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About DD not getting a part - again

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Helladelinquent · 29/01/2025 15:50

I’m going back and forward on this and I can’t make up my mind.

Both DDs (8 & 11) do stage school as a hobby. They both loved it.
It’s a pretty popular stage school and they do 2 big shows in the local theatre a year.
DD2 has had a small part in the last 4 shows even though normally the woman running it says if someone has had a part in the previous show, you don’t get a part in the next show.
DD1 though hasn’t had any part in the previous 5/6 shows. The cast list has just gone up for the next show and one girl actually has 2 parts and yet again DD hasn’t got any. She’s now feeling completely hopeless and like she’ll never get a part.

WIBU to message the woman running it and ask for some pointers on how DD could improve her auditions.

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BournardTourney · 29/01/2025 16:06

Your first idea was best, express your concern and ask for pointers for your DD.

SillySeal · 29/01/2025 16:06

I would speak to her. I have kids in MT and would want to know. I would phrase it like you suggested with what could DD do to improve her chances and see what she says. I would advise to give it 24/48 hours to go over what she says before deciding to pull your DD in the heat of the moment. It seems too many shows to not get a single part.

MrsPerfect12 · 29/01/2025 16:04

Could she do the part with confidence? I don't think it's always the case of ticking the box to say everyone has had a turn. If they can't do it they can't do it.

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Helladelinquent · 29/01/2025 16:03

Viviennemary · 29/01/2025 16:00

I think thats mean. Your DD should at least get a small part. I think I would rather speak to the leader in person rather than message.

I’m actually worried that if I talk to her I’ll get angry at the leader and just pull both DD out of the stage school. DD2 still loves it so I don’t want to burn all my bridges.

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EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 29/01/2025 16:02

Definitely speak to her if the policy is everyone gets a turn

Lovelylydia · 29/01/2025 16:01

Surely every child should get a part, however small. I thought one of the points of children going to stage school is to gain confidence and boost their self-esteem. This is doing the opposite.

Viviennemary · 29/01/2025 16:00

I think thats mean. Your DD should at least get a small part. I think I would rather speak to the leader in person rather than message.

TwentyTwentyFive · 29/01/2025 15:59

Wow your poor daughter. I'd love to hear the women's reasoning for one child having two parts and some having none, no wonder she feels demoralised.

I would absolutely be having a word with the teacher. 5/6 time of never having any part seems incredibly unreasonable. I find it hard to believe they couldn't have found her a single role in any of the shows.

Muddypawsies · 29/01/2025 15:56

I think you would be well within your rights to do this.