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Your dog is not your babies 'brother'

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 19:53

Watching ITV news tonight about XL bullies. The amount of money it's costing to Kennel prior to pts, £1000 per dog per month! Huge amount.

Anyway, this delusional owner has one with her 5 month old baby girl. She reckons she knows the dog so well that she knows he wouldn't hurt his 'sister' and that he knows he's her babies big brother.

I mean I like some dogs but aibu to think you're a big delusional if you call them brothers or sisters to your actual children.

Aibu? ynbu no they are like brother and sister

Yanbu these folk are out of touch they are dogs

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:15

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:08

Is it dog bashing? Or is it bashing owners who think their children are safe because they credit the dog with human thinking and emotions, which leads to putting others in danger?

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This.

I'm appalled at the owner not the dog. The owner is delusional

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Soubriquet · 29/01/2025 20:14

I call myself mum, and dh dad to my pets. But I don’t call them furbabies or say they are my childrens siblings

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:13

VotingForYourself · 29/01/2025 20:09

Who has to pay the £1000 a month? The council??

I think that it's the police

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:12

YeOldeGreyhound · 29/01/2025 20:04

The issue about XL bullies aside, people can refer to their pets however they want. It takes nothing from anyone else.

Watching the programme it was clear she actually meant it. Didn't see danger since she had humanised her dog , concerning for a dangerous animal that the xl can be

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Amybelle88 · 29/01/2025 20:12

I've got a beagle. One of the most docile, friendly breeds with a gorgeous temperament.

However, she's a dog. She's not the 'sister'.

I'm a dog person, my friend has pocket bullies and I've spent A LOT of time with them - they are extremely well behaved and trained but she has put an unbelievable about of time into them. Not everyone can do this, me included.

I do believe pocket bullies aren't as dangerous as XL, they are bred with patterdales so the genetic makeup is different. Even she says the XL breed is a whole new kettle of fish and there is zero chance I'd let one around my kids. Ever. No matter how much some protested that they were good.

All dogs are animals and have the potential to turn, although genetics and environment obviously play a big part in the likelihood of it happening. However, there are few that are capable of the level of damage that an XL can do.

Ylvamoon · 29/01/2025 20:10

My dogs are the better behaved offspring in my pack of wolves!
I mean if I tell my teenagers to leave the chicken drumsticks they just shrug and continue eating... the dogs will drop them and look ar me with big apologetic eyes!

VotingForYourself · 29/01/2025 20:09

Who has to pay the £1000 a month? The council??

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2025 20:09

People do die of domestic violence, yes @FirepIace including at the hands of siblings. 'Honour' (awful term for it) killings spring to mind.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:08

IfYouHaveGhosts · 29/01/2025 20:07

Oh goody! It's been aaaaaaggges since we had a dog bashing thread.

Is it dog bashing? Or is it bashing owners who think their children are safe because they credit the dog with human thinking and emotions, which leads to putting others in danger?

TrixieFatell · 29/01/2025 20:07

People humanising dogs are a big part of the problem. My dog is part of our family but he's a dog. The kids see him as a dog.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:07

FirepIace · 29/01/2025 20:06

Did they die though?

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Humans are the most dangerous animals in the planet. There will be many cases where siblings have murdered family members.

IfYouHaveGhosts · 29/01/2025 20:07

Oh goody! It's been aaaaaaggges since we had a dog bashing thread.

AnneElliott · 29/01/2025 20:06

I think people who have big dogs and small children in the house are plain stupid.

But I definitely used to refer to my cats as DSs sisters Blush. In fact he used to tell people he had twin sisters - it's only when people asked their names it became clear they're weren't human!

moggiek · 29/01/2025 20:06

I just couldn’t believe that she had that dog in the same house as her beautiful baby 😮

FirepIace · 29/01/2025 20:06

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2025 20:05

Not sure a sibling has ever mauled another sibling to death though.

My brother was violent. A friend of mine's brother tried to stab her. Another's sister has exceptionally violent.

The issue isn't the 'sibling' nonsense OP, it's basic risk assessment of their children's welfare.

Did they die though?

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2025 20:05

Not sure a sibling has ever mauled another sibling to death though.

My brother was violent. A friend of mine's brother tried to stab her. Another's sister has exceptionally violent.

The issue isn't the 'sibling' nonsense OP, it's basic risk assessment of their children's welfare.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:05

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 29/01/2025 20:02

I mean I like some dogs but aibu to think you're a big delusional if you call them brothers or sisters to your actual children.

YANBU about the dangerous dogs.

YABU to think anyone actually believes their dog is their child's sibling. It's an affectionate and/or jokey way of referring to the bond between the child and the animal. You can find it silly or annoying, but it's not 'delusional' Hmm

According to the o/p this woman not only calls it the child’s brother, but seems to think the dog understands it’s the big brother, and the brother sister relationship, and gives that as her reasoning as to why the dog won’t hurt the child…

fucking dangerous.

ImWithGuineaPigsOnThisOne · 29/01/2025 20:05

Nina1013 · 29/01/2025 19:56

Anyone who has a dog like that with a baby or child should have their child removed for their safety.

I totally refer to my dogs as my child’s siblings though - but in a joking way.

This 100%

YeOldeGreyhound · 29/01/2025 20:04

The issue about XL bullies aside, people can refer to their pets however they want. It takes nothing from anyone else.

YourWinter · 29/01/2025 20:04

You can’t fix stupid. Most of these repulsive dogs are owned by the thickest of imbeciles.

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:04

FirepIace · 29/01/2025 20:02

They need to cull them immediately. This is an outrageous expense when we have people living in poverty, children starving, not enough money for social workers etc, THOUSANDS of more worthwhile things to spend that kind of money on.

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Totally agree. I was shocked at the waste of money

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MoggetsCollar · 29/01/2025 20:02

Oh dear, we call the cat my teenage DS' sister all the time. They really are very similar- always either sleeping or looking for food.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 29/01/2025 20:02

I mean I like some dogs but aibu to think you're a big delusional if you call them brothers or sisters to your actual children.

YANBU about the dangerous dogs.

YABU to think anyone actually believes their dog is their child's sibling. It's an affectionate and/or jokey way of referring to the bond between the child and the animal. You can find it silly or annoying, but it's not 'delusional' Hmm

FirepIace · 29/01/2025 20:02

Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:01

I was surprised. 25 million expected to be cost to Kennel, vet cost, police etc . Surely owner should contribute.

Needs speeding up process. Some Kennels are profiteering £1000 a month per dog is ridiculous

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They need to cull them immediately. This is an outrageous expense when we have people living in poverty, children starving, not enough money for social workers etc, THOUSANDS of more worthwhile things to spend that kind of money on.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:02

It’s frightening that she thinks the dog understands the concept of “sister”

of course it doesn’t know it’s the baby’s “big brother”, it’s a dog!

this increasing anthropomorphism will really damage pets eventually. I overheard one woman in a vet on about her dogs collar and how she needed to get a pink one, and projecting all sorts of stupid human gender stereotypes on to the dog.

they’re dogs ffs.

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