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What would you do as a parent in this scenario?

32 replies

Yu6 · 30/01/2025 14:52

You are married with a daughter in her early thirties. Your daughter was pregnant and her partner kept drinking to excess so the relationship broke down when he drove under the influence, at which point daughter was 5 months pregnant. Daughter obviously devastated and living around a 1.5 hour drive from you, working full time and now living alone. She’s not coping well and feeling vulnerable and anxious about the future.

As a parent what would you have done to support her?

OP posts:
TheMumEdit · 30/01/2025 14:55

Drink driving aside this was my situation. My parents did nothing. I’d made my bed apparently

BarbaraHoward · 30/01/2025 14:55

OP what did your mum do and what would you have wanted her to do? And why didn't she do it?

We can speculate all you want but without specifics it's unlikely to be applicable or helpful.

MissyB1 · 30/01/2025 14:55

It would depend on what it was possible for me to do. If I was free to go and stay for a few weeks to help her work out solutions then I would.

Motomum23 · 30/01/2025 14:54

I would have asked if she wanted to move back home if possible or made regular trips to see her if that wasn't desired/possible.
Problem is if you are the daughter then I can tell you from experience some mums are utter shite- mine told me f off and die when I was 17 and had slashed my wrists after SA. If you are the daughter then huge hugs- you csn get through it all on your own. Stay strong. Xx

Dishwashersaurous · 30/01/2025 14:54

Talked to her. Provided as much emotional support as possible. Visited at the weekends as much as possible

curtaintwitcher78 · 30/01/2025 14:54

Do you want us to say your mother should have invited you to live with her?
Depends on her living situation and your relationship.
There's not much to go on here.

NormaleKartoffeln · 30/01/2025 14:53

Is this a reverse?

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