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Is my toddler over-eating

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Sparkleandglitter · 31/01/2025 09:43

DS is nearly 3 and ALWAYS hungry. He’s constantly looking for snacks or sitting up to the table to wait for his food (even if it’s not actually a mealtime).

He eats so much and I honestly have no idea if I’m over-feeding him or not.
I try to make sure his diet is fairly balanced and healthy but he has a massive appetite.
If we go to a party he makes a beeline for the snack table, and at the park he’s always there when his friend’s snacks come out.
I do make a lot of his snacks myself because it was costing a fortune and I also wanted to reduce how much salt and sugar he was having.

He’s very, very active (Walks/bikes/scoots everywhere. Does football, swimming and riding lessons every week. Spends a lot of time at the park running around with his friends and climbing).
He’s 98th percentile for height and 65th for weight so he isn’t overweight.

But he just eats so much and I don’t know whether to keep giving it to him or whether we need to cut back.

As an example, yesterday he ate:

Breakfast (7am): 1 slice of brown toast, 2 scrambled eggs. Pot of Greek yogurt with blueberries and a banana. Small cup of orange juice.

Snack (10am): 4 oatcakes with cream cheese, apple slices with peanut butter.

Lunch (12.30): Wholemeal pasta with bolognaise sauce.
Avocado, tomato, cucumber and mozzarella salad.
Satsuma.

Snack (3.30pm): Homemade banana, walnut and date cake.

Dinner (6pm): Salmon fillet, sweet potato wedges, broccolini, baby corn and mange tout.
Coconut milk chia pudding with mango and pineapple.

He drinks plenty of water throughout the day so I don’t think he’s thirsty.
He won’t drink any milk at all, so the only thing he has other than water is one small glass of juice/smoothie with breakfast.

It’s obviously hard to describe portion size, but it’s about enough to cover the bottom of child’s plastic plate from IKEA.

So AIBU to give him this much (and sometimes more if he wants it). I’m very aware that this is a lot of food for such a small child.

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ServantsGonnaServe · 31/01/2025 13:30

Disagree with PP about ditching the OJ- it's with a meal, it's fine.

I was prepared to say ditch the snacks if they were prepackaged stuff but everything you've listed is a whole food so I suspect it's genuine hunger.

If he's a healthy weight and active, I'd carry on as you are, it sounds like a model diet.

There is nothing in your meal plan that isn't actively doing something positive for his body, it's all vitamins, minerals etc so as long as his weight isn't too heavy, xarry on.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 31/01/2025 13:25

If he's a healthy weight then that's what he needs

BarnacleBeasley · 31/01/2025 13:24

Sounds fine to me, but my 3 year old's a fucking glutton. I wish mine would eat that range of vegetables and salads. I wouldn't give him juice, though, as it's unnecessary sugar and he doesn't need the vitamins with all the whole fruit and veg that's already in his diet.

GirlfromtheNorthLondonCountry · 31/01/2025 13:22

This is more than my 8 year old eats!

flippertygibbet4 · 31/01/2025 13:20

Trust yourself! He's tall and not overweight. He has a really active life, busy and fun. The food you give him sounds delicious and healthy. I wouldn't worry at all! Also I find that my kids eat a lot more before a growth spurt, and at his age your DS is growing all the time! Be confident in your parenting, it all sounds great to me x

LivelyHare · 31/01/2025 12:35

He is eating far too much sugar, which is fueling his hunger. That’s way too much fruit in one day on top of cake and pudding.

Bearbookagainandagain · 31/01/2025 12:34

verycloakanddaggers · 31/01/2025 12:28

How can you say it is double? The only portion size given is '4 oatcakes'.

We use the idea plates too and so does our nursery, the portion we serve would cover just over half the plate.
Same for the different items at breakfast and morning snack, it's about double what I would give to my 3yo.

takealettermsjones · 31/01/2025 12:34

It sounds fine if his weight is fine, I'm just amazed that a two year old is having riding lessons tbh 😂

Bearbookagainandagain · 31/01/2025 12:32

Compared with my 3.1 yo, this is a huge amount!
But it sounds healthy and balanced, I wish mine would eat that well.

If he is a normal weight there is nothing to worry about.

verycloakanddaggers · 31/01/2025 12:28

Hyperquiet · 31/01/2025 10:03

That's double what the average 3 year old needs but if he's on the taller side I don't see the issue.

My one year old is taller and so needs alot more food than the average one year old.

As long as it's healthy should be fine.

How can you say it is double? The only portion size given is '4 oatcakes'.

Hyperquiet · 31/01/2025 10:03

That's double what the average 3 year old needs but if he's on the taller side I don't see the issue.

My one year old is taller and so needs alot more food than the average one year old.

As long as it's healthy should be fine.

verycloakanddaggers · 31/01/2025 09:59

If he's a healthy weight and the food is healthy/balanced, it's not your job to limit intake.

Ditch the orange juice and the pudding to reduce sugar.

Cluedoless · 31/01/2025 09:56

He's a healthy weight and it sounds as if he is having reasonably healthy food and snacks so I wouldn't worry about it and I wouldn't cut back especially not when he's so active

A few things to consider if you are worried:

  1. Does he ask for so much food or do you keep offering it to him? Maybe don't offer or dont put so much on his plate and see what he says.
  1. Does he eat while playing, watching videos or while he's otherwise distracted?I.e. is he stuffing himself mindlessly?
  1. What are his portion sizes like?
  1. Is he at nursery or preschool? Is it possible that he doesn't eat much there and therefore is very hungry at home?
  1. Is this a new development? Could he be going through a growth spurt?

Again, I think at this age if he's active, a healthy weight and Eating healthy food I wouldn't worry at all. It's better than the alternative but then My dd is severely underweight and hates food so maybe I'm biased.