Hi so there have been many problems with mine and my husbands parenting styles we are 100 miles apart and it's not good. However there's always been a few things that have really concerned me , he doesn't watch out daughter properly or hold her hand on pick up says she runs off into the nursery car park he's just what I see as a lazy parent. Generally he's just too busy for anyone but his other wife ( his mobile) I'm being serious when I say that man walks into the home after work looking at the screen hears no one! Last few days I'm noticing more and more that he doesn't follow little one into kitchen say I'm upstairs oven on she's in the knife drawer he's too lazy to move. So I talk to him he thinks I'm unreasonable. Now tonight I'm telling little one a story and she says I couldn't sit in my car seat tonight it's broken! Just innocently came out with it I had no idea, then She says I sat on big seat in the front next to dad's. Strap apparently unclipped somehow 5 days ago and he's not fixed it in 5 days he could have called me I wfh 5 mins from nursery I could have gone for her, walking or car but what did he do sit her in the front passenger seat with just the adult seatbelt😡 I'm mortified I told him I'm disgusted that he did that it's so dangerous I know how dangerous my work centres road traffic accidents and I've seen some bad ones. Then comes to me cooking tea and he's doing bath time.
I take towels upstairs and there he is on his mobile phone again with his back turned to our little one he's stood about a metre away near sink back completely turned taking 0 notice of her in the bath whilst with his beloved phone! this is not the first time and our daughter is quite hyper and silly she needs supervision as all 3 year olds should in the bath but she really can get silly as they do stands up , slips falls back I've had to catch her a few times to stop her going under, don't people realise you can't hear a child drown !! Same with food he doesn't watch her choking is silent, the thing is with him is that he's really hooked you have to call his name like 5 times to get him out of whatever zone he's into on his phone. .I'm disgusted and disappointed with him to say the least. I told him tonight to grow up this is not negotiable out daughters safety is not negotiable I'm not parenting him to be able to parent oh no he needs to grow up. in some ways he does it on purpose so I'll pick up more as I don't trust him 1 bit. There's other things I can't go out of the house for fear he will fall asleep he does have a sleep condition but let's say he's fine when he's doing what he wants I leave him for 5 mins to nip to shop and she's climbing windows dragging things out trashing home he's snoring his head iff. In my opinion he's completely selfish and childish for a 51 year old he acts like a teenager I'm 42 and hoped we would be good as older parents and I'm really considering that I can't stay with someone who does not take the safety of their child seriously. My worry is if we were to separate he would get contact which I'd not stop but I don't think he's safe to look after her unsupervised. There's a lot of other things too he's really neglected me for his phone he's completely addicted to his phone through I once had a right go at him for reading his phone while driving playing about with getting a signal for his stupid horse racing I honestly feel I've had it. He knows this too he's booked us a week abroad to try and see if we can get it back but I don't know it's just unbelievable. I was madly in love with this man but he's drove me to despair I feel genuinely like me and my daughter deserve better. You would really have to see it to believe it my teens try to get home early when I work late on the weds so he's not alone with her it's that bad. Sorry for the long post am I being unreasonable? I don't believe in compromise where safety is concerned myself it's different with other parenting matters but not safety.