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Your dog is not your babies 'brother'

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Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 19:53

Watching ITV news tonight about XL bullies. The amount of money it's costing to Kennel prior to pts, £1000 per dog per month! Huge amount.

Anyway, this delusional owner has one with her 5 month old baby girl. She reckons she knows the dog so well that she knows he wouldn't hurt his 'sister' and that he knows he's her babies big brother.

I mean I like some dogs but aibu to think you're a big delusional if you call them brothers or sisters to your actual children.

Aibu? ynbu no they are like brother and sister

Yanbu these folk are out of touch they are dogs

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Ihopeithinkiknow · 29/01/2025 20:46

I couldn't give a shit what people refer to their dogs as tbh it's a non issue compared to actually having a dog like that around children

Temporaryname158 · 29/01/2025 20:45

Me and my sister are both blond with long hair, when we got a yellow furred golden retriever as tweens we joked she was our little sister. It was just a family joke though, we quite clearly knew she was the family pet but she was very loved.

its a totally different situation to the bonkers people dressing dogs up or worst still keeping killer dogs with children. There should be a law against XL bullies in homes with ANY children, resident or visiting

mistymorning12 · 29/01/2025 20:44

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:07

Humans are the most dangerous animals in the planet. There will be many cases where siblings have murdered family members.

and that's why we need dog legislation......

Astrak · 29/01/2025 20:42

When my now fully-grown son was a baby, I had a very well-bred German Shepherd Dog. I spent a fortune on buying and training her, via Local Authority training courses and a three-day private training course with Barbara Woodhouse, a world-famous dog trainer.
The GSD had two really long walks daily (we lived in open countryside) was out in our large, securely-fenced garden a lot and I practiced training every single day, right up to the day that she was pts, aged thirteen.
My son was closely-supervised all the times he was around her and he was never, ever left alone with her.

It cost me a fortune in time, money and inconvenience to ensure that both the dog and the child were safe in the same house. I don't think that many people today have the resources or time to mix babies/children and potentially dangerous animals in such a way.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/01/2025 20:40

AnneElliott · 29/01/2025 20:06

I think people who have big dogs and small children in the house are plain stupid.

But I definitely used to refer to my cats as DSs sisters Blush. In fact he used to tell people he had twin sisters - it's only when people asked their names it became clear they're weren't human!

Do you apply that to all dogs or just bull breeds? We had a Labrador cross when I was a baby and when she died we got an Old English Sheepdog. Were they too big?

DoggoQuestions · 29/01/2025 20:39

I hate it (and fur babies) but my 11yo and 6yo refer to Ddog as their brother and call themselves sister. I don't stop them saying it, just cringe inside.

JessiesJ99 · 29/01/2025 20:38

Although I do think that XL bullies could be good police dogs....?

🤔🤣😬

MassiveSalad22 · 29/01/2025 20:36

Why do they need to be kennelled for time (a month!!?) before being PTS?? Presuming an amnesty, just feed them all poison/production line euthanise them and don’t waste any extra money on them.

People talking about human siblings…. Since when has a human sibling got jaws powerful enough to bite their human sibling to death??

JessiesJ99 · 29/01/2025 20:35

The thing that seems odd about the XL bully attacks/ deaths is that a fair few of them seem to be on the owner.

I know you could say maybe the owner abused them but in 2 separate cases that spring to mind the owners were female and according to everyone who knew them they couldn't have been any kinder, more loving to these dogs. In one case, the dog slept in her bed with her, and she referred to him as her baby.

They just seem to have gone completely mad & turned on them.

It's seems v unusual for a dog to attack its owner, I think 🤔

I'm a cat person, so 🤷😂😹

Hermitta · 29/01/2025 20:35

Anyone who denies a fundamental fact, that dogs are animals, is a moron.

You can love them dearly, and they can love you.

But you can never trust them completely, you can't read their mind, you can't always trust that training will hold 100% and you never know when instincts or pain will make them behave in an unpredictable way.

It's always seemed absolutely insane to me that anyone would have an animal they couldn't confidently and quickly overcome around their children.

My chihuahua is well bred, well trained and a sweetheart. As an added bonus, if she ever did decide to suddenly turn into a ravenous hell beast, my youngest could punt her over a fence with ease.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 29/01/2025 20:35

I was an only child but our cat was always referred to as my brother and our dog was my sister. I don't ever remember anyone being offended by it, but it was the 1970's so obviously times have changed. People seem far less tolerant of others now.

pestowithwalnuts · 29/01/2025 20:31

I watched this and couldn't believe it
She knew what the dog was going to do before it even did it.
And it wouldn't touch his sister.. God sake what an an absolute loads of dim witted bollocks.
You stupid woman
I bet she's another one who calls the dog her ,' fur baby '

JessiesJ99 · 29/01/2025 20:28

FirepIace · 29/01/2025 19:58

Not sure a sibling has ever mauled another sibling to death though.

😂😂😂😂😂

Bristolinfeb · 29/01/2025 20:28

Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 19:59

Not sure a human wd bite you or savage you to death though.

So do you think ok to refer to as big brother or little sister

I agree! I was just making the point that her agruement that their sibilings so the dog won’t bite doesn’t make sense.

I would like to see all these dogs PTS.

TomatoSandwiches · 29/01/2025 20:28

People who have these dogs around children are just thick as mince, they should have the children removed tbh but the threshold for doing that with the lack of resources means they get left with their stupid parents and survive due to pure luck.

HousedInMySoul · 29/01/2025 20:27

A sibling may be violent to another sibling, but at least if the sibling is human, there would be some chance of someone else trying to prevent any injury or death happening

When an XL bully loses it, it's gonna take police marksmen shooting it several times before it can be stopped

That's the difference, obviously

LeavesTrees · 29/01/2025 20:27

I have to admit I use the word brother/sister and mum and dad with my dog. He’s a small dog.
I think the words we use are far less important and not worth worrying about compared to the people treating their dogs badly, encouraging bad behaviours in their dogs because they think it’s “cute” or “naughty” and having dogs who are known to kill humans around their children - that’s where the real problems lie.

Chypre · 29/01/2025 20:20

Nope, they are not big brothers. In this house, they are grand pawrents, and the baby is their grand child. Just as with any older grand parent with health issues (sight, hearing, arthritis), it is definitely not safe to leave them together unsupervised.

maudelovesharold · 29/01/2025 20:19

IfYouHaveGhosts · 29/01/2025 20:07

Oh goody! It's been aaaaaaggges since we had a dog bashing thread.

Agree with pp. I don’t think it’s dog bashing. More like stupid people bashing.

Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:18

IfYouHaveGhosts · 29/01/2025 20:07

Oh goody! It's been aaaaaaggges since we had a dog bashing thread.

Not bashing the dogs. I'm bashing the idiot owners.

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TheseCalmSeas · 29/01/2025 20:18

Because we love our dogs? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Live & let live

Thisandthatandthensome · 29/01/2025 20:17

Whycanineverthinkofone · 29/01/2025 20:05

According to the o/p this woman not only calls it the child’s brother, but seems to think the dog understands it’s the big brother, and the brother sister relationship, and gives that as her reasoning as to why the dog won’t hurt the child…

fucking dangerous.

That's correct. Owner said he won't hurt her , she's his sister. Unbelievable

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Lowhangingfruitisthebest · 29/01/2025 20:17

I tell my dogs to go to their 'brother' or 'sister'.

  1. It's just a term of endearment
  2. I am fully aware my dogs are not biologically related to my children.
  3. My children are teenagers and my dogs are Springer Spaniels.

I absolutely hate XL bullies and their amoeba brained owners but just because some people use certain words at home doesn't make them ineffective owners! The dog/owner bashing on here has got out of control!

Carpetmoths · 29/01/2025 20:16

I think big dogs and children don’t mix in general, and the idea of a bully dog living with a child makes me feel a bit ill.

However, I call my mums’ dogs my children’s uncles because the idea of a dog being an uncle makes me laugh 🤷‍♀️

MaltipooMama · 29/01/2025 20:15

I hate to admit that I refer to my 5kg maltipoo as my son's "big sister" 🙈 in reality it's obviously tongue in cheek as clearly I know they're not biologically related...

On a serious note though despite my puppy being about half the size of my son, I would never leave them alone together without me or my partner there. I'm fully aware that animals have a certain level of unpredictability regardless of their breed or environment and I would never in a million years take the risk. Although at this stage I'd probably be more likely to walk into my toddler bopping her on the head more than the other way around.

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