Blusher drama

I see, so you tell random girls you are not related to, since you don't have any girls, what they can buy with their own money? Interesting. You should start a thread on that.

To add, make up is a very personal thing re:hygiene.

I am scrupulous about keeping mine clean and using with clean hands etc.

I know which blush you mean and I would not want to use it after someone else got their sticky mitts on it or put it in their face.

To me it's akin to someone stealing my toothbrush.

Its way too young to be obsessed with blusher and looks

Haha! Exactly, always got some with me to hand out. I'm the creepy mum with the litmus paper. I was thinking about birthday gifts (like make your soap/candles/ robot etc kit).

It isn’t really comparable this way. Imagine saving up for a new car, finally getting it and then someone taking it for a ride without permission and scratching it. Agreed you wouldn’t buy a whole new one but you would expect them to face the consequence of driving it without your permission and to repair it to a position where the damage is not visible even though the scratch does not impede use of the car at all

What in the playground like sweets or something?? Psst.. come here, do you want some litmus paper?

Dermatologists have gone out and spoken about this is the media : young girls are damaging their perfect skin with products that often contains allergens and chemicals that can contribute to getting cancer in the future). This is besides my feminist opinion about these kind of products in general for young girls.

So happy to only have boys. Young girls do not need skincare, they are being indoctrinated by influencers and marketing and indoctrinated to believe that their appearance is their most valued asset. That's why I offer science kits/stem toys to all little girls I know 😉

I was a young girl who needed skin care long before the internet exisited.

It's not always about being indoctrinated. Girls have been self conscious of their skin since time began.

I have one of those and it's ridiculous to say that by being 'bumpy' it's no longer usable. Whilst I accept her sister shouldnt have touched her possessions I think she's scoring a few points here and you are buying into it.

I do actually. There are things that I don't let my boys buy with their pocket money (wanted to buy gems and "skins" in a videogame). My prerogative since they are under 18.

Now I’m reminiscing about the little palette I had aged about 8. It had 2 rectangular blushes and 3 heart shaped eye shadows in green blue and an orangey colour and a lipstick that you could pull
apart and it was 2 colours in one. I absolutely adored that set 😂

Do you also insist that all little girls spend their own pocket money which they have saved up for themselves on things you consider appropriate? Because otherwise that's not actually relevant to the thread.

So happy to only have boys. Young girls do not need skincare, they are being indoctrinated by influencers and marketing and indoctrinated to believe that their appearance is their most valued asset. That's why I offer science kits/stem toys to all little girls I know 😉

I remember being about 9 and going and buying some appalling blue eyeshadow from the chemist at the bottom of the road. I loved that crappy blue eyeshadow though I didn't wear it anywhere except in the house and I kept it for a couple of years because nobody ruined it for me.

It's a mistake to make such a huge error of judgement that you call your daughter hysterical and bossy when your other daughter is the one who is unmistakably at fault, because such clear and undeniable favouritism will be remembered even if it's (unlikely though this is)

It's her possession, it doesn't matter at all if an adult thinks her possesion hasn't been ruined you have the power to fix this or to continue to show favouritism. Up to you.

So happy to only have boys. Young girls do not need skincare, they are being indoctrinated by influencers and marketing and indoctrinated to believe that their appearance is their most valued asset. That's why I offer science kits/stem toys to all little girls I know 😉

@Peachhearts
I'm sorry but an 11 year girl who is already following skin care regimes and spending £20 on a blusher has already bought into the obsession with appearance that is so prevalent in society. And it sounds like at 9 her younger sister is already going down the same route.
Why are girl children being taught that society only values them for what they look like, not who they are as a person?

I used to get told that I was treating my children differently and that I was telling off my older child and not his brother. But that's because his brother never did anything wrong! He was actually really scared of doing anything wrong and terrified of being told off. It's not about favouritism but it would have been madness to treat them exactly the same.

I do think it's madness for a child to think that spending £20 on a blusher is normal. I'm 52 and have been wearing a full face of make up for over 35 years and I've never spent more than £10 on a blusher.

@Peachhearts
I'm sorry but an 11 year girl who is already following skin care regimes and spending £20 on a blusher has already bought into the obsession with appearance that is so prevalent in society. And it sounds like at 9 her younger sister is already going down the same route.
Why are girl children being taught that society only values them for what they look like, not who they are as a person?