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To be really glad I don't live in America right now

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AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

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username299 · 01/02/2025 06:38

Adamante · 01/02/2025 06:36

10 million border encounters - that is people trying to cross the Southern border illegally, during Biden’s administration. Around 8 million made it over, so yes, loads.

Aren't they fleeing poverty and gangs?

Adamante · 01/02/2025 06:36

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 18:52

Are there loads of people who are desperate to go there?

10 million border encounters - that is people trying to cross the Southern border illegally, during Biden’s administration. Around 8 million made it over, so yes, loads.

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 01/02/2025 06:16

At least in the UK children aren't shot on a daily basis, abortion is for the woman to decide,we don't have musky rat in parliament.
The UK obviously has issues but it's not the basket case some would have us believe.

NattyTurtle59 · 01/02/2025 06:05

BatchCookBabe · 31/01/2025 10:40

100% agree with you @AnonymousBleep

I wouldn't live in America if you paid me! Shock So many reasons to not live there. Unless you're rich/wealthy/very solvent, how can anyone bear to live there? Only way to survive would be to be part of one of the huge religious organisations. 😬

No thank you, I will stay in my lovely country ta muchly (UK!) People can slate and bash and berate it as much as they like, but I will never live anywhere else!

Funnily enough, you do see some UK bashing on here, (from people who live in the UK,) but these people never leave do they? Funny that! Wink

I have friends in the US. They are not rich, they are totally normal people with normal jobs and normal lives. Nor are they part of one of the huge religious organisations. However, they all seem perfectly happy and content (we don't discuss politics), and I don't hear the constant moaning about how shit their country is which I often see on MN from UK dwellers.

I don't live in either the US or the UK, and have no wish to live in either, but if I had to choose one I don't think it would be the UK.

hattie43 · 01/02/2025 04:39

Ablondiebutagoody · 31/01/2025 10:03

I'm sure that they appreciate your pity.

The ordinary Americans voted, he seems to be doing what he promised. Whether you agree or not with the policies, a politician quickly doing what they said they will do is a breath of fresh air. I wish that our politicians were more like that.

This . It's really refreshing to see a politician doing what he said he would and quickly . We got fed a pack of lies and have an incompetent inexperienced bunch running us into the ground .

username299 · 01/02/2025 04:23

Nanny0gg · 31/01/2025 21:43

Yes, it can.

Were you around in the 70s?

You're one of those. Union strikes, power cuts, bankruptcy, three day week, mods versus the punks. That heat wave in 75. Yes, I see what you're getting at.

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 04:09

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 03:47

Trump is, rather inescapably, a bit of a wild card, impulsive and rather narcissistic. Also, his comments about women, although long long ago, are certainly unacceptable and concerning.

And although he definitely has not tried to stop abortion in the USA, and has stated he is happy to allow the states to run things, I do wonder if he will change his mind. His comments on abortion sound a lot like a dog whistle to those who want no abortions, rather like he is winking at them and saying "I get it, but my hands are tied". This concerns me, I just hope he sticks to his promise to leave it up to the states, as for the moment only 13 states have banned abortion for all but serious medical reasons and the other 37 still allow abortion.

But he's doing what he said he would do, and what the people voted for, which I do appreciate. Politicians should work for the people, not just arbitrarly impose rules, taxes etc that nobody agreed to, or take things away from people in the country that nobody agreed to. If you're going to make sweeping changes, it is right and ethical to declare them first before election, and nobody can accuse Trump of not doing that.

What about JD Vance? He seems far brighter than Trump, do you think he would make a good president?

And to be clear, he has kept all his election promises to date and has done nothing at all to show that he might be planning to break this promise. I guess I just worry about it because it is such a big deal.

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 03:47

Momtotwokids · 01/02/2025 03:37

I live in the US and didn't vote for either candidate. Trump might be a moron but Biden and Harris would have destroyed our country. I really don't believe Biden was running the country this past or longer. Don't worry about us, we will survive and hopefully two intelligent candidates will run in 4 years.

Trump is, rather inescapably, a bit of a wild card, impulsive and rather narcissistic. Also, his comments about women, although long long ago, are certainly unacceptable and concerning.

And although he definitely has not tried to stop abortion in the USA, and has stated he is happy to allow the states to run things, I do wonder if he will change his mind. His comments on abortion sound a lot like a dog whistle to those who want no abortions, rather like he is winking at them and saying "I get it, but my hands are tied". This concerns me, I just hope he sticks to his promise to leave it up to the states, as for the moment only 13 states have banned abortion for all but serious medical reasons and the other 37 still allow abortion.

But he's doing what he said he would do, and what the people voted for, which I do appreciate. Politicians should work for the people, not just arbitrarly impose rules, taxes etc that nobody agreed to, or take things away from people in the country that nobody agreed to. If you're going to make sweeping changes, it is right and ethical to declare them first before election, and nobody can accuse Trump of not doing that.

What about JD Vance? He seems far brighter than Trump, do you think he would make a good president?

Momtotwokids · 01/02/2025 03:37

I live in the US and didn't vote for either candidate. Trump might be a moron but Biden and Harris would have destroyed our country. I really don't believe Biden was running the country this past or longer. Don't worry about us, we will survive and hopefully two intelligent candidates will run in 4 years.

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 03:36

SecretWitch · 01/02/2025 03:32

Im incredibly sad for we sane Americans who voted for Kamala. I hate waking up in the morning to see what new inane proclamation our fearless Dickhead in Charge has uttered.

Is implying that 77 million of your fellow Americans are insane for thinking differently to you helpful do you think?

SecretWitch · 01/02/2025 03:32

Im incredibly sad for we sane Americans who voted for Kamala. I hate waking up in the morning to see what new inane proclamation our fearless Dickhead in Charge has uttered.

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 03:29

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 14:33

This isn't a thread about Twitter though? Sorry you don't think I am capable of having an adult discussion about something completely unrelated to the thread topic. Have a nice day!

As you know, you said that Farage didn't deserve a platform and said the BBC should not have been "platforming" him, by which you meant that only the approved news you think is acceptable should be on the BBC.

In response I explained to you accurately that the BBC is not the main source of news for people now, Twitter is. And that Farage has 2.2 million followers on Twitter, which is where he has found a major plaform.

I then added stats to back that up because I knew you would automatically loathe Twitter because it is uncensored and if you hate Trump you would automatically hate Musk.

The REASON I MENTIONED TWITTER was that you incorrectly thought that the BBC is a source of news for most people. I was correcting you on that.

You also didn't explain what you meant by Farage not deserving a platform. Do you not believe in free speech?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/02/2025 02:44

And I’ll state this plain and clear so there is no misunderstanding…

I welcome unconditionally anyone that wants to be a US Citizen. Come on in, raise your family, get a job, pay your taxes, whatever you want to do. I will open my arms and hand you a beer and a hot dog on the 4th of July. But do so legally.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/02/2025 02:34

kattaduck · 01/02/2025 02:03

Well are they doing that?
Or are they closing the legal pathways that are already there? Like the U.S. refugee admissions program or the CBP one App?
Or arresting parents in schools and separating them from their children?
You know illegal immigrants are less likely to commit violent crimes? Or that more than 30% of those are families?
Or that more than two-thirds of them have lived in the US for more than a decade?
Is that really an"invasion"?

Well, considering the current administration has been in office for checks calendar 11 days, I don’t think we know enough to say if we will have a worker shortage once we start departing illegal immigrants.

So let’s get that under control before changing any immigration quotas.

And because I can’t be assed to look up statistics at the moment on crime statistics, I’ll concede to your numbers, But will say that the crimes that illegal immigrates would commit in the US if they weren’t here would be zero, so getting them out will be an overall improvement on crime. (We won’t mention that entering the US illegally or overstaying illegally is in itself a crime).

Do you know who would be alive if a criminal illegal immigrant wasn’t in the country and had been deported? Laken Riley. Please spout your statistics to her parents.

And yes I call 2 million+ people a year entering illegally an invasion. Let’s just mull that number for a minute… there are countries with populations equal to or less than that. According to this site* that’s more than the population of England’s second biggest city.

*worldpopulationreview.com/cities/united-kingdom

kattaduck · 01/02/2025 02:03

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 21:02

So you think that unfettered human trafficking and fentanyl pouring into the US, not to mention terrorists, rapists and murderers is worth a new house or some crops picked?

I don’t.

If those sectors suffer from lack of workers and a good solution is immigration then I’d expect the government to adjust the number of immigrants from southern countries and streamline the process to enter legally.

Well are they doing that?
Or are they closing the legal pathways that are already there? Like the U.S. refugee admissions program or the CBP one App?
Or arresting parents in schools and separating them from their children?
You know illegal immigrants are less likely to commit violent crimes? Or that more than 30% of those are families?
Or that more than two-thirds of them have lived in the US for more than a decade?
Is that really an"invasion"?

ByCyanMoose · 01/02/2025 01:39

Hoardasurass · 31/01/2025 20:38

Oliver Cromwell did kill a king and half the nobility in a civil war he fermented and then made himself Lord protector though

That happened quite a while ago. Also, bear in mind that shortly after his death his corpse was dug up, dragged through the streets, hanged drawn and quartered. And he got off lightly; many of his fellow regicides were still quite conscious when they got to the “drawing” phase of the punishment, which despite its name does not involve arts and crafts.

So on the whole, not necessarily the example we want to be emulating.

Mytholmroyd · 31/01/2025 22:09

LifeExperience · 31/01/2025 15:58

The US is always a very terrible, horrible, no good place to be according to most MNers. The vast majority here know nothing about it, but there a few experts who spent a week at Disney once.

I'm American, and the US that I read about on here shows no resemblance to the real US. But MNers don't want to hear that.

This is true. And I always find the idea of it being a homogeneous entity really baffling - there is so much variety especially once you get away from the tourist destinations. Somewhere for everyone.

I love going to the US on holiday, for work and to visit family. We just rent a car and drive to out of the way places. I never want to come back!

Nanny0gg · 31/01/2025 21:43

username299 · 31/01/2025 14:32

I can imagine. 14 years of the Tories has decimated the country and then you have Brexit. Change is hopefully around the corner, it can't get worse.

Yes, it can.

Were you around in the 70s?

LoyalMember · 31/01/2025 21:09

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 15:48

If the US was a centre right country, Mitt Romney would be president.

Not if the electorate don't like him or his policies.

PurpleAxe · 31/01/2025 21:06

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 10:15

It's not really rising in the UK. Reform have taken votes from the Conservatives and split the right wing vote. That's how Labour won (and I say that as a Labour voter). They didn't take votes from Labour though. Britain remains a broadly centrist country, with louder (because richer) voices on the hard right.

I disagree, and I think you might want to pay rather more attention to what is happening at home than worry about feeling superior to the US.

Glass houses and all that.

SailorSerena · 31/01/2025 21:04

Hoardasurass · 31/01/2025 12:49

Please note I said before 14 days.
I don't know why my auto correct added a s to sperm (did it in this post too but I caught it this time) and oops with my dyslexia meaning that 8 again didn't see the auto correct changing implants into implements.
Also it's not an opinion that sex is encoded at conception it's fact. I was laughing at the poster because they tried pulling me up with misinformation sex is not determined at 6 weeks as the poster I quoted claims.
Perhaps you should shine your fact-checking light on them rather than picking on my typos or is it only posters who you disagree with that you do this with

Only with people who are picking on other posters 👍

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 21:02

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 19:28

1.35 million illegal immigrant workers work in the construction industry, 45% of agricultural workers in the US are undocumented.
What do you think will happen when those workers are gone? Those workers also sustain the jobs around them. Those workers also have no health insurance and no recorse against exploitative working conditions.
Do you honestly think Americans will start working in the fields picking oranges?

So you think that unfettered human trafficking and fentanyl pouring into the US, not to mention terrorists, rapists and murderers is worth a new house or some crops picked?

I don’t.

If those sectors suffer from lack of workers and a good solution is immigration then I’d expect the government to adjust the number of immigrants from southern countries and streamline the process to enter legally.

MissConductUS · 31/01/2025 20:48

LifeExperience · 31/01/2025 15:58

The US is always a very terrible, horrible, no good place to be according to most MNers. The vast majority here know nothing about it, but there a few experts who spent a week at Disney once.

I'm American, and the US that I read about on here shows no resemblance to the real US. But MNers don't want to hear that.

Word.

I think that there are a few MN's who like to spin up a gratuitous "let's bash America" thread just to stir the pot and big themselves up.

lazyarse123 · 31/01/2025 20:46

Dotjones · 31/01/2025 10:10

There are a lot of people who look at the UK and are glad they don't live here right now. We're not in any better a place.

You may not like Trump but there are plenty of people who think Starmer is no better.

If you're hard left you'll hate Trump, if you're hard right you'll hate Starmer. If you're in between you'll probably dislike both of them.

FWIW I think the diversity argument is worth investigating. Jobs like controlling aircraft should be done by the best people to do them. Diversity should mean that the best person gets the job regardless of their background, i.e. if the best candidate is a black lesbian that shouldn't matter, not that a substandard candidate gets the job simply because they are a black lesbian.

It absolutely should be investigated but that's the point it's not been investigated yet and when it is the results will be made public. He was incredibly out of order to say it when he did. Nearly 70 people died in a horrific way and he's point scoring.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/01/2025 20:44

izimbra · 31/01/2025 19:38

For those of you who are not aware - the Trump second term plan, AKA Project 2025, is to shrink the state so it's small enough to drown in a bathtub.

Hence the emails having gone out to 3 million federal employees offering them money to resign.

The plan is to make the structures of government collapse so that people stop relying on it for healthcare, social services, welfare, food safety regulation etc etc.

It's a radical far right neo-liberal agenda.

@saltinesandcoffeecups

"what better way to to energize your base year after year then to trot out the “OMG they want to take your abortion rights away’ line."

They do.

Trump's boasted about how his supreme court picks have impacted on abortion access across the USA. Why do you think Christian Nationalists love him so much?

The whole 'I won't pass a national abortion ban' is just about creating plausible deniability.

Meanwhile plans are afoot to put major obstacles in the way of women accessing abortion care via the use of the Comstock Act, the threat of endless 'investigations' into the safety of Mifepristone, legislation in other areas referring to fetal personhood that is planting a seed that can later be used by the anti-abortion movement to push for a total ban on abortion from conception.

I'm wondering if you know this but you're just really cynical. You sound quite educated, but you're also on mumsnet quite a lot amplifying pro-Trump propaganda and misinformation.

That is a serious accusation… what misinformation have I promoted?