And if you believe this to be true you must provide citations and links.

Anyway, gotta go. No point to this.

If you don't think it's coming then enjoy your new Handmaid role

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:36

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:27

Trump didn't just win the majority of states, he also won the majority of votes. Most people who voted, voted for Trump.

He didn't get 50% of the votes...

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 31/01/2025 14:33

Howmanycatsistoomany · 31/01/2025 13:03

Hillary Clinton lost because half the country couldn't stomach the thought of another Clinton administration. Also Benghazi, missing emails, publicly calling Trump supporters (and US voters) "deplorables". And sheer arrogance and complacency. Not because she was a woman.

I agree with you re Fox but CNN is almost as biased.

No but it contributed definitely. I hear what you are saying about CNN but Fox News is rhe most popular and watched news channel in the US by some margin.

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