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Original poster

To think contraception has been a greater liberator to men than to women?

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Macrodatarefiner · 30/01/2025 09:21

And for sure, it is a great liberator to women too. Just on balance, men seem to get the better benefit. AIBU?

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HeronWing · 30/01/2025 09:48

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/01/2025 09:39

Frankly I’m quite happy for men to also get the benefit of not having to risk having a baby every time they have sex when it primarily means I get the benefit of not having to risk having a baby every time I have sex.

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This. The effect of an unwanted pregnancy weighs far more heavily on the woman carrying and either terminating or continuing to term. I don’t think you’ve really thought this through, OP, or you’re,asking the weird assumption that women always want babies.

Completelyjo · 30/01/2025 09:43

Macrodatarefiner · 30/01/2025 09:21

And for sure, it is a great liberator to women too. Just on balance, men seem to get the better benefit. AIBU?

Do they? In what way?

Surely having the ultimate control in terms of whether to have a baby or not lying with the woman means they have the greater benefit?

SomePosters · 30/01/2025 09:41

Eh?

They can have sex without getting pregnant anyway

If they get someone else pregnant they can and so just bugger off

the greater benefit is mine!

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/01/2025 09:39

Frankly I’m quite happy for men to also get the benefit of not having to risk having a baby every time they have sex when it primarily means I get the benefit of not having to risk having a baby every time I have sex.

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Macrodatarefiner · 30/01/2025 09:38

Screamingabdabz · 30/01/2025 09:22

Whatever works for women’s rights, men also benefit. Research has shown this. I just wish they’d all just hurry up and catch up.

Who is they?

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SleepToad · 30/01/2025 09:34

As a man in his 50s yes. I've "friends" who have shagged around since they were teens, moving on when they got bored, or the woman wanted commitment. Perpetual 17 year old men have always been around but contraception has enabled them, because even when pregnancy occurs "well she can have an abortion " " why wasn't she being careful " "she did it on purpose "

bridgetreilly · 30/01/2025 09:22

Louise Perry’s The Case Against the Sexual Revolution is brilliant on this.

Screamingabdabz · 30/01/2025 09:22

Whatever works for women’s rights, men also benefit. Research has shown this. I just wish they’d all just hurry up and catch up.