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To be really glad I don't live in America right now

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AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

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kirbykirby · 31/01/2025 20:39

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 18:52

Are there loads of people who are desperate to go there?

Yes, absolutely millions.

Hoardasurass · 31/01/2025 20:38

ByCyanMoose · 31/01/2025 19:50

The basic difference between the US and the UK right now is that the Prime Minister is generally considered to be a rational, mentally stable adult still in full control of his faculties. This cannot be said of President Trump, which is a scary thing since he is more powerful than ten Keir Starmers.

It is also the case that no PM has attempted to remain in power by formenting an insurrection, and then given unconditional pardons to those who acted violently on his behalf.

These are extremely important distinctions that go beyond policy.

Oliver Cromwell did kill a king and half the nobility in a civil war he fermented and then made himself Lord protector though

Hoardasurass · 31/01/2025 20:28

BruFord · 31/01/2025 18:15

@lifeturnsonadime The ongoing failure to codify Roe vs. Wade truly mystifies me. The decision was made in 1973, before most of us were born. Nixon was president ffs!

I don’t understand why such an important women’s right was kept so precarious,.

It's quite simple, if somewhat cynical.
The republican party are generally speaking anti abortion and as such whilst they wouldn't actively outlaw it (their not idiots and know that they'd never get back in power) they were never going to make it properly legal and would keep trying to roll it back bit by bit so they could keep the anti choice lot on side without alienating the pro choice lot, until there was a general consensus among a large majority of voters in 1 direction or the other (an event that is highly unlikely to ever occur) and would then go with whatever it was.
The Democrats on the other hand who are supposedly pro abortion rights needed the threat of the republicans outlawing it to use as a threat to keep women voting for them even when it was actually more harmful for women to do so. Basically even knowing that Roe V Wade was a terrible judgement that was always going to fail at appeal (bad law for a good and correct reason) the Democrats decided that it was better to risk women's lives, health and wellbeing so that they could have a carrot and a stick to threaten women with to coerce their votes, even when the writing was on the wall Biden and co did nothing. Admittedly he didn't have the numbers to force it through but he still could have tried but didn't (ask yourself why). Obama had the numbers and it was an election pledge but still choose to keep women at risk to keep the carrot and stick.
It's sad really neither party cared enough about women to enshrine our rights in law, instead choosing to use us as a political football and to he'll with the consequences to women.

Tekbrobillionaire · 31/01/2025 20:09

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 13:49

Where am I denying that people don't agree with me? Obviously not everyone agrees with me, otherwise Trump couldn't possibly have got in.

I just don't think he's good for America or what a majority of them actually want. Their democracy is pretty shaky (as is ours, but theirs is visibly even easier to game). A majority of people don't want Labour - or any of the parties, they almost never get a majority - but we've never treated a Prime Minister like they're the Second Coming and they don't have presidential powers anyway.

Their democracy is shaky and easy to game? You mean like the Democrats do not want voter ID?

Your OP and subsequent posts are pretty insulting to the American people. He won all 7 swing states, popular vote, the Senate and the House. He’s doing what he said he would do and doing it with alacrity.

You need something to cure your bout of TDS or stay in your left wing echo chamber and wonder why America will thrive whilst the UK is rapidly going down the pan with this most unpopular, miserable, mendacious, economically illiterate, hypocritical government.

ByCyanMoose · 31/01/2025 19:50

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

The basic difference between the US and the UK right now is that the Prime Minister is generally considered to be a rational, mentally stable adult still in full control of his faculties. This cannot be said of President Trump, which is a scary thing since he is more powerful than ten Keir Starmers.

It is also the case that no PM has attempted to remain in power by formenting an insurrection, and then given unconditional pardons to those who acted violently on his behalf.

These are extremely important distinctions that go beyond policy.

izimbra · 31/01/2025 19:41

For anyone interested in what's actually happening as far as women's reproductive rights in the USA are concerned, Jessica Valenti is a good person to follow on social media.

www.instagram.com/jessicavalenti/?hl=en

izimbra · 31/01/2025 19:38

For those of you who are not aware - the Trump second term plan, AKA Project 2025, is to shrink the state so it's small enough to drown in a bathtub.

Hence the emails having gone out to 3 million federal employees offering them money to resign.

The plan is to make the structures of government collapse so that people stop relying on it for healthcare, social services, welfare, food safety regulation etc etc.

It's a radical far right neo-liberal agenda.

@saltinesandcoffeecups

"what better way to to energize your base year after year then to trot out the “OMG they want to take your abortion rights away’ line."

They do.

Trump's boasted about how his supreme court picks have impacted on abortion access across the USA. Why do you think Christian Nationalists love him so much?

The whole 'I won't pass a national abortion ban' is just about creating plausible deniability.

Meanwhile plans are afoot to put major obstacles in the way of women accessing abortion care via the use of the Comstock Act, the threat of endless 'investigations' into the safety of Mifepristone, legislation in other areas referring to fetal personhood that is planting a seed that can later be used by the anti-abortion movement to push for a total ban on abortion from conception.

I'm wondering if you know this but you're just really cynical. You sound quite educated, but you're also on mumsnet quite a lot amplifying pro-Trump propaganda and misinformation.

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 19:28

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 17:12

Make that millions… it’s hundreds of thousands every month.

Which is why a lot of people outside the US have trouble grasping why illegal immigration is not just Americans being ‘big meanies picking on people of different nationalities’ and it’s a big fucking problem.

1.35 million illegal immigrant workers work in the construction industry, 45% of agricultural workers in the US are undocumented.
What do you think will happen when those workers are gone? Those workers also sustain the jobs around them. Those workers also have no health insurance and no recorse against exploitative working conditions.
Do you honestly think Americans will start working in the fields picking oranges?

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 19:09

kirbykirby · 31/01/2025 18:50

Why are so many people (who are not white or wealthy) desperate to go there then? Surely people would be fleeing such a terrible, inhumane, North-Koreaesque hell hole, no doing the opposite?

Because North Korea shouldn't be the baseline.
Rather Canada and Australia, both countries with higher net migration.
https://www.cia.gov/the-world-factbook/field/net-migration-rate/

https://www.cia.gov/the-world-factbook/field/net-migration-rate

luckylavender · 31/01/2025 19:09

@likeyoubut - thank you

EasternStandard · 31/01/2025 19:03

Are there loads of people who are desperate to go there?

This shows you're a bit removed from the US tbf

BruFord · 31/01/2025 18:53

@saltinesandcoffeecups I’d never considered it as a political scare tactic, but I do see your point. Sadly, you might be right. 🙁

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 18:52

kirbykirby · 31/01/2025 18:50

Why are so many people (who are not white or wealthy) desperate to go there then? Surely people would be fleeing such a terrible, inhumane, North-Koreaesque hell hole, no doing the opposite?

Are there loads of people who are desperate to go there?

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kirbykirby · 31/01/2025 18:50

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 31/01/2025 10:48

And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor.

The USA has never been a good place to live if you are poor or not white.

Even as an immigrant it’s a great place to live if you are a wealthy, healthy, white Christian with a standard nuclear family.

Otherwise not so much.

Trump is obviously terrifying, but let’s not pretend that under the Democrats it was a great place for anyone who wasn’t a wealthy WASP.

Why are so many people (who are not white or wealthy) desperate to go there then? Surely people would be fleeing such a terrible, inhumane, North-Koreaesque hell hole, no doing the opposite?

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 18:49

WilfredsPies · 31/01/2025 16:54

You're entitled to your opinion, obviously
😂 Thanks very much, that’s very gracious of you. I’ll try to express it wisely.

How am I refusing to engage with the opinions of others? I'm engaging with you right now. I didn’t see what the other poster said that was deleted. As it was against the talk guidelines I’m guessing it wasn’t a hearty endorsement of your opinion. But you just shut them straight down with a ‘Reform Supporter Alert’ rather than engage and debate what they were actually saying. And you acknowledged yourself that you didn’t think it was worth engaging with Farage. It’s a blinkered response

I don't agree with you - not on any point you've made so far, including how valuable it is to engage with Trump or Farage Well that might be because you’re not listening to what I’m saying. I don’t think it’s ‘valuable’ to engage with either of them. Neither have got the best interests of the general public at the heart of their policies and nothing of value is going to come from either of them. What I’m saying is that it’s dangerous not to engage with them. When you shut people down without listening to what they have to say, or without trying to understand the reasons for their opinions, because you think their opinions are bigoted or stupid or just plain wrong, then you leave them feeling like you don’t understand what they’re dealing with and that you don’t represent them. I think both the Tories and Labour and the Democrats are all guilty of doing this. And what has happened? A pair of self serving little toads have come along and filled that gap, spouted a lot of nonsense, promised that they care about everyone’s concerns and now one of them has been elected President and the other is quickly gaining traction in the UK. And all because of the arrogance of our politicians and their supporters that anyone who doesn’t agree with them isn’t worthy of consideration. Literally all they would have to do is debate Farage and pick his policies apart. Show him up for the windbag that he is. It would be a very easy thing to do because there’s no real substance there. But they won’t, because they are so convinced that he isn’t worthy it and that he’s just a bigoted old fool. And then when he takes seats from Labour in the next election, you’ll be shocked and wondering how it could possibly have happened.

The latter wouldn't have got the traction he has now if institutions like the BBC hadn't insisted on 'engaging' with him - in fact, disprortionately so, given his minor status as an ex MEP, particularly during Brexit. He was given a platform he hadn't in any way earned and exploited it 🤦🏻‍♀️ If you think Nigel Farage wasn’t going to create his own platform then you’re fundamentally misunderstanding the very nature of the man. And this goes back to the thrust of my argument. You cannot ignore people like him and Trump and not expect there to be any consequences. They are filling the space that the left and the right think is beneath them to acknowledge.

These are fair points, with which I agree - although I don't swerve from my opinion that Farage is where he is largely through luck. But then so is Trump. We seem to have a gift in the West for elevating turds. Only white male turds, though. There is no female equivalent to either of them.

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saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 18:29

BruFord · 31/01/2025 18:15

@lifeturnsonadime The ongoing failure to codify Roe vs. Wade truly mystifies me. The decision was made in 1973, before most of us were born. Nixon was president ffs!

I don’t understand why such an important women’s right was kept so precarious,.

what better way to to energize your base year after year then to trot out the “OMG they want to take your abortion rights away’ line.

Don’t ever think the Democrat leadership actually gave a damn about abortion rights. They cared about the votes.

Dutch1e · 31/01/2025 18:17

LifeExperience · 31/01/2025 15:28

And during that time the federal government was led by the Democrats more often than the Republicans. Yet the Democrats did nothing to pass a pro-abortion law. Nothing.

But abortions are somehow Trump's fault.

I won't argue that the Democrats made a serious mistake not codifying Roe Vs Wade. I've always despised the US in terms of governance and foreign policy and this just cemented it.

Trump is horrific to me, but not surprising. Just a natural outcome of the seeds that country loves to sow.

BruFord · 31/01/2025 18:15

@lifeturnsonadime The ongoing failure to codify Roe vs. Wade truly mystifies me. The decision was made in 1973, before most of us were born. Nixon was president ffs!

I don’t understand why such an important women’s right was kept so precarious,.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 17:45

Mytholmroyd · 31/01/2025 17:38

I have family there. I'd move there tomorrow if I could - it's not easy to emigrate there legally. Maybe we could set up a one in one out swap? 😂

This idea has some merit!

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 17:40

justteanbiscuits · 31/01/2025 17:19

The "right jobs"? How the hell did you read that into what I posted?

I gave two examples of actual, living women, both with families to support, who are at risk of losing their jobs, their healthcare AND access to sexual health services. Women I care about.

You do realise there has never been the legal right to women's only spaces? This has not been removed.

You said 'at least they don't have to race trans women'.

What that was doing was belittling the women who have lost out on careers in sport due to males being allowed to enter, which was the Biden first day EO when he removed title IX.

For some women, losing sporting opportunities was not about recreation, it was about livelihoods. We've heard that accounts of the swimmers who not only lost out to Lia Thomas but then we're called bigots by their coaches for objecting to having to remove swimwear in Lia's presence. Lia is male. Why should these women's boundaries be eroded in this way. Why was the Male more important than these women? Why were the women called bigots for objecting?

You have declined to comment on my broader point about the failures of the Democrats to protect women. They failed to codify Roe v Wade despite election promises and they called women who object to males in prisons or to the removal of other sex based boundaries for women bigots. Women rights didn't matter to the Democrats ultimately except, in so far as they benefit males.

If women don't exist as a sex class independent of males then we can't enforce our rights. Minimising this issue in the way you did 'at least they don't have to race trans women' harms ALL women.

It was one of the reasons that Trump won.

Mytholmroyd · 31/01/2025 17:38

I have family there. I'd move there tomorrow if I could - it's not easy to emigrate there legally. Maybe we could set up a one in one out swap? 😂

mindutopia · 31/01/2025 17:32

I’m American but haven’t lived there in about 15 years and very grateful I don’t. I very rarely visit, maybe 3 times in 15 years. I haven’t even bothered to renew my dc’s passports last year (we are all dual citizens except for Dh) because it’s expensive and there is no chance in hell we’ll be traveling there. My friends and family are feeling very worried and despondent and quite a few looking to emigrate temporarily or permanently. It’s embarrassing.

Hoardasurass · 31/01/2025 17:24

@WilfredsPies I listed the women's rights that have protected by Trumps EOs and mentioned the sex of transwomen in a way that offended someone

justteanbiscuits · 31/01/2025 17:19

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 17:10

Ah so only some women matter, the ones with the right jobs?

The girls who had to lost out on lucrative college scholarships to go to university to males, don't matter?

Isn't it a shame the Democrats were hellbent on ensuring that women and girls lost those opportunties? Women could have had everything, even single sex spaces where they could have reasonable boundaries from male bodied people.

Neither party gives a shit about women. What a time to be alive.

The "right jobs"? How the hell did you read that into what I posted?

I gave two examples of actual, living women, both with families to support, who are at risk of losing their jobs, their healthcare AND access to sexual health services. Women I care about.

You do realise there has never been the legal right to women's only spaces? This has not been removed.