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Living with ex husband for 3 years now - unable to sell

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MummyZeeUK · 28/01/2025 22:20

Hi everyone,
I would appreciate any feedback from ladies who are or were in a similar situation as me..
I've been divorced for over 3 years now, but still living with my ex husband and our children under the same roof..
House in both our names, mortgage is also under both names..
It started off with ex not wanting to sell, and playing games until we lost two viable buyers.. then the market slowed down, and I was made redundant from my job of 9 years..
Currently each one of us lives in their room, and we alternate the use of common areas (kitchen, living room, etc) each week.. basically, the parent who is looking after the kids gets to use the common areas, while the other parent stays locked in their room until it's their turn to look after the kids.
This situation has caused me so much anxiety and stress, I feel ashamed and I have been trying hard to hide it from people I meet.. I feel trapped, unable to move on with my life, or project myself into the future.
I would appreciate any advice or stories from women who have been through a similar situation.. maybe mine is not bad after all :(

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MissUltraViolet · 28/01/2025 22:26

If it isn’t selling then it’s the price. Speak to the agent and get it lowered to whatever it needs to be at to sell ASAP.

That sounds like an awful way to live for you and more importantly, the children. You can’t do another three years of this, neither of you are moving on or living your lives in a healthy way at all.

ladykale · 28/01/2025 22:25

Are things that bad that you have to alternate use of common areas? Can't you just act like housemates who don't know each other v well?

BlueMum16 · 28/01/2025 22:23

This sounds unbearable.

Is the house still up for sale? Have you spoken to the estate agent about the price.

I would be reducing by at least 10-15% to sell now.