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To be really glad I don't live in America right now

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AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

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Slytherinnnnn · 02/02/2025 20:10

@TankFlyBossW4lk I had three scans before 19 weeks with one of my pregnancies in the US.

TankFlyBossW4lk · 02/02/2025 20:09

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 03:36

Is implying that 77 million of your fellow Americans are insane for thinking differently to you helpful do you think?

Why do you persist in normalising a felon and an insurrectionist being voted into one of the most powerful positions on Earth. This is insanity.

BruFord · 02/02/2025 20:08

We don’t even scan until 20 weeks.

@TankFlyBossW4lk Does that differ by state? Where I live, it’s standard to have a scan during the first trimester, typically by 10 weeks. I don’t know about other states though.

TankFlyBossW4lk · 02/02/2025 20:01

meh2025 · 01/02/2025 07:20

Trump has clearly stated that he will NOT be signing any abortion ban. He is leaving it to the states. 37 states are ok with abortion. 13 only allow abortion in extreme circumstances. Each state has decided for itself. He will not overturn the states decisions, either way.

19 states ban or limit abortion. We don't even scan until 20 weeks, just to give you an idea of how early the restrictions are.

To be really glad I don't live in America right now
TankFlyBossW4lk · 02/02/2025 19:55

MaggieMistletoe · 31/01/2025 14:24

The Americans I know all feel sorry for us over here in the UK. Many US citizens who have spent their working lives visiting the UK reguarly are appalled at what it has become.
Save your pity OP, we have enough problems of our own.

Yeah, I agree Brexit and 14 years of Tory corruption and stealing from the till have got us here. Don't you agree , Maggie?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 02/02/2025 18:35

I’m still waiting for @AlertBrickBear to tell me how many ICE raids have occurred at schools.

and @izimbra to back up their claim that I am misrepresenting information

I have an idea 💡 Izimbra should challenge Alertbrickbear and save me some time! 😁

RingoJuice · 02/02/2025 18:14

OhcantthInkofaname · 02/02/2025 17:24

OMG dei wasn't the cause of the collision.

OMG reread what I wrote

OhcantthInkofaname · 02/02/2025 17:24

RingoJuice · 02/02/2025 16:47

DEI hire didn’t mean brown people, it meant poor, white, veterans, rural dwellers

Only veterans get preferential hiring, and that’s for the public sector.

Brown people made up a very small percentage of the DEI hiring

It’s true, white women benefit the most.

But … DEI caused a huge problem among the ATC for example, and it’s sad it took a fucking plane crash for people to start noticing.

OMG dei wasn't the cause of the collision.

OhcantthInkofaname · 02/02/2025 17:22

I wish I didn't.

RingoJuice · 02/02/2025 16:47

DEI hire didn’t mean brown people, it meant poor, white, veterans, rural dwellers

Only veterans get preferential hiring, and that’s for the public sector.

Brown people made up a very small percentage of the DEI hiring

It’s true, white women benefit the most.

But … DEI caused a huge problem among the ATC for example, and it’s sad it took a fucking plane crash for people to start noticing.

AgentJohnson · 02/02/2025 16:42

They got what they voted for. Too many people were attracted to the othering and scapegoating and are in for a world of pain when they realise that the dog whistling they liked so much included them. DEI hire didn’t mean brown people, it meant poor, white, veterans, rural dwellers. Brown people made up a very small percentage of the DEI hiring.

Never underestimate some people’s ability to repeatedly (remember the Affordable Care Act) to vote against their own best interests in a desperate effort to belong to a group who give zero fucks about them.

Yes Trump is a fucking idiot but the real powers behind that fucking idiot, are far more dangerous.

The American Dream is the shiny object that distracts poor people from the reality of the real world. Too busy getting high on debt and over consumption, pretending to have made it.

Hopefully they will learn but I wouldn’t bank on it.

DeadSpace3 · 02/02/2025 16:29

"but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship."

Are you serious? Take a while to look through the independent media outlets & you'll soon see you're wrong on that one.

Cariadm · 02/02/2025 16:27

Kingoftheroad · 31/01/2025 10:07

This is what happens when governments fail to listen to the will of the people and act on issues that they feel strongly about.

Things go to far in the other direction and countries end up with hard line right wing governments.

The same thing is happening in the UK right now. If things don’t change for the better of the majority of the electorate Reform will be our next government

Glad to know that it's not just me that can see the distinct possibility of that scenario being a reality although maybe 'glad' is not really the right word if you know what I mean?! 🙄
The sad fact is that pre leadership Starmer appeared to give the impression that he was slightly left leaning with socialist ideals and beliefs, or maybe I was just totally naive along with the many others who voted for him to be leader? 🤔
Stealthily, using the weakest premises, he has one by one evicted from the party anyone with even slightly 'leftist' tendencies, and, not only is he coming across as weak, pompous and indecisive in many ways, several of the policies and decisions made so far would sit better in the Tory camp than in the Labour Party!! 😡
As we know the electorate is fickle and unforgiving and the Reform party is now just biding it's time as other right wing fascist parties have previously done before triumphantly marching to victory...😱

Cariadm · 02/02/2025 16:10

Ablondiebutagoody · 31/01/2025 10:03

I'm sure that they appreciate your pity.

The ordinary Americans voted, he seems to be doing what he promised. Whether you agree or not with the policies, a politician quickly doing what they said they will do is a breath of fresh air. I wish that our politicians were more like that.

I think Mumsnet needs to install a WTAF button because honestly, to hear you use the expression 'a breath of fresh air' while even obliquely referencing Donald Trump must surely beggar bucket loads of the proverbial disbelief?! 🙄
Whilst however I do see the point that you're attempting to make, whether or not it's a 'positive' that policies get implemented 'quickly' must surely depend on what those policies are and who they affect as, in Trumps case, most of what he has decreed already will have the worst effect on huge numbers of those who voted for him...as the saying goes and is once more proven...Turkeys keep on voting for Christmas!!! 😱

ToWhitToWhoo · 02/02/2025 14:12

they ran an unconstitutional campaign of "lawfare" against Trump, trying to put their political opponent in prison so that they did not have to face him at the polls. What they don't realise that by doing that, they made certain he would win. The American people saw through their nonsense. None of that is to say Trump is an ideal candidate but Americans decided fairly and freely to elect him and they will get the benefit or pay the consequences. Liberals squawking about it as unjust, unfair, undemocratic, are doing exactly what they charge him as doing after the 2020 election, Get a grip and buckle up

(1) It was not political opponents who prosecuted Trump; it was the legal and justice system. Just maybe he has done some things to deserve it. Corrupt Democrats get prosecuted too; I heard that one of the Democratic senators just got quite a long prison sentence for corruption..

(2) I don't think anyone here has been saying that Trump wasn't legitimately elected. Just that he and his policies are evil and dangerous. It's perfectly possible for evil governments to be legitimately elected; has happened on numerous occasions. As Winston Churchill said, democracy is the worst possible system- except for all the others.

(3) Just because a narrow majority voted for him, doesn't mean that all of America supports his policies. Nearly half (in fact, just over half if you count those who voted for the independent candidate) voted against him. And I doubt that everyone who voted for him fully endorses all the policies. Some just always vote Republican; some thought he'd be better for the economy; some thought that being so isolationist would at least mean his not getting into conflicts with other countries (his threats about Greenland and Panama, etc. started after he was elected). So right-wingers should not assume that hard-right views have triumphed and should be emulated elsewhere; and left-wingers should not reject all Americans as hard-right.

(4) There is a lot of talk by right-wingers- and sometimes even left-wingers, to the effect that the right-wing win because left-wingers and centrists attack and 'demonize' right-wingers too much; and that we should all shut up or we'll just strengthen the right wing. But this is contradicted by Trump's own success. He is an absolute champion at sneering at and demonizing his opponents - 'Crooked Hillary', 'Sleepy Joe', claims that Obama was born abroad; etc. - and those .who vote for them. Perhaps he is more effective at doing so. In countries with relatively low voter turnout, there is always a tension between whipping up your voter base sufficiently to bring them out against your opponents and irritating the other side sufficiently to bring them out against you. If calling some of your opponent's supporters 'deplorable' is counterproductive, while calling them the 'enemy within' is successful, that clearly is not because attacking your opponents is intrinsically counterproductive. If it were, Trump wouldn't have gottem anywhere. This does NOT mean that Democratic/Labour/ Remain leaders have always fought excellent campaigns: they need to offer a lot more in the way of concrete policies on bread-and-butter issues. .But the 'We win because you criticize and attack us too much; so shut up!' argument is just the Right's version of cancel culture.

(5) There is nothing that the UK can do directly about whom the Americans choose as their president. However, we should try to be vigilant against hard-right poison creeping into our system. And not assume that it's just older people who are affected by it; the worst affected at the moment are probably young men.

ByTheSea · 02/02/2025 13:50

I'm American (been here almost 30 years) and I'm sure glad I don't live there. I feel terrible for my family and am worried for many.

Hollis1967 · 02/02/2025 13:20

It's scary.

ToWhitToWhoo · 02/02/2025 13:11

Nurse08 · 02/02/2025 10:53

Well the people voted it in. They made their own beds. Now we all have to deal with the consequences

Actually, half the people voted it in. And yes, the entire world had to live with the consequences,

Pippyls67 · 02/02/2025 11:45

MissConductUS · 02/02/2025 11:31

Godwin's law is proven correct again.

Ahh yes but Godwin himself condemned the far too frequent use of his law !

Ariana12 · 02/02/2025 11:35

The American public voted for him and many of them seem comfortable with a level of chaos/ shake up in their public institutions. He could do a lot of damage but his last term wasn't hugely different from the Democrats ultimately. Also I'm pretty sure most lesbians don't have a problem with his pronouncements on the sex binary. I do think the Dems and a lot of their supporters have lost the plot on gender identity, medicalisation of children, men in women's sports etc. You could see Trump waking up to this own goal. And he has used it very effectively as a wedge issue.

MissConductUS · 02/02/2025 11:31

Pippyls67 · 02/02/2025 11:28

Why aren’t we all talking about how similar this all is to pre war Germany???

Godwin's law is proven correct again.

Godwin's law - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godwin%27s_law

Pippyls67 · 02/02/2025 11:28

Why aren’t we all talking about how similar this all is to pre war Germany???

Nurse08 · 02/02/2025 10:53

Well the people voted it in. They made their own beds. Now we all have to deal with the consequences

biscuitandcake · 02/02/2025 10:47

Reform/Nigel Farage are likely to pick up young voters in the UK because:

  1. They are very proactive on Tiktok etc and working the algorithms to their advantage. Labour/other parties need to compete with them but it is likely to be very hard without looking either cringey or being offensive (parties like Reform aren't held to the same standards being the outsiders)
  2. I can remember the 2008 financial crash and the austerity that followed. And the promises Farage made about Brexit and the issues Brexit caused. Younger people can't. So he won't automatically look like a massive hypocrite/conman to them. And a lot of the UKs issues currently are caused by austerity but I can remember tuning out in the early 2000s when my parents talked about Thatcher. She just didn't seem relevant.

That isn't what I WANT to happen mind. But it is a risk.

Batmanisaplaceinturkey · 02/02/2025 10:28

MeTooOverHere · 01/02/2025 22:38

I don't think "democracy" explains any of these autocratic actions.

U.S. government agencies are now being ordered to make announcements and distribute press releases through Elon Musk’s company rather than through emails or other means.

Elon Musk and a team of DOGE infiltrators have taken over the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) by connecting non-government computer servers to the US personnel mainframe computers. They have reportedly seized private information about millions of federal employees. They have locked the senior managers of the OPM out of their agency’s computers. They have moved “sofa beds” into the OPM offices and put the offices into a “lockdown mode.”
The hostile takeover of OMP allowed Musk to send an unauthorized memo inviting millions of federal employees to resign in exchange for eight months of “non working paid employment.”

Elon Musk and a team of DOGE infiltrators have attempted to seize control of the US Treasury payments system—the gateway through which ALL funds from the federal government flow. When a senior manager at the Treasury asked why Musk needed access to the highly sensitive system, the manager was immediately placed on leave.

As of Friday evening, the Acting US Attorney for Washington, D.C., fired about 30 US Attorneys who prosecuted January 6 insurrectionists. See Politico, DOJ fires dozens of prosecutors who handled Jan. 6 cases. Think about that for a moment: The convicted felons who attacked the Capitol have been pardoned and the loyal servants of the Constitution who prosecuted them have been fired.
Also on Friday evening, the FBI told eight of its most senior leaders to resign or be fired on Monday. Those senior officials head divisions of the DOJ responsible for cybersecurity, national security, and criminal investigations.

The FBI has fired dozens of agents who worked on investigations of January 6 insurrectionists and has asked for a list of every agent across the US who worked on the largest criminal investigation in the history of the FBI. That list will include hundreds—possibly thousands of FBI agents. The implication of the memo ordering the compilation of the list is that those agents may be fired.
Also on Friday, the FBI told the senior agents in charge of field offices in Miami, Philadelphia, Washington, New Orleans, Las Vegas, and Los Angeles to resign or be fired on Monday.

Dozens of government websites were taken offline on Friday, ostensibly to be scrubbed for references to diversity, gender, or human attributes that are not white, male, and Christian. The effort was brutish, clumsy, and ignorant. The Census Bureau website was offline as DOGE infiltrators attempted to remove references to the fact that America includes people who are not white male Christians. Websites relating to LGBTQ equality, women’s health, transgender issues, and scientific knowledge in general were taken down.

And as all of the above is happening, Republicans in the Senate will vote to confirm a Director of National Intelligence with suspiciously warm views toward Putin and an FBI Director who published an “enemies list” that included dozens of politicians, journalists, military officers, and career government officials.

Thanks for posting this.