Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

Will add , his mother is a bad cook so he used to do stuff at home so I guess it's the norm for him.

He will cook simple dinners , but wouldn't make pastry .
However he has made bread before using the kitchenaid to knead the dough .
He has made sultana fairy cakes one evening when he wanted something sweet but isn't a baker of cakes usually , and is messy in the kitchen .

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My DH is a much better cook than me.(I'm the Baker!) 🍰

DH is a good cook and loves cooking. He probably cooks 3 or 4 nights a week, more if he's not working. I don't think I cooked for 2 weeks over Christmas. (I did bake)
He always seems to use an enormous number of bowls, pans, or kitchen utensils, half of which seem unneccessary many of which are too big, or don't fit in the dishwasher. He's a lot less enthusiastic about clearing up or wiping spillages. I sometimes think the payoff of having someone cook is not worth it for the clean up operation.

He's not a great baker, so I wouldnt be confident about sticky toffee pudding. The last cake he made was served raw despite him asking my opinion, and me saying it wasn't cooked.He doesn't need or want my opinion for any savoury or main meals, but admits I'm a better baker.

If I could start again one rule I would have is whoever cooks cleans up too.

Yes, DP is an incredible cook. All manner of cuisines, he makes his own pasta and bread, and he's a great baker too.

I'm the one who can't cook without getting into a flap. I can just about follow a few simple recipes in roughly triple the time they say it will take, but I'm too much of a klutz to do it without some unfortunate spill or breakage, and if something unexpected goes wrong I'm very bad at keeping calm. (In the kitchen, at least - I can keep calm and problem-solve in other areas where I'm confident in what I'm doing but I don't really know what I'm doing in the kitchen other than trying to follow recipes to the letter.)

Dh is a much better cook than me and the kitchens spotless!

He could but I imagine there would be some fuss and quite a lot of questions. Just like I probably would if I tried to fix the boiler/rewire/fix a part on my car all of which he does. I generally do most of the cooking apart from when I’m at work and he generally does most of the DIY. Works for us.

he could cook but expects a big fuss over the outcome!

I enjoy cooking and I’m good at it – but even I would trash the place a little bit and loose my cool!

Dh's previous marriage, 3 kids, he probably cooked half a dozen times apart from basic bbqs. And by cooking I mean chicken nuggets and chips.

I wasn't having that so now, 17 years together, he can cook.

Yes. I find basic life skills and the ability to emotionally regulate, an absolute basic standard for a partner.

No. He probably can but he won't. He warmed us some Covent Garden soup in the microwave on Monday and the packets are still on the side. I would normally just bin them but I haven't this time to see what happens. Bit grim really.

Would be served resentfully on cold plates with various things being stone cold. He was never able to time things so would cook one thing then move on to the next rather than multi tasking. Would stare at his phone while one thing cooked rather than lay the table.

Would be served up with increasing anger if everyone didn’t run and sit down immediately. When I cooked he would often have to go for a lengthy toilet trip as soon as I announced the food was ready!

He just didn’t enjoy cooking. He’s an ex now anyway. Eats ready meals and take away left to himself.

Yes. He particularly enjoys cooking roast chicken (he does tidy up too).

MIL was a single parent who worked FT, so DH and BIL were encouraged to cook for themselves as teens.

Yes, he does 2 nights a week (he's away in the week for a couple of nights so this is proportional) and does some lunch things . He can make quite a few decent basics and gets better with practice. His range is ever increasing although his first attempt at a pudding might be a bit stessful. He'd learn though.

The only thing I get asked to help with is chopping onions as he really tears up badly! I also occasionally grate cheese if he asks but he's getting better at prepping.

My partner is an alright cook, he makes a pretty good roast and does it with no fuss. He really enjoys it and I don't so he mostly prepares our meals. I'm actually quite anxious and stressy in the kitchen so mostly he would rather not have my help and leave him to it. I tend to do all the washing up / clean up after as he hates that bit and I don't mind it so we've ended up with a chore sharing arrangement we're both quite happy with.

Nope😂 his time management skills in the kitchen are awful! Actually I remember when we were in our late teens I went over to his mums house so he could cook me dinner. It was steak and chips. He cooked the steak (which he has always been amazing at cooking btw!) and I got the chips about 25 mins after I finished the steak😂😂the mess gives me anxiety!! I'm in the kitchen behind him trying to clear as he goes and make sure there's a full plate of dinner all ready at the same time. Well we can't all be good at everything aye!

He will cook if I ask him too but I prefer to just do it myself☺️

Can the man cook yes, does he make a fuss yes not in a messy or praise me sense but that its an experiment. He is a scientist and when he cooks he views it as such, so he has the scales out and likes ‘kit’ he decided he wanted to make an authentic Spanish tortilla. So that was a special tortilla double frying pan arriving via Amazon. The 50 quid omelette as I christened it. I’m keeping a tally as to the cost of the omelette with each use of his special pan.

I remember him cooking a big roast dinner when DS was a week old for when my family visited. DS is a very decent cook taught by me from age 12.

Not 10 years ago but he can now. It takes practice managing the timings of everything, managing your own stress levels etc

Now there's a candidate for the Men We Find Attractive thread...

Nope my dh cooks zero in the house but I'm a good cook and shot it. But he does all the washing, ironing, DIY, Gardening and is responsible for cleaning the bathroom and doing the hoovering. So I'd rather do the cooking 🤣

I always think of Jay Rayner being asked if he can cook and saying "Of course I can-I'm an adult"

My husband can make a roast no problem, but he would never cook pudding, it's not his thing. I wouldn't expect him too either. I don't like making pudding either.

Mine does all the cooking, and he’s brilliant at it.
But he’s INCREDIBLY messy, makes the washing up such a huge job for me as he doesn’t rinse anything/wash as he goes…he’ll get the salt/herbs/spices/oils out and leave them on the side when finished, and I think, would it not have been just as easy to put them back in the cupboard?
And I always thank him for cooking a delicious meal, but never get thanked for doing the washing up after 🤣