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Am I Being Unreasonable by inviting my high school teachers to my wedding?

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emlamoore · 30/01/2025 17:11

Hello! I'm 23 years old and have graduated high school almost 5 years ago. I'm getting married later this year and have been wanting to extend an invitation to my high school teachers. I understand this may be weird or inappropriate, so I wanted an outside opinion. My high school was small with my class only containing 55 students, so there was a closer bond between teachers and students. I haven't talked to them but a couple of times since graduation but when I was a student, I was in almost every club that was offered including serving as student body president which allowed me to attend teacher conferences at my school. I say this to say they aren't normal teachers with the average student teacher relationship. One of my friends who's a groomsman has a mother who is a teacher at my old high school that I plan on inviting. But I will say, there are some teachers that I only invite as a courtesy because I don't have as much of a close relationship with them, but the school is so small that it'd be unfair to invite some but not others. So... what do you all think? Would it be weird and unreasonable to invite them to my wedding?

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Talipesmum · 30/01/2025 17:17

It does seem a bit weird - but I can’t quite relate to that size of high school. How many teachers are there in total? I think it’d be fine to invite 2 or 3, but all of them feels like way overkill.

AppleKatie · 30/01/2025 17:15

I think it’s a it bit weird to invite all of them yes. Even in a small school that must be 20+ people?

perhaps 1 or 2 you have a legitimately close ongoing relationship with.