Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

Cooking is a confidence thing, baking is a precision (or experience) thing, in my experience.

We can both cook confidently without measurements and recipes because it's something we do all the time. You can chuck things together and make a good meal if you know the very basics. Most dishes can be pretty forgiving.

Baking is chemistry - it relies of the correct proportions and temperatures to work. This means you need to be very experienced to do it by eye and feel or - like most people - you need to measure things and be fairly precise. Some people love that approach, others find it too rigid. I haven't seen a male/female split in that beyond societal expectations.

Absolutely not. Don't get me wrong, he can feed himself, and the family if necessary, but it's not good. And he has the strangest notions about what constitutes a meal. He was brought up to think of it as fuel, and cooking was a necessary evil to his mum. One that messed up her pristine kitchen. I enjoy cooking and taking extra trouble to make food as tasty as possible. So I suppose he feels he can't live up to that. My DC are both decent cooks, and as young adults living at home they take their turn.

Mine cooks every night as we like different foods

When I met him he was but I do all the cooking now and have been for nearly 18 years. I don't mind cooking but I hate tidying up (not that i make a massive mess) so he does that and load the dishwasher.

Pretty sure he could still do something like bangers and mash (or something similar) but it would take bloody ages and I'm too impatient 🤣 but he wouldn't complain if asked.

Yes, mine does pretty much all the cooking (and cleaning up). He's a fantastic cook, he did Christmas dinner for 12 last month. I detest cooking so I'd be the one losing my cool if I had to do it. I like baking though so I usually do cakes/desserts etc.

Yes. He does virtually all of the cooking anyway so knows where everything is.

When I see the responses to threads like these I wonder how husbands that can’t cook managed to survive the period between leaving home and getting married.

Absolutely. I had an absolute pig of a day yesterday and DH simply made me a cup of tea and took over making dinner. For some of the things I cook he would have to refer to a recipe book but he is a very good cook and makes fantastic cakes. He also clears up more efficiently than I do.

My DH can and does cook from time to time, generally simple dishes. Does it without making a fuss or using all the dishes

He would struggle with a roast dinner or sticky toffee pudding, due to lack of experience. Most people get better with practice

ExH: no. Late dx ASD (aged 60). Both my teens are also ASD so I'm aware of issues this can cause re interoception ('am I hungry?'), sequencing ('did I buy food / what ingredients / recipe') etc.
But, also weaponised incompetence:
I'd leave food for him & toddlers & he'd 'forget' to give it to them/ text 10 times to ask 'how to make a sandwich?' if I tried to have an evening out. He clearly isn't starving living by himself now. My girl ASD teen cooked a full breakfast for me on my Birthday. My boy teen is less likely to try but will be 'trained up' soon as he needs to be able to cook for himself & it's a skill ge needs to learn.

Without fuss? Yes
Without every pan and utensil while trashing the kitchen which he will actually clear up (to his own barely adequate standards) No

Yes - it ebbs and flows over the course of the year but at the moment it’s my busy time at work and his quiet time so he’s making probably 5/7 evening meals, and also makes the odd cake or batch of biscuits. He also plans the meals and will buy ingredients although I tend to do the big shop. It’s very nice change from my ex, where we started 50/50 and ended up with me doing every damn thing.

Yes, he can roast and make dinner. He is a far tidier cook than me. Baking isn't really his thing but if I asked he'd give it a go and I am sure it would be lovely. He did used to work in commerical kitchens though. Mostly thought I do all the cooking because I like cooking and I hate cleaning up. Cooking is my happy place!

No. Trashes beyond belief.

Yes, thank God as I HATE cooking.

Unfortunately due to work patterns, it's often me who does have to cook hence why we have standard meals I can prep in the slow cooker or make within 30 mins.

No - nothing bar toast or perhaps a jacket potato, maybe oven chips and chicken nuggets at a push.

He is an excellent washer upper and dishwasher stacker though.

Yes but it took multiple years of training.
now he can rock up a roast and a fry up with no fuss! He was totally hopeless as
well so there is hope for anyone.

My husband does 95% of the cooking in our house sooo yes lol
He's not as clean during the process as I would be but I get distracted by cleaning up and that's normally what ends up ruining my cooking attempts!

My DH eats different food to DD and I so he has to cook his own dishes. They take 3-4h to make (his native dishes) and the kitchen looks a mess but he cleans afterwards.

Absolutely not at all. I have tried to teach some basic skills but he got so anxious. Basically he can manage pasta with premade sauce.

Hmmm I do agree partially... 🤔I'm not great at cooking and don't have much confidence in the kitchen (unless I know a recipe inside out in which case it gets hammered to death 😂).

But DH isn't any more experienced / trained than I am?! He's just taught himself over the years.

However, he is far more confident and chilled out than I am and by default, is less bothered about getting it wrong so has probably learnt that way - trial and error?! I wouldn't dream of "experimenting" and I'm definitely the worrier in the relationship whereas he is completely laid back so that could be part of it too?!

Yes he can cook but rarely does. When he does it's always lovely, he doesn't make a mess, and certainly doesn't shout or have a tantrum. He does ask me, every few minutes, where things are which is super irritating

My DH can't make a sandwich without using half the knives in the kitchen, which he then leaves lying around on the work surfaces or drops in the sink. He never puts them in the dishwasher even if it is empty. He has many redeeming features but his knife use makes me want to...well, knife him sometimes.

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Roast - yes he will ask me a few questions and will do notes.
He will buy a sticky toffee pudding but if it’s absolutely necessary he will do it. It will takes time though as he never does baking - it’s my hobby.
He will do cleaning without any fuss.

Yes he can and does.

But it has taken YEARS to get to this stage. And I had to teach him how to cook from scratch.

I will raise my son to cook and clean.