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14yo odd quiz at school- do I complain

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Cornecopia · 31/01/2025 07:01

My ds came home yesterday and said that he had to fill in an online form ( not just him the whole of his year) and the questions were- what is your sexual orientation, are you comfortable in your gender, have you had sexual experiences, have you ever sent or received inappropriate pictures.
I understand some questions are safeguarding views. But bloody hell the sexual orientation etc why on earth is that relevant to my sons schooling?? I just feel his privacy has been really invaded and he doesn’t know himself whether he’s is straight/gay or whatever- I did ask him if there was. ‘Prefer not to say’ option and he said yes but the teacher said not to use that!
I just don’t really know what to think about it all

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sonnunny · 31/01/2025 07:08

Why would you complain if it's about flagging up issues and offering support ?

rosemole · 31/01/2025 07:08

I definitely wouldn't be happy about this. None of the school's business. How did your son feel about it?

Adamante · 31/01/2025 07:07

Yes I certainly would complain and did when similar happened at my teen’s school.

BlueSilverCats · 31/01/2025 07:07

Cornecopia · 31/01/2025 07:01

My ds came home yesterday and said that he had to fill in an online form ( not just him the whole of his year) and the questions were- what is your sexual orientation, are you comfortable in your gender, have you had sexual experiences, have you ever sent or received inappropriate pictures.
I understand some questions are safeguarding views. But bloody hell the sexual orientation etc why on earth is that relevant to my sons schooling?? I just feel his privacy has been really invaded and he doesn’t know himself whether he’s is straight/gay or whatever- I did ask him if there was. ‘Prefer not to say’ option and he said yes but the teacher said not to use that!
I just don’t really know what to think about it all

Double check with the teacher that they were actually prohibited from not using the "prefer not to answer" option. If it's there, it's available for use. She doesn't have the right to say no, plus it skews the data. You can complain about that.

As for the questionnaire, was it a school/for school one or the NHS one or similar?

sonnunny · 31/01/2025 07:05

If it's the NHS one, it's about pupil wellbeing and flagging up issues. Suicide rates amongst young people are increasing and this is about tackling that.

HPandthelastwish · 31/01/2025 07:05

Normal, it's a national thing looking into trends not school specific and is anonymous.

InDogweRust · 31/01/2025 07:04

What was this for? Something with tutor group?

I'd be complaining about the teacher saying not to use the "prefer not to say" option. It's there for if you prefer not to say!!

sonnunny · 31/01/2025 07:02

Is it the NHS mental health one ?