What would you do as a parent in this scenario?

I don't know what I would have done as a mother, but as I daughter I would have been very clear about how I wanted to be supported rather than let mum guess. I wouldn't have left a full time job to move back with my mum, that's for sure (and my mum knows I wouldn't live with her, so wouldn't have even offered. Nor would she travel as she has a full time job herself). So regular check ups on the phone is what I would have wanted and my mum is happy to provide that.

The thing is though.. As parents we can’t just scoop our kids up and run away from the problem. Plans need to be established and put into place.
I am going to assume the daughter has a job to go to and a home with bills to pay. That cannot be thrown away at the drop of a parent swooping in.

Would be there on the phone when needed for support chats etc. She’s an adult and I am likely busy with my own life but would defo try to visit, invite her for a visit, too.

Daughter is 30 ..going to be a mother doesn't need support as such. She needs to get on with it as an adult and sort herself out. I don't get how its such a trauma, relationships break down everyday. Get a grip.

I ‘d want to go to her and reassure her that we’ll get through it together in the first instance.

Am guessing this is a reverse and you are feeling under-supported by your mother. I'm so sorry. You cannot choose your parents, and many are disappointing parents. Let go of your wanting to be someone she isn't. Draw on resources elsewhere where you can (friends, other family). Good luck.

There really isn't enough information here. Does the daughter have a good income and a job she likes. Is the daughters home rented or owned? How is the mothers financial circumstances and housing?

I would probably visit my daughter to see how she is, but beyond that it's hard to say without more information

With my relationship with my daughter, I’d be going and getting her and bringing her home for TLC. But also, I have the time and space and funds for that.

Surely, there must be a lot of factors in this. Is the mother married to the daughter's father? Is she working full-time? Are they depending on this income? Can she take leave easily? How was her relationship with her daughter before this? Is the daughter willing to leave her job etc and move home?

I’m guessing you are DD and this is a reverse. Without knowing the situation and everyone’s circumstances it’s hard to comment.

Not much go on, but I would imagine you're able to support yourself, house & job wise. Early 30's I'd be offering a listening ear rather than giving advice & ask if you want me to come to you.

Also depends on housing tenure and working. If daughter is working full time with a mortgage, and he's moved out, then moving an hour and a half away wouldn't help.

This must be a reverse. I don’t think my mum would have invited me to live with her, but she would have come to visit and done a bit of cleaning while she was here. She would also ring me often to check on me.

If it was my daughter……I’d probably do the same.

It depends on so many variables.

The mother/ daughter relationship and father/ daughter relationship.
Whether the parents are working and whether full or part time, if they are.
Whether they have money to pay for help in the house.
Whether the daughter can go and stay with them, or vice versa.
Does the ex partner plan to be involved with the baby.

Of course the daughter is anxious about the future. Most expectant parents are. Would it be better for people to be supporting or staying after the baby is born.

And also some people's reactions might be coloured by what had gone before.

Years of telling her to leave the alcohol and not get pregnant and perhaps significant financial support. Which had then been thrown back through no contact and being ignored. Mother might be less willing to do lots

I'd ask what kind of support she wanted /needed and try to help where I could . Help get through the fog of confusion and just talk things out or maybe just listen

Talk to her and find out how she needs me to support her (not the imbecile).
Go to her if possible.
Have her home, at least for a while. Again, if possible.

I’d have maybe called her, offered to visit her, talk it through, see what her options are etc.
Offered a shoulder to cry on, a cuddle, some cake and then based on her options and choices, took it from there.
Mums to adult children are little more than guidance and a hand to hold I think.

I’d have fetched her home asap.

I don't know it depends on the circumstances.
I would be very worried and but I don't know what practically I could do. If she wanted to come back home to live she would be welcome but apart from that what do you think a parents should/could do?

Phone calls.

Offered money for cleaner etc to help with everyday stuff

Offered to go up and support in person

My mum would have (and in similar situation) offered nothing and told me to deal with it.

I would encourage her to come home and go visit as much as I could in the meantime.

Mums have jobs and responsibilities too so it’s hard to drop everything to be there.

I would ask her what she wants me to do.

Speaking from personal experience, she'll need the most help when the baby is born.

I would have let my daughter know she is always welcome to come home and we will help in whatever way we can/however she wants.

Call her every day maybe. I am not sure because it depends what the daughter wants