To ignore the letter and go anyway? Toddler day case procedure

I'm sorry I don't understand why DH is considered not good enough on his own?
I'd say turn up with the baby and if they say no then you go home and leave DH to it

Your 3yo needs your undivided attention. This is a time that they need to know sometimes they will come first with a baby sibling.

It's hard. Dd2's first A&E trip was with dh, because ds was a baby, and he didn't contact (no mobile back then) at all so I spent the night worrying.

But today's about your 3yo, not your worry.

This. I agree that the hospital is unlikely to include a breastfed newborn in their definition of siblings that aren’t allowed. I would turn up with DH and baby and see if they turn you away. I’m a massive stickler for the rules and I really think you’re ok here

Anaesthetist. You'll probably be fine, it's more meaningful siblings that are of an age of running around causing chaos not one in a carrier. If you're going with to theatre then dad will have to keep baby,as only 1 parent comes into theatre and you can't look after 2 kids at once. Good luck they'll be fine

It’s likely to be fine, as when they say siblings they will be meaning walking/talking children that need a chair, might mess around, upset/distract child that needs the procedure. Not a literal breastfed baby. Your baby is basically a loaf of bread that poops and cries. Just be ready to go out if baby is crying and unsettled.

I expect they'd allow a tiny babe in arms but it would be far better for you toddler to just go with dad. They get one to one attention rather than sharing it with a potentially fussy baby.

Do they then sit in the children's ward and wander around the hospital, full of sick people?

Also if you all go and then staff send you away, will that upset your toddler?
your DH will be fine. I would stay home.

Came on to say this. Don’t take your newborn into virus central.

If you think your toddler will be more settled and feel safer with you there then go. The idlers needs are paramount here. The baby needs you too so take them.

if you think your DH will be calm and you won’t and your toddler goes to him for safety too then that might be best.

Don’t worry about taking the baby. That’s different to taking a sibling that’s walking.

I don’t think they’d stop you but there’s no way I’d take a baby that small into a hospital. I work in one.

Professionally I’ve also had the experience of an anxious parent really affecting the child in the anaesthetic bay.

cant dh stay in the cafe with the lo?
or in the car, assume you are driving.

It's not about you though, it's about what's best for your children. Your dh is perfectly capable of taking his own son, don't expose your baby to all the illnesses floating around a hospital because of your anxiety. Also how's the older one going to feel if you did get turned away, having thought his mum was going to be there with him and now she's not?

Until the baby grows up?

I'm sure two adults and a newborn is fine it's just to stop some people who bring their entire extended family.

Take baby!!! Of course they won’t care you’re breastfeeding a newborn it’s not like taking a child who is going to be running around..trust your instinct and go

You and the baby don't need to be there. DC will be fine with their dad.

I’ve been in for multiple day procedures with my DD and there’s no way I’d not be there. However I don’t think it’s just space but also for calmness and overall control of the atmosphere. Sometimes we’ve had a set appointment time and other times kids are ordered by age so you can be there all day depending on who is in and their ages, a lot of them having gone without food since the early hours

Having said that, I’d say a newborn is very different to other age siblings

Would not*

If it's a general paediatric ward. Rather than a daycase unit or a surgical unit are. I would t take a one month old baby to the hospital, as it's RSV season. A 'clean' surgical ward would be ok.

Just stay home with the baby. I really don't get this needing 2 parents and a baby to do things with an older child. I'm a single parent and would give my right arm to have had another capable parent to trust with one of my children.

This! They don't want older siblings running around with bags of toys etc. A tiny newborn who needs breastfeeding and will most likely be in your arms the whole time will be fine

We would let you have a 1 month old baby. Ring the ward and check.

I've been in a very similar situation. DH took the toddler to hospital and I stayed at home with the baby.

I think you are over thinking this / kids don’t even understand the concept of ‘being put under’. Your hubby will be chatting to them one minute and the next they would have closer their eyes. It’s more upsetting for the parent than the child when your kid suddenly just stops moving and passes out! They’ll be fine

You're getting quite a few unfeeling responses here OP. If it was just a quick appointment for a check up I'd absolutely stay home with baby but it's a GA so you should be there. Take your DH and your baby. If there's no space then he can walk baby round outside. Take the pram in the car. X