Boyfriend has gotten ex girlfriend pregnant and wants me to keep things quiet about our relationship

Oh for....

Grow some self respect. This man is a shit. They have kids together. She's trying to reel him back in. You will never be free of her or his financial responsibilities to them. They deserve each other.

Get out now. Walk away. Run. Delete. Block. Move on and up.

Oh no. This makes sense now

Earlier this week, you posted the same thing but said you'd been in a relationship for 2-3 months ........

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100%. Some people feel like they can’t leave because they spend 3/5/7 years with someone but the reality is leaving at this time is better than 30 years with an abusive crappy partner

Leave him...you deserve better than this lying two timer. You need to get some std tests done asap too

Please leave this man & walk away from his mess, you really don’t need to be part of it.

Please don’t be naive enough to believe that you have to keep quiet about the relationship for your own benefit. It is 100% because he is still in a relationship with her.

The way he talks about her to you is also the way he talks about you to her.

She is the mother of his children. She is having another baby with him. This was clearly not a one night stand.

Leave them to it.

Leave them both to it. Run for the hills!

I think if you're honest with yourself this is never going to make you happy and you do deserve better. This situation is only going to cause more and more grief to you over the years. Do yourself a huge favor and end it now. Don't waste more time on this. I know you've invested a few years into this and you love him but I remember a phrase saying 'dont cling on to a mistake just because you spent a long time making it' and I think that applies here.
I'm sure there's something better out there for you, you seem to nice and above this shit show. Take care.

Get rid and get yourself out of that mess.

The greatest mystery in all of this is that such a "man" can be the object of desire to not one but (at least) two women.
When you say you have given him everything, I suspect that means you have attached your self-esteem to his regard for you. Take it back, and go and be happy. I suspect the minute you cut him off, you'll realise what a drain he has been on your time, your emotions, your good night's sleep and probably many other things too.

He sounds like the sort of man who initially makes you feel amazing but then gradually undermines your self esteem until you feel you have no choice but to put up with his shitty behaviour. It's not your fault- they can be very convincing and when you're feeling low it's hard to see a way out other than trying to change yourself and/or be more accommodating in the hope that if you try hard enough they will go back to being the seemingly lovely person you first met. You need to cut contact with him completely and in time you will see that you do not love the person he actually is, you loved the person that he pretended to be to reel you in. In time you will regain your self esteem and wonder why on earth you even considered being with this weasel.

You are probably not the first person he has done this to. His ex probably feels the same way. When you broke up he may have told her it was because he wanted her back and he probably told her that you are the crazy ex who won't let him go. What he wants now is to be able to play happy families with the ex for a while but with you as a secret on the side. He may even want to convince the ex that they are back together as a family so that she goes ahead with the pregnancy, making her more reliant on him. No doubt if you let him he will eventually come back to you for a while (probably when the mother of his new baby is too tired to run around after him) but he will never treat you well and there will be others. You deserve more.

Tell him to fuck all the way to off, and then try to get some therapy to examine why you’re prepared, and even happy, to be treated this way by a man.

You absolutely must get away from him immediately, no contact.

You say you’ve invested a lot of years in him - ok, you have and that sucks - but it’s no reason for you to live the rest of your life miserably with a dishonest cheating lying arsehole who has the cheek to say you are dishonest/crazy etc.

Save yourself now. Thank God she’s the pregnant one not you. You can make a clean break. It will be emotionally difficult for you, but you absolutely must do it or you will regret it in the future.

It all sounds like a bad Eastenders plot line. Leave him, or expect a lifetime of being treated like this. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Walk away from this shitshow. Your boyfriend sounds like a terrible person.

@Chanjh25 The acting crazy and shouting and screaming is unreasonable if it's going on for an extended period of time.

It was a shock, you're entitled to shout and scream.
Then dump him. Block him. Work out what you're going to do next with your life.

He is an arsehole and you are so much better of without him.
Yes it will hurt for a bit but you will get over it.
Seriously, stop engaging with him. And shouting shouting and screaming too.

Run a mile and get yourself an STI test on the way.

Imagine your post had been written by someone else and you were reading it. What would you advise her?

I'm sure you would say "Are you mad? He sounds like a horrible man! Leave him and never go back to him! He will ruin your life if you stay with him!"

So do it.

Incidentally I don’t think your question makes it clear whether "unreasonable" means your anger with this creep or you staying with him, so you shouldn’t pay too much attention to the votes.

He could convert to a religion that's allows polygamy, then it's all systems go. He then wouldn't need to hide Monday partner from Tuesday or Wednesdays partners.

This has a touch of Kyle Walker about this one.

You shouldn't want to be with a man:
(1) who treats you so badly
(2) has another woman that he runs ba k to ever time you have an issue

Every poster here will tell you he's not worth another minute of your time and you are better off without him.

Logically you know it's true - you said it yourself.

If you want to be with him despite the fact he 's a waste of space, why do you think you deserve so little? We can help you will self esteem but no on wants to help you get back with him!

Is there someone you can talk this through in real life with? Someone you trust, a friend or someone older. I think someone's else's support, care and love and honest opinion of this situation will really help you to see this with clarity.

You might feel like you love him but he clearly doesn't love you and he's showing you this really fucking clearly!! You can't change another person, you can't change their feelings or how they act. All you can control is your actions.

Let him be a cheating, lying wanker on his own time. Let him occupy space in someone's else head but so yourself a favour, reclaim your life and let him go. It'll be hard for a while but the sooner you start the sooner you'll be out the other side and living an much more enjoyable existence.

You don’t stay with him! That’s the one way in which you’re being utterly unreasonable.

You shouldn’t have been willing to adapt to it all as it’s a total mess on his own making, and he isn’t going to change.

You think you love him but you will get over it and find a decent relationship, once you’ve down some work on your self esteem. Much better than staying in this awful excuse for a “relationship”.