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To expect my son to wash his hands when he gets in?

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Whyareyousoannoying · 28/01/2025 17:45

Ds 16yo has been at work or college, come home on public transport.

Aibu to expect him to wash his hands upon arriving home before he starts touching everything especially the fridge, food, cups etc. he will walk straight in and start going in the fridge making a drink not washing his hands.

When I ask him he shouts at me and calls me a germ phobe.

Everyone else in the house manages to wash their hands when they get in.

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Rosesgrowonyou · 29/01/2025 21:14

I keep my hands permanently in a bag of soapy water. You can't be too careful.

Permanently? You minger. I take a five minute break each day to replace the bag with a new one.

Flopsythebunny · 30/01/2025 10:28

There are some right dirty mingers on this thread. No wonder so many people are ill with viruses at the moment

RomiStorm · 30/01/2025 08:04

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ThePoshUns · 30/01/2025 07:49

Those of you who wash their hands when they come in, give it a try and have a look at the water when you rinse. It might change your mind.
Even if your hands don't look dirty you'll be surprised how grubby they actually are.
Plus it's nice to have freshly washed skin.

Longma · 30/01/2025 07:27

We never wash our hands when coming home from school and work, not unless they look or feel particularly dirty.
We wash our hands when going to the toilet, before and drugging food prep, each morning/night, etc but not just when we get home.

Purinea · 29/01/2025 21:50

People saying things like oh well do you wipe your phone?!
like that’s a gotcha. Erm yes!! You actually should disinfect your phone sometimes, you mingers 😂 I will be weary next time someone hands me their phone to take a photo I guess.

are you all cleaning your houses? or would that make you germaphobes too. I can’t work out where the line is for people between basic hygiene and germaphobe, if washing your hands before you prepare food is in the germaphobe realm.
this is why I don’t eat food other people make.

Rosesgrowonyou · 29/01/2025 21:14

I keep my hands permanently in a bag of soapy water. You can't be too careful.

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Whyareyousoannoying · 29/01/2025 18:30

If that's what you want to think 😊

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VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 18:29

Whyareyousoannoying · 29/01/2025 18:27

Sounds suspiciously like the type of people who go into work or visit people full of illness spreading it everywhere but insisting that they are not ill.

Sounds suspiciously like someone obsessed with germs claimng they're not a germaphobe

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Whyareyousoannoying · 29/01/2025 18:27

Sounds suspiciously like the type of people who go into work or visit people full of illness spreading it everywhere but insisting that they are not ill.

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VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 18:26

LuckySantangelo35 · 29/01/2025 17:10

@VoodooRajin

lots of people wipe their dogs paws when they’ve been out for a walk .

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What about the kitty cats?

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Whyareyousoannoying · 29/01/2025 18:23

I'm finding it hard to believe all of these people who claim they've never in their whole life had so much as a sniffle.

I can't think of a single person I've ever known who hasn't had a cold even once.

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Whyareyousoannoying · 29/01/2025 18:21

VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 17:55

Does everyone disinfect their phone when they come home

I do wipe my phone over regularly yes.

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QuickDraining · 29/01/2025 18:09

Weirdly having a pet is meant to improve health. That's why my kids are forced to french kiss the dog shortly after they have walked Stanley and he has wolfed down a shit truffle in the park. None of us have ever had so much of a sniffle...

VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 17:55

Does everyone disinfect their phone when they come home

CrestWhite · 29/01/2025 17:16

I wash my hands regularly when using shared things because I know other people have lower standards to cleanliness than I.

I take the same approach in my house.

goody2shooz · 29/01/2025 17:14

@Whyareyousoannoying im amazed at all the folk who wouldn’t wash there hands when they come in from a day at work/at the shops/school etc. Surely it’s common sense and decent hygiene? Hardly needing all these ‘germ phobic comments’.

LuckySantangelo35 · 29/01/2025 17:10

VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 16:56

What about the dogs? Do they have to kean their paws before walking around the house?🐩

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@VoodooRajin

lots of people wipe their dogs paws when they’ve been out for a walk .

Miyagi99 · 29/01/2025 17:09

CarlaH · 29/01/2025 10:15

Are people still not aware that hand sanitiser is no use against norovirus.

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It’s not norovirus I’m particularly worried about as I’ve never had that that, I just don’t want a cold.

VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 16:57

*clean

VoodooRajin · 29/01/2025 16:56

LuckySantangelo35 · 29/01/2025 10:44

@Mama2many73

but if you and everyone took their shoes off you wouldn’t have to hoover and mop daily! Make life easier for yourself!

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What about the dogs? Do they have to kean their paws before walking around the house?🐩

QuickDraining · 29/01/2025 16:41

@Flopsythebunny yikes!

Flopsythebunny · 29/01/2025 15:36

QuickDraining · 28/01/2025 22:00

I always wash my hands before picking my nose.

My deceased Mil used to pick her nose. She she ended up with chronic sinusitis caused by numerous bacterial infections that led to sepsis.
At 82 years old she was sat in her hospital bed with the doctor trying to explain to her how important it was to wash her hands frequently while she was having a right good dig around up her nose as though the doctor wasn't even there.
It used to turm my stomach to watch her doing it.

longapple · 29/01/2025 13:09

some germs transmit by aerosol straight into your lungs, it's harder to avoid those although there are ways you can minimise that risk, or by touching droplets or lumps of stuff that someone else has ejected one of their body holes, then giving it a route into your body.

so if you touch stuff on public transport or shops that loads of other people have been touching all day, you are likely smearing traces of their bodily fluids or shit on your hands. When you get home, where you have multiple sinks and soap you think it's stupid to bother washing that stuff off, instead you move around the house scratching your eye, preparing and eating food, or just leaving it around for other people to pick up, touching doorhandles, worktops, unloading the dishwasher, picking up your kids toys. lush. wouldn't want to be a germphobe though, we all benefit from a bit of someone else's shit or bogies as part of our daily diet 👍